There is no forgiving him. If he puts his own kids aside for someone else he doesn't care. So I wouldn't forgive him.
yes
yes it is normal
Your husband might have meant that he didn't actually like his affair partner and he had strong feelings about hating her. Just cross your fingers!
No. He lied to you about love. Sure, you can forgive him, but that won't fix what he did.
It depends. you have to decide if you will be better with him or without him, and whether or not you are prepared to forgive him.
I'm afraid not, because the wife will have the lingering notion and it will affect her ability to perform to her husband. Two scenario for this one is, if this couple stays together, the wife is the one that will experience the flashback of what her husband did. She will wonder how her husband made love to his affair partner. She will wonder how his affair partner satisfy her husband. This is one thing that most husband who had the affair never thought of, how it will affect and destroy his wife.
A hole in your heart followed by lies, just try to forgive him and confront him directly for information.
Time to end the marriage and move on to someone who will be a real husband.
Questions like these, usually just bring out an opinion. (yes or no) We come with an instruction manual, just like your washer and dryer. Jesus said to forgive, best answer is to forgive him. ANSWER: It all depend to what kind of Internet affair your husband did. If your husband never met this woman face to face, then follow what your heart say. If the two of them already met in person, that's when you need to talk to your husband of what's going on with him. Ask him why he needs to find another woman on line to talk to if he can come to you. Your husband is having issue about himself, talk to him. You can forgive him all the time when he make a mistake, but the question is will he stop doing what he is doing now if you forgive him. They say; the truth will set us free, so you need to know.
Gosh no, how can she justify the pain that she gave to her husband if she still contact him. If this is what she is doing, for God sake just get a divorce so both can move on. Just like when the husband is the one that had the affair, if he keeps contact with his mistress what do you think the wife will feel? Either way husband or wife that has the affair needs to be honest, and never contact the affair partner..
You can't work on the issues in your marriage with your husband until he's a full partner in the marriage again. This is impossible unless he ends the affair completely--which he hasn't done. An affair doesn't truly end when the sex ends, it ends when the affair partners cease contact with eachother. Keeping in contact only feeds the emotional high both parties got from the affair. Unfortunately, this also sounds like gaslighting---your husband and the affair partner are claiming to be only friends, while there is still an emotional (and possibly sexual) relationship going on without your knowledge. Your husband isn't making a choice here; he's simply hoping to keep both his marriage and his relationship with the affair partner. You need to make the best choice for yourself at this time. Privately go to an attorney, look through your finances and have an honest talk with your husband. Demand, not ask, that he make a choice---either he becomes a full partner in the marriage by going to counseling with you and completely ending contact with the affair partner (even if it means changing jobs or moving), or he needs to leave the marital residence ASAP and expect a divorce.
2% chance of a successful marriage after marrying your affair partner