How do you get rid of a pathological liar?

Answer 1

Healing from someone that is a pathalogical liar is the same as any marriage gone bad for various reasons and it's tough on the person who did nothing wrong. You didn't do anything wrong and marriage IS a gamble. If we never know ourselves 100% (and we don't) then how can we always be expected to choose the right mate or friends. We have to take chances. You took a chance and it didn't work out.

I was married to a person who didn't know the 5 letter word "truth" and he was a womanizer. My heart was broken and I felt like "I" had failed in our marriage. It just takes time to get over the heartbreak and it's a grieving process. We can feel like failures for not sticking it out, or "what did I do wrong." Sit and write down the good and bad about your marriage. What you did or didn't do in that marriage and write the same list regarding your spouse. Then put that list away for a week to 10 days and haul it back out and read it. You'll have your answer! Then burn the list! Actually put the paper in the fireplace, stove, whatever, and watch that sucker burn and believe it or not it will set you free.

You can't control other people. If you tried your very best in the marriage and your partner refused to seek help for their problem or they cheated on you then feel sorry for them, not mad at them. Get your own place, meet other friends, go on a vacation (if you can) to clear your head, and start over. I always believe that sometimes we have to go through painful situations in our lives (sort of like peeling an onion one layer at a time) to find what is good for us. I ended up getting my own apartment, living on my own, working hard, having fun with my friends and getting to know myself and what "I" was all about. I was surprised to find I had never given myself a chance (or ever really though about it) as to who and what I was. I ended up meeting and marrying a wonderful man and our 33rd Wedding Anniversary is coming up in August.

Walk away from this person. Believe it or not you have learned something from this mess and take what you have learned and move forward. NEVER let anyone sway you from what your hopes and dreams are for your future. You're stronger than you think!

Good luck Marcy

Answer 2

First of all you need to find a support group so you can talk to others like you. If you're unable to do this in person (most people aren't), I'm sure you can find one on MSN or Yahoo support groups.

Secondly, get to your local library and find as much info as you can on the subject -- any self-help book about others in your situation WILL help you! Read as much as you can about others who have been where you are -- people who have recovered after such a bad experience. It will not only give you ideas on how to heal but it will also HELP you to heal.

Lastly, remember that YOU are NOT At Fault. You are not a bad person or stupid because you were maniuplated. You were conned. And believe me, it happens to the best of us.

Good Luck!

Hey i have the same problem, except my uncle gets manipulated by my cousin and im always at fualt my uncle says. my uncle dosent like us on his laptop computer right? so my cousins not allowed on my computer either, to be fair. So my cousin walks over wen im playing a game on hard and im winning, he puts his face in front of me pushes me off the computer and kills my guy, i walk over wen hes playing a game and wav my hands in front of he screen so does my friend and say how do you like it? You don't do you! we keep doing it till h dies ad hs t start all over, hesays im telling my daddy that you were on the PC and he wl believe me over you! I said i dnt care its not true so why don't you jut shut the heck up and sit down huh? he sticks his tongue out at me. my uncle never believes me and my cousins the golden child and he said he would have killed himself a long time ago if he was my father so i wll nevercall him uncle again, hope hes happy.

Answer 3

I have a family member who chronically lies and is so good at it they actually end up believing what they have said and it is often very hard to catch them out, but know that this is a disease and the only way to live with a person like this is for them to get psychiatric help. But be aware they may never be 'cured' and in this case it is up to you if you can carry on living your life with the lies. It would be harder with a husband but if you do decide to separate and remain friends just remember to take what they say as a grain of salt and enjoy the time you have together and not converse to deeply.

AnswerI believe that it matters how much you love this person and the importance of what is being lied about. There's a big difference in weather they bragged to their friends back in the day that they dated a specific person or if they have or they're currently out there committing crimes. If you truly love your partner and aren't in any danger, then you should work with them. Join them with psychological help. Now if your partner is lying about crimes and/or violence, then cut your losses and get out.

Always remember, Your importance of an answer might not be as important as you think it is. Just an example, you might remember having a great deal of fun at a specific time with someone. You might remember it moment by moment where the people(s) that you were with, might not ever think about it ever again. How important are the questions?

AnswerI agree, if you can, just get over it and know that your spouse isn't trustworthy. Don't fight about it, it won't help anything. You can try to get him/her therapy but I've found my spouse just lied to the therapist and said I was the one with the problem and the therapist didn't know who to believe. If you just can't get over it, then there is only one option, divorce :)

Answer 4

to be honest i dont think you can but....by not asking them anything about anything and doing everything yourself, gives no room for them to lie about any thing u ask them to say or do. is this really a way to live though? my sis is and an x friend, got them out of my life, if they wanna take themselves down, i refuse to lt them take me with them, they cant change

Answer 5

Stop disclosing details, avoid them, ignore them and slowly leave them