How do you deal when a narcissistic man ends the relationship?

Answer 1

I think you perform an online search, "uncover the truth about narcissists" and educate yourself. Its amazing what you find out about them and how easy it is to get over it once you know.

Understand that they are devoid of feelings, that a narcissist is an empty shell and that they are not real. That will help you get over the love feelings that were so intense. After all, how can you be in love with a person who isn't real. Accept what has happened. Take your life back. Know that the best revenge is to move on and be successful in your own life.

ALWAYS listen to your intuition when dating a narcissist, the RED FLAGS that tell you that maybe perhaps they are not "quite what they seem". "NO CONTACT" is the best solution. I think its important to remember that you fell in love with a mirage: the charming image that he first showed you and the promises he made. That mirage was not reality, and you didn't know it. You can forgive yourself because it's not your fault you were tricked.

Most important- forget about the narcissist, grow up, stop chasing delusions and take control of your own life. Generally, a person who cannot "stop loving" a narcissist, who has hurt them repeatedly, has their own issues. Perhaps you should speak with a mental health professional.

Answer 2

This is what I did. I was involved with a narcissist for over a year and after I finally smartened up and realized what a horrible person he was I just cut off all contact. I walked away.

Just walk away. Read everything you can get your hands on regarding NDP that way you won't think about going back. If he calls and says he misses you it's because there is no one else in his life at that time. Don't get excited and think he's had a change of heart. Narcissists don't have hearts, they have agendas.

Keep yourself busy with work, friends and family and eventually the hurt and anger you feel will subside.

The only thing that mends hurt or a broken heart is time so give yourself time to grieve and get yourself back. I'm sure you gave your heart and soul to this parasite so now it's time for you.

I spent some time alone to reflect and I realized that he is poison. He sucked the life from me and took away my pride and self esteem. Keep away from this person and I promise you your pride and self esteem will return.

Remember no contact is the best rule. If you truly do want to move on after your horrible experience with this narcissist do not answer their texts, e mail or voice mail because you will only put yourself back at square one.

Keep positive people only in your life and breathe.

It will get better. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hold on to your hat!!!! And if you have children... prepare for the worst and hope for the best!!! No, just prepare for the worst... I'm living with the nightmare as we speak. We were together for 16 1/2 years and after his continued 2 year affair with a married, elementary school teacher (I know!) I had to finally get out. Since I left 8 months ago he introduced his "girlfriend" to our children only 3 weeks after I left all the while trying to seduce me back under his spell. He puts the kids in the middle by calling me psycho, and finally the devil (in front of them) because I am no longer the children's mother because I don't deserve to be their mother. All the while his "teacher" laughs and says nothing to deter him. We are in a custody battle because I feel he is unfit and incapable of being a good role model; morally or emotionally for our children. He calls the police on me - unfounded - every chance he gets. And is finally a joke amongst the police department. He will NOT communicate or speak to me regarding the children, division of property or the divorce. He has our oldest call on his behalf even though I've tried and tried to communicate to him through emails and texts. There is nothing this man will not do to try and make my life an even bigger living hell than the one I lived with him. And as long as he has a breath in him he will continue as long as he knows he can upset me. You see... I am still his narcissistic supply; he gets off on making misery in my life and for the moment, until he has his current "mark" in his web, I will continue to be the focus of his torture. BE STRONG! If you maintain your vigilant course, he will, of no choice of his own, bury himself. He thinks he's smart. Be smarter! He is losing his control of me and he does not like that. That will be his undoing... he's not as intelligent as he thinks. Educate yourself. Read about the signs.

Answer 4

You need to get some therapy to learn why you are attracted to people who treat you badly. There are also support groups for people dealing with narcissists. There is a lot of help out there, but you have to go look for it.