How can you get your girlfriend back if you did everything possible for her and she said she loved you but doesn't seem to anymore and now she has a new boyfriend but you still love her?

Answer 1

I am sorry you hurt so much and I hope the way she has treated you doesn't change your views on other young woman. She became complacant with you because you did treat her so well and I know that statement sounds strange. Some young women seem to be attracted to guys that treat them with an air of arrogance, cheating, etc. Some young women like a mystery surrounding a guy and the silly thing of it all is, these young woman feel deep inside that they can "tame him". This sort of behavior has been going on for decades. Don't give up though, because there are some wonderful young women out there that would love to be dating a guy like you. You just haven't found the right girl. She has made her choice and found another boyfriend. As much as it is breaking your heart it's time for you to move on and start dating again. Don't EVER sit around and let someone rule your life because they broke your heart. Hearts DO mend, and yours will too in time. I loved someone once that I ended up marrying. I couldn't believe they had changed so much and he used me, mentally/physically abused me. I realized in that 3 1/2 years of hell, that HE really hadn't changed, but I had! Where had the young, independent woman gone? I had been so caught up in love for the sake of it, I simply lose myself and didn't allow myself to see the danger signs. Was I wrong? I don't think so. I think life is all about learning, making mistakes and learning from those mistakes. If we don't feel pain, we can't feel joy, and if we don't have our hearts ache on occasion then we truly don't know if we are honestly loved or not. You're young and you aren't any different than thousands of other guys out there that have their hearts broken. You sound like a smart and very nice young guy and I do believe that you're not a quitter, but a fighter. Fight! Get on with your life and you don't need her. Feel free! Enjoy it and experience more of life. Date and before you know it, you'll find that very special girl when you least expect in. I did. I found a wonderful man and we've been married for 34 years. Good luck Marcy