How can you discover you sexuality when you are a twelve year old boy if you are really worried about it?

Answer 1

It is probably safe to say that most twelve year olds are unsure of their sexuality, which is completely normal. To use a sporting analogy, you can't be sure whether you'll be a good running back, quarter back, pitcher, catcher, swimmer, runner or whatever, until you get into the game and start playing. A twelve year old has several years to go, learning how he or she responds to friends and sexual situations, before figuring out what his or her preferences may be. It should be noted that just because a young person reacts one way at age 12, this not a solid indicator of a similar response as he or she matures. Any child should be given the latitude to discover what or who he or she will be on their own. The end result will be a much happier and secure individual who is less likely to form an identity out of rebellion.

Answer 2

While there is some controversy about exactly when or how sexuality is determined, most experts acknowledge that it is rare for a twelve year old to be absolutely sure about whether they prefer boys and girls. There is often a period of time in a child's life where they experiment with friends of both genders. This exploration is often influenced by such factors as which friends are available and what they are willing to do or try, as well as familial influences which may include religious or societal parameters. What is for certain, is that a twelve year old is just starting out on their journey as sexual beings, and it would be dangerous to classify him or her as Straight, Gay, Lesbian or whatever, based solely upon the limited experiences they may have so early on. It is so easy to be confused by the many changes going on during this time in one's life, sexual identity doesn't need to be made more so by applying labels to something that is not fully formed or matured yet.

Answer 3

The problem is that the human body, absent societal influences, will react to any sexual stimulation. When teenagers, who are new to the entire concept of being sexual to begin with, are confronted with the fact that they may feel sexually stimulated by images of the same sex, or by being close to someone they really admire, it can be confusing. Even though society as a whole is becoming more used to homosexuality as a normal, acceptable state of being, there is now an enormous pressure for teenagers to define themselves as fully straight, gay or bi-sexual. While everybody has these types of feelings normally, not everyone reacts in the same way, and it is difficult to navigate your way through these strange emotions when your friends are as conflicted as you are. Don't "doubt" your sexuality, just give it time to sort itself out. Take some time to think about how things make you feel, and don't let anybody rush you into sexual situations if you're not ready. If you can find a friend or mentor that you can share your feelings with, they might be able to help you sort things out. Just be mindful of people who would seek to exploit your confusion.

Answer 4

My best answer, is try to find someone who is wondering the same thing. Try something with both sexes if you find you hate one then you are gay or straight. If you like both you are bisexual and there are no problems with either of them.

Answer 5

ABSOLUTELY. Many gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender youth struggle with their sexuality throughout adolescence and still into young adulthood, with their "coming out" announcement marking the end of a long road of self realization and coming to terms with their attractions and sexuality. However, this road begins far earlier in life, with many LGBT youth realizing that they're "different" as young as 5-6, and really wanting to know "why" at the onset of adolescence... right around 12 years old.

Love your son and support him... whatever direction life takes him. This is not a CHOICE he's making, this is just who he is, and he will definitely appreciate your support through this.