How do you confront a spouse who may be having an emotional affair?

With emotional affairs you have to be careful not to accuse the person of cheating. You need to sit down with your spouse and start COMMUNICATING. Ask your spouse what is bothering them and how both of you can improve on your relationship. Take it slow and easy. People have emotional affairs (or even affairs) because they are missing something in their marriage. Perhaps lack of attention on your part. I am going through this very thing with a girlfriend of mine. She is 47 years old and her husband is 43. They have no children. She is an extremely energetic and vibrant woman, while her husband is a laid-back guy, loves sports, goes out with his pals to play hockey and now is into baseball and reserves very little time for her. She expressed to me (I'm her best friend) that she felt LONELY! She said when her husband was around he didn't want to talk about anything interesting, plan for holidays, go biking with her and was always anxious to get out the door to play hockey or just sit in front of the TV or computer. NO he's not cheating on her because my husband and I go to some of his hockey games. It appears that both my friends have grown into other interests and left nothing for each other. I told her to communicate with him which she hasn't yet. Now she has found this nice fellow (also married, but his wife lives in the States) and they have much in common. They are just friends. They go bike riding together and sit and chat and he considers her intelligent, etc., and tells her so. She laps this up because she needs to hear these things and unfortunately her husband should be telling her these things and not her male friend. She has talked to me about it since and I was honest in saying that this could start out as just friends, but she'd better be careful because she could be faced with falling in love or cheating. It's playing with fire. Her husband knows she is seeing this fellow to go bike riding and hasn't got the hint he should be spending more time with his wife. He looks at it as "freeing up his time" to play more hockey and baseball. Start communicating with your spouse before it's too late! Good luck
With emotional affairs you have to be careful not to accuse the person of cheating. You need to sit down with your spouse and start COMMUNICATING. Ask your spouse what is bothering them and how both of you can improve on your relationship. Take it slow and easy. People have emotional affairs (or even affairs) because they are missing something in their marriage. Perhaps lack of attention on your part. I am going through this very thing with a girlfriend of mine. She is 47 years old and her husband is 43. They have no children. She is an extremely energetic and vibrant woman, while her husband is a laid-back guy, loves sports, goes out with his pals to play hockey and now is into baseball and reserves very little time for her. She expressed to me (I'm her best friend) that she felt LONELY! She said when her husband was around he didn't want to talk about anything interesting, plan for holidays, go biking with her and was always anxious to get out the door to play hockey or just sit in front of the TV or computer. NO he's not cheating on her because my husband and I go to some of his hockey games. It appears that both my friends have grown into other interests and left nothing for each other. I told her to communicate with him which she hasn't yet. Now she has found this nice fellow (also married, but his wife lives in the States) and they have much in common. They are just friends. They go bike riding together and sit and chat and he considers her intelligent, etc., and tells her so. She laps this up because she needs to hear these things and unfortunately her husband should be telling her these things and not her male friend. She has talked to me about it since and I was honest in saying that this could start out as just friends, but she'd better be careful because she could be faced with falling in love or cheating. It's playing with fire. Her husband knows she is seeing this fellow to go bike riding and hasn't got the hint he should be spending more time with his wife. He looks at it as "freeing up his time" to play more hockey and baseball. Start communicating with your spouse before it's too late! Good luck