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Because Okonkwo is afraid of being like his father, he refuses to show emotions and change his views when the white men take over. When he murders one of the kotma (kinsmen who have joined forces with the white men) he realizes all hope for rebellion is lost and that in the end he failed. So he hangs himself. Also his son converts to Christianity, he gets exiled from the clan for seven years, and he gets arrested. He also dishonors the tribes ancestors and their earth goddess Ani many times over causing reoccurring shame in and on his family.