How can you help your partner to achieve erection?

Answer 1

This can depend on the age of the man. If your partner is young (twenties or younger), you probably won't have to do much more than look at him! Young men often have erections when they don't even want them, so there's no difficulty there. With older men, as the hormones settle down into a normal balance, an erection occurs most often with sexual stimulation, and less and less in unwanted situations. Here are some things you can do to help stimulate your lover: * Set the mood. Sex isn't too sexy if the tv set is blaring, you're dressed in your oldest clothes and haven't bathed in days, and he's worried about the bills and his job. Make sure the time is right, then put on some soft music. Get rid of the other distractions (getting a babysitter works wonders if you have kids). Make sure it is very obvious that you are putting him in the spotlight and you are ready for some lovin! * Talk to him. Most men are turned on by sexy talk. Tell him what you want him to do to you. Tell him how much you want him. Tell him how you feel when he touches you. Tell him what you enjoy and what you want to do to him. One hint: leave the four-letter words off unless he asks you to use them. A lot of men are turned off by a woman who uses obscene language - instead, talk about your feelings and how his moves affect you. * Touch. You should enjoy touching your partner - if not, I reccommend stopping right here and getting some couples therapy fast! Experiment with one another - find out exactly what each of you enjoys the most. Try different moves, different styles, different lubrications, different positions. Healthy sex is supposed to be fun. * Try new things. You should be open to new ideas with each other. I'm not talking about whips and chains, here - go buy some of those flavored lubricants at the pharmacy, or try out some textured condoms. Get a few mild sex toys and see if you like them. Watch some adult movies together. Try some sexy clothing (both of you). Just keep an open mind and try some new things. * Be visual. Men are most easily stimulated by sights. Wear some sexy outfits. Show a hint of skin in an unexpected place (where do you think women's slitted skirts originated?). Pose for him. Eat provocatively (or just put a finger into your mouth and suck on it briefly). The idea is to give him a sudden visual stimulation. One note: if your partner has trouble getting an erection, do not make him feel bad about this. Every man has times when he's just not going to get an erection - stress, illness, even some medication can interfere with the erection process. You will only make it worse by making fun of him or putting pressure on him to perform. Be sympathetic, and suggest other activities - oral sex or just cuddling can be just as satisfying. Or maybe he's really just not in the mood right now. Sex after the Senior Years: men can still enjoy sex no matter how old they are! The erections might take a little longer, and maybe they're not quite as firm as they were when he was middle-aged, but the parts usually still work. And even if there is some physical difficulty involved, it can be overcome - modern medicine has invented many "helpers" for erectile difficulties.