Do Narcissists lie by pretending that incidents that have happened to people they know have also happened to them?

Answer 1

Yes, absolutely. This is the narcissist's way of playing victim and using their abuse to act the same way as their so-called "abusers" did to them. My mother, a histrionic narcissist, has always ranted and raved against her mother's maltreatment of her, exaggerating every single supposed episode to get the maximum amount of sympathy and attention. She once accused my aunt, who is one of the nicest and kindest people you could meet, of taking the wheels off my baby carriage and pushing it into the street and then telling the police that my mother had done this because she is "crazy". She went so far as to one time accuse a co-worker of stabbing her in the back because she was jealous - I mean literally STABBING her, and when we asked why there was no scar she became histrionic and accusatory, saying we don't believe her or love her. Meanwhile, my childhood was a whirlwind of chaos and abuse. It seemed she could never be happy unless some kind of a crisis was occurring, where she was the principal player. It took me years of therapy to realize the dynamics of my extremely abused and neglected childhood and the workings of her sick mind. One more thing -- the narcissist is ALWAYS right and God forgive those who try to have a differing opinion. You will be in HELL as the Narcissist never forgives, and NEVER forgets!! My own opinion is to GET AS FAR AWAY from this person as possible; your soul and sense of self is not worth losing to anyone, no matter how sick they are.