This is something that has to be done straight out, face to face, and try and keep your cool. Either way you two are going to have to talk about things to decide what is going to go on from that point. Listen to him as well as let him know how you feel - the best thing you can do is try and deal with this as maturily and calmly as possible as yelling, fighting and carrying on will not get this dealt with and put behind you as best as you can. You will have to decide if your going to stay together or seek counselling together and try to work on things. Just say you know what hes up to and you cant carry on like that anymore an you're ready to move on! This kind of situation is never easy. There will be the likelihood that tempers will flare, which never works at getting to the heart of the problem. Still, you really do need to confront him. It will not be easy, however you should try to approach him in as non-threatening a way as possible. You will have to use open, honest, sincere, and direction communication. Try not to let your emotions distract you from what is being said. Listen, digest, think about it, and try to respond in the most appropriate way. If he gets defensive (which he probably will get), angry, or ranting, just let him go on and do not respond. Let him wear himself out. Sometimes saying nothing initially will make him think about the consequences of his actions, or other things that may shed some light on the issue. As such, you will have to be ready for whatever the answer is. You will have to find out if the relationship is strictly platonic, or more personal, and will have to deal with it. If it turns out that the relationship is personal, sexual, etc., only you can make the decision if the marriage is worth saving. If it is personal, the question also will be, "can you live with it, and will you ever be able to trust him again."
I am the husband of KR Vijaya. Though the society do not know, We married. we keep it a secret because I am half her age. that is the fact. My identity is kept secret. But close friends know it.
How can he keep a secret from you that is about you? If it's about you, you must already know it. Not a best friend or anyone can make him do anything. He chooses to do whatever he does. He must not be very good at it if you know he is doing it.
When she divorces her husband!
#1 You are her husband.
if its the biggest secret,how would nyone know it? by the way i think its about her x husband
Ask the other woman if she says no then he is if she says yes then she is also. Why dont you just dump your husband and then you will know.
I suppose it really depends on that woman's personality and their confidence level. One woman might while another might because they know that their husband is essentially doing it for the pleasure rather than the fantasy (as most might want their husband's fantasies to be only about them and their sexual relationship).
Your kids and my sister's husband bear no relationship to each other. It is extremely unlikely that they even know each other.
she's scared she might not have a chance with your husband again.
ANSWER: By confronting her face to face and tell her what's going on. Letting her know can make the difference if the other woman has a soul and knows how to feel a pain of betrayal. I do know that husband suppose to be the one who needs to solve your pain, but by the sound of your letter, I figure he doesn't want anything to do with it, am I right? Keep in my mind that the other woman might say, she didn't owe you no explanation because it was your husband who start the affair, which is true. Make sure all the things that you want to tell her needs to be understood. You might found out this woman might not know the real truth of your relationship with your husband.
between your grandaughter husband, and you? if you have a granddaughter husband, you may not want to make that public. i don't know if that's legal.
Yes. It's comforting as a woman to know your husband suppors you.