It seems that the real question you should ask yourself is, what is it that I seek in him and is he able to give it to me regardles of what he did with someone else.
you can move on but you will never get over it or trust them ever again!
I had her move out. I told her I felt betrayed and that I could no longer trust her. And without trust there is no foundation to further build anything on.
People are only human and make mistakes so if this is the first time your spouse has cheated on you and they are willing to go to marriage counseling to learn tools to deal with problems in the marriage then yes, there are marriages that survive an affair and end up being stronger for it.
Use your feelings to determine who you think is trustable (I know. . . it's hard, isn't it?) then trust them. But do not ever trust your husband, again. You really do not have to show more than one time that you are untrustworthy.
The most important thing to do if you want to survive infidelity is regain the trust back to your relationship. There is an article titled "How to regain the trust after an affair" posted further down this page under Sources and Related Links.
If you had an affair, your spouse must have had a very broken heart, and can not love you again, or trust you. what you do for pleasure with someone other than your spouse causes your spouse a great deal of pain, that's why it is usually frowned upon.
You Don't. Sorry but it's time to move on. If the person cheated once they will cheat again the moment they regain your trust. Find someone who is serious about you and only you. You will never trust the person again and always wonder what they are doing behind your back. That is torture. Move on.
An affair is a betrayal of trust, and it is very hard to be comfortable and intimate with someone (your husband or anyone else) when your trust has been betrayed.
You can't- Start digging.
Lifestyle Magazine - 2001 How to Survive an Affair 20-19 was released on: USA: 7 June 2009
You don't! That is the bad part of the aftermath of an affair - trust is destroyed, rightly so - it can take years to rebuild and some couples are never able to make it back to where they were before the affair happened. It is completely OK for you to distrust him and he needs to just accept this and better have all the right answers when you are feeling insecure and need him to tell you again and again, that it will never happen again!
When your husband has an affair and apologizes this is not good enough to fully trust him because he decided on his own to break that bond of trust you both once had for each other by having the affair. Make him earn your trust back and if he really loves you and is not a man that has had more than one affair then seek marriage counseling to help give you the tools to make your marriage stronger.