Does the Narcissist deliberately confuse premeditated tactics or is being confusing just an automatic reflex for him?

Answer 1

Confusion is a tactic that highly narcissistic people use to control. Narcissists are inherently inveterate liars (practiced and skilled.) They are highly skilled manipulators. True narcissists lack conscience, this in turn allows them to lie without missing a beat. Narcissists count on the fact that when they first meet someone the person does not know what they are. Most people are trusting right off the bat. Most people. including many psychologists and therapists, are just as gullable as anyone else. Many people with NPD seek out these professionals as tools to manupulate others. A narcissists perception of others is that they simply "don't know the difference." Narcissists when confronted will passionately deny, cry, and become enraged that someone has the audacity to confront them. You can show them video, or play them a recording of them saying or doing something they may claim that YOU fabricated it. A narcissist IS NEVER At Fault. Ultimately, the ability to confuse is just another toolbox or knee jerk tactic to control another. Inveterate liars can even make the absurd sound plausable when they lie. Reflection as a way of dealing with a narcissist will simply make them enraged. Rage tends to be the narcissists last defense. When a narcissist realizes they can no longer manupulate someone, the narcissist has no more use for that person. I think that they do it as a matter of course. It's a natural by product of who they are..... of their conflicting emotions and over valuation and devaluation process.... their outside activities and feelings of entitlement. They pull you in when they feel you're drifting then get conflicted about that and feel sick with the threat of intimacy. It may seem out of the blue, but there's rhyme and reason there. If they persue other sources.... they may pick fights to do that. It's WHO they are.... not something they DO to you in a personal hateful manner. That's why it's so confusing to be involved with them. They're constantly flipping and flopping..... until we're walking on eggshells and find wer're frightened that we're doing, even that, wrong. That really is a sad statement...and it makes me very very sad for myself but....that's pretty much how it goes if you're dependant on the N's moods and good will. Think Gaslighting and don't take it personally. Tremusan I think that they do it as a matter of course. It's a natural by product of who they are..... of their conflicting emotions and over valuation and devaluation process.... their outside activities and feelings of entitlement. They pull you in when they feel you're drifting then get conflicted about that and feel sick with the threat of intimacy. It may seem out of the blue, but there's rhyme and reason there. If they persue other sources.... they may pick fights to do that. It's WHO they are.... not something they DO to you in a personal hateful manner. That's why it's so confusing to be involved with them. They're constantly flipping and flopping..... until we're walking on eggshells and find wer're frightened that we're doing, even that, wrong. That really is a sad statement...and it makes me very very sad for myself but....that's pretty much how it goes if you're dependant on the N's moods and good will. Think Gaslighting and don't take it personally. Tremusan