How do you get a guy out of your mind?

Answer 1

The simplest answer I can give you for this question is...you DON'T! When someone has touched you in such a way that you have loved them, spent time with them, or even if you NEVER had any relationship at all with them, but just a huuugee crush, trying to "Get them out of your head" is futile. There are some questions you need to ask yourself. WHY does this person take up so much of my brain space? WHAT have they done to make me SO attached to them? WHERE did this "attachment" start? HOW can you move on if this is not the person for you, or if you have been informed that this person does not want to be with you. Once you have answered your OWN questions I have posted above, you might be able to begin HEALING from this attachment. I experienced this first hand when I was younger. I would get obsessed with a guy, a boyfriend or even a guy who did not even know me! I NEVER learned how to get them out of my head, I just moved on to the next guy, relationship, or crush. I WISH I knew then what I have learned through years of therapy NOW. When somebody is SO important to us that we spend so much time thinking of them, we have to look at our lives under a microscope. Do we have other activities, friends, and hobbies? Do we have a history of growing up with an Alcoholic or drug addict in the house? (Children of Alcoholics and Addicts are much more prone to these type of attachment issues) HOW can we keep this person in our memory, and mabye visit that memory once in awhile, but not DWELL on it. We have to, in effect, almost GRIEVE for ourselves, if we are to move past this. We have to act as if this person has left our life. In effect, to have a "memorial" service, (mabye write a letter, then throw it into the ocean, or some other symbolic way of saying goodbye) If we CAN talk to this person it is always the best thing. As long as their is no anger or anymosity that will only make things worse. It is ALWAYS the right choice to express our feelings rather than keep them bottled up, and it is NEVER a bad idea to seek the help of a therapist, (not because you are crazy) but because they can help you improve the quality of life for you, and assist you in preventing obsession or unhealthy attachment to the next person you date, or become "crushed" on! I am free to talk if you want or need to. Ashes2Ashes73

Answer 2

Some girls are easy to forget if they were the ones to break up with you. I should know I was cheated on or dumped 20 times by 69 girls. It was easy to get those out my head. If you can't do your best try to get her back don't be a wimp. It always works if you hire another girl to like pretend to be with you and your ex is watching she will remember those times and want you back.

Answer 3

It's not easy, but try to focus on the other important this in your life, keep yourself busy for a while. But don't try to forget him/her to fast. Take some time to mourn the loss of your relationship. it's important for you to heal right now, and that can only happen if you allow yourself to feel the pain and the memories. Don't be in a rush, it's gonna take some time. But it will get easier. You're not gonna forget him/her completely, that's not possible. allow yourself some time to deal. It will get easier.

Answer 4

Well I like this boy but my friends don't want me to be with him because he is kinda like a player and told me to take him off my mind so just don't think of him hang out with your friends don't talk about him and also don't look at him if you do well your just gonna start thinking of him all the time.huh I just don't uderstand why my friends protect me all the time I like a cute boy

Answer 5

This is a very popular question and personally it is really hard to get someone you have strong feelings for out of your head because well...you like them but to try to get them out of your head is really hard but a good trick is to involve yourself in allot of physical activities like Basket-ball ,swimming, School team, or a club. Then you must concentrate on what is going on and for that period of time you will not think about her hopefully:) Good luck this is a really hard thing to do so If you succeed then you are awesome!

Answer 6

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If you can't get someone out of your head it could be because they are in your heart. If it's infatuation, it will go away eventually. If it's love, it will not.

Answer 7

You will need to occupy your time doing things that need your brain power. Get out and be with other mates. Do sports and recreational things. Get a new girlfriend !