How can a twelve year old boy change his sexuality -if he REALLY wants to- without having to tell his parents or anyone else?

Answer 1

I recommend you read my answer to another question

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In my opinion, nobody should change their sexuality. Sexuality runs so deep in our psyche, it is not fair to try to force changes. Most of the time, people who say they want to change their sexuality are really obeying the rules of someone else who condemns them. Those people want to say that if sex is bad, the person is bad. The truth is, if you are good, sex is good. So just be a good person and don't worry about your sexual desire. It will take care of itself.

But since you asked, I'll advise you anyway. These are real methods used by psychiatrists. I think they are bogus torture techniques. The theory here is that sexual orientation is developed through masturbatory conditioning. The pleasure of orgasm "teaches" us to associate pleasure with a certain kind of fantasy. If you thought of girls while masturbating, as time went on you'd find yourself oriented towards girls. If you thought of boys, you'd be oriented towards boys. This therapy is supposed to adjust this inner orientation by taking pleasure away from the "bad fantasies" and putting them with the "good fantasies." Then, when you are feeling horny, your mind will naturally think of girls. Finally, if your fantasy life is proper, you will act proper. At least that is the theory, which as I said is bogus. But I'll let you decide, since it is your life.

According to this theory, the problem for you is that you've got hung up on the wrong kind of image. Instead of associating pleasure with girls, you've associated it with something else.

We have two approaches: orgasmic reconditioning and satiation therapy. With the first, the pleasure is united with good fantasies. With the second, pleasure is removed from the bad fantasies. Over time, so the story goes, you should associate pleasure with appropriate fantasies, and non-pleasure with inappropriate fantasies.

I suggest alternating these two methods each time you masturbate, for a period of six weeks. Before (or soon after) you masturbate, write down in a log the following information:

1. The date and time

2. How many orgasms you attained that masturbation session.

For each orgasm record

2a. Which method you used (orgasm reconditioning or satiation therapy).

2b. What fantasies or other materials (images, videos) you used.

2c. Rate each fantasy on a scale of 1-5, 1 being boring, 5 being awesome.

2d. In the case of orgasm reconditioning, mark whether you masturbated to orgasm with the wrong fantasy (failure), or to the right fantasy (success).

2e. In the case of satiation therapy, write down how long you masturbated to the wrong fantasy, and whether you orgasmed to the wrong fantasy (failure) or to the right fantasy (success).

2f. Rate each orgasm on a scale of 1-5, 1 being boring, 5 being awesome.

If you did not attain orgasm,

3. Mark down why you did not attain orgasm.

This information will enable you to tell if the therapy had any objective results over the 6 week period. You will want to find the following trend: less pleasure associated with the bad fantasies , and more pleasure associated with the good ones. If you do not find this trend, the therapy failed.

Never masturbate to orgasm regarding fantasies you are trying to get rid of. If you start masturbating to the bad fantasies, stop or do the orgasmic reconditioning method. When you are doing satiation therapy, as you near orgasm with the bad fantasies, switch to the good fantasies. Never orgasm to bad fantasies.

Finally, once you have masturbated to orgasm 100 times using these methods, and found it to be a complete failure, stop thinking your fantasies are bad, or that they have to change. You are who you are, and you have to live with yourself the way you are. Make the best of what life has given you. It's your penis, not your moms or your dads or your pastors.

http://www.medindia.net/patients/patientinfo/sexual-deviance-therapies.htm

Orgasmic reconditioning: In this behavior therapy masturbation plays a central role. The client is instructed to masturbate to his usually desired fantasy and when orgasm is imminent he is to switch to more acceptable fantasies particularly at the moment of masturbatory orgasm so that he may get conditioned to sexual arousal from socially acceptable behaviors.

Satiation therapy: In this technique too masturbation plays a central role. The client is encouraged to masturbate to orgasm while fantasizing on acceptable sexual situations. Immediately after orgasm he/she is instructed to continue masturbating while switching to his/her usually desired fantasy. The idea behind this technique is to experience reduced sexual arousal to the unwanted stimuli.