My theory: The lying is simply a side effect or symptom of another problem. The key in solving this issue is determining what the underlying problem is. However, I can guarantee that there is a degree of pride and shame involved and that lying is a way of protecting the child from dealing with the shame. Lying is perhaps a way of coping.
Many children lie. It's usually part of the norm.
Children lie for many reasons. Sometimes they would rather lie than receive punishment for something they have done wrong. Other times the little stinkers lie because it's easier and they can be bone lazy. My husband is 60 and he can tell me little white lies even to this day. Does it make sense? Of course it doesn't, but, there are worse things. Be careful! Although hopefully this isn't happening to your child, some children can be sexually abused or at least harassed in that department and tell a parent only to be told they are lying or the parent completely ignores them.
If your sons lies are little ones, then don't worry so much about it. Although your sons lying is certainly agitating and exasperating to you, start taking privileges away from him. If he lies in front of friends, then don't hesitate to confront your son in front of his friend.
Kids can be taught not to lie at a very early age. As someone who works with problem kids I'll give you what works for me: DON'T wait until it's a major lie to address it. Address each and every non truth. That works well because it's usually something innocuous (seems too little to bother with) and you have a very good chance of knowing the truth for SURE. That's important because there is nothing worse than not being believed when you are being truthful.
Some people may balk at my next suggestion: to have more frequent "learning achievements," you kind of "set him up" with small situations where you know the facts, and you let him exercise his choice to tell the truth or tell an untruth (sounds better than "lie"). In EACH and EVERY situation, no matter how minor, you "nip it in the bud" and deal with it immediately. Tell your 11 year old about the importance of being truthful, and that when he gets older he doesn't want to be a person that people routinely don't believe or trust. Talk about the fact that, in the long run, being untruthful really gets you nowhere. Remain calm and don't yell at him, or make him feel guilty and down on himself. Use a simple REWARD/PUNISHMENT system. When you set up a situation and he chooses to be truthful, give lots of verbal praise, and allow him a simple privilege that he would enjoy. When he chooses to be untruthful, review the "rules" and expectations, remain calm and matter-of-fact, and explain that the untruth has "cost" him a privilege; ANYTHING that he enjoys doing will work. Let him know that all is not lost and when he is truthful, he has more chances to earn privileges. Let him know you are a little disappointed, that you still love him very much, and that you know he is smart and that pretty soon he will be "earning" all the time. THEN, be CONSISTENT, STRUCTURED, AND DISCIPLINED. It will be a lot of work in the beginning, but soon you will see the payoff.
I suspect he knows almost every time he is untruthful. He's just really getting good at it. That's why you have no time to waste, and also why "he's only eleven" bothers me so much. If he gets through puberty and is still being untruthful, your chances of recovery drop DRAMATICALLY. I know this is long, but it's as short as I could make it and still be useful.
You stated that he lies constantly and doesn't even realize it. Perhaps it would be appropriate to get some advice from a well respected child psychologist who could evaluate the situation and help determine if there is a more severe problem in development. He's not far from the teen years when it may be too late for behavior modification. You should ask your pediatrician for a referral and look for professional reviews of local doctors online.
maybe this is a disease but if he doesn't realize it why don't you see a doctor i myself am not an expert but i recommend you do it
You are prevented from doing your job well.
They just realize that you are humans ... and we are here to help
Change your shampoo, conditioner, and body wash! :) Hope it help
I realize that you can't think of a sentence on your own, so I shall help you. I hope that you will then realize all of your dreams.
People can start to overcome an aversion to unwanted help by accepting, and even asking for, a little bit of help with small things. Then, over time, increasing the amount of help they accept. They can remain in charge of the situation or project they receive help on so they will feel they are doing most of it themselves. Over time this can help the person to realize that help is not bad and they can still do things and be in control even with help.
Practise enlghtened selfishness,and say "no,you cannot help"
Not constantly. It was Simon who mostly helped Ralph build the shelters
Yes, this is an eating disorder and I suspect you think so too. Go get help or help the person who does this go get help.
They help protect the camels eyes from the constantly blowing wind and sandstroms.
Honestly for me i would do them, if someone is asking like your mom or wife then they are asking for a reason. Sometimes people are exhausted and you dont even realize it all they need is a little extra help and they are asking you for it then you should do it, if it happens at a job then again do it because it means whoever was supposed to isnt doing it and you are needed. Regardless if you are asked even though its not your turn its someones way of asking you to please help them. I would do the nice thing and help out. The person asking appreciates it way more than you realize.
people don't realize everything counts. even if its as small as recycling or as big as ending the war in iraq. so basically if you do something that good for people you are helping the world.
after Lincolns speech, the Gettysburg address, it helped America realize that it wasn't a ton of individual states...it was a unified nation!
You just need to learn to trust in him, and to live fearlessly. Even though bad things happen in life, you also need to realize that good things happen everyday ( and there are usually more good things happening that bad things.). And you need to realize that you can make these good things happen by just being you, because that is the way that God meant it to be. He doesn't want you to be unhappy, he just wants you to realize how special and unique you are. And maybe if you never even had social anxiety, you would have never taken out this time to realize what a special person you are, and how much you can accomplish.
Bananas help to calm your metabolism.
She constantly prays to her Son to Save us from Hell.
If a guy is always looking at you but looks away when you look at him, if he smiles at you constantly, if he tries to be close to you, or even tries to pass by you and maybe touches your arms a little. The probability is he likes you.
what does annimarie realize after she heard peters news in the book number the stars
Like any other addiction, it interferes with everyday life. You begin to constantly crave the drug and pay less attention to your wife and kids. They try to help you and nothing changes because you aren't willing to help yourself; eventually you could possibly lose your family to the drug and they will leave you to deal with it yourself. The best thing to do is realize you have a problem and help yourself.
This is to explain what happening. When I pit the game into the drive it does not even realize it is there, the disk spins but only a small amount, it does not give an error or anything, it acts like there is no game in there at all, please help
To help people and businesses throughout the world realize their full potential
then he is just born a natural flirt and cant help it
That America was not indiviual states but a unified nation.
Be nice to him...try to comfort him.....listen to him...say i love more often...help out more....maybe even make him breakfest....don't ask for stuff constantly.....don't mention work...thank him for stuff....don't get in his way...don't beg...encourage him.... thats what will help....