How bad is it for a guy to control you?

Answer 1

Bad or good, it is better for a relationship if there is a partnership where kindness and interest in supporting each other's growth. Controlling behavior can deteriorate into verbal and physical abuse in time, and so it is seen as a red flag that you should get out of the relationship. You cannot ever measure up to the person's expectations. A good book to read on this is the Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans.