If he is that out of control, you may have to be the one leaving.
Because he's abusive.
That sounds abusive to me.
Abusive or not, "his" belongings are his property and so in the eyes of the law they must go back to him. Anyway, if you tried to keep them, wouldn't that just make him MORE abusive?
No, it is not normal. Constantly keeping you on your toes and forcing you to walk on eggshells may be abusive conduct.
I'm not sure if it's a full-blown emotional abusive relationship, or even on the road to becoming that way, but I do feel taken advantage of him at times.
Abusive alcohol drinking constantly over a period of many years or decades can cause liver problems.
You deal with it by breaking up with him . If he is verbally abusive, you should break up with him now. Not later. Now.
If it is abusive, call the police. If not, then just say, "I'm breaking up with you," and leave. He or she will not track you down.
Communicating with your abuser is an art form. It is called "walking on eggshells". If you think the relationship is getting emotionally abusive no need to talk...best to walk and do it fast. Once the abuse begins in the cycle, it is hard to get out. The longer the cycle has been spinning the more difficult to leave.
Abusers and criminals invariably deny that they had acted abusively or criminally. I would say to see if they can still control you. The reason they deny an criminal activity or abusive activity it is because they believe they did nothing wrong. God Bless one scenario suggests that the ex believes the objects belong to him. He may feel that you stole it and that destroying it will keep it out of your hands as it is already out of his hands. As for denying the destruction of your property... how could he destroy your property when he feels that it is his. He would be feeling that it is only his stuff that he was breaking.
The definition of the word 'scold' as a verb is to find fault. The definition of 'scold' used as a noun would be a person who is constantly scolding, often with loud and abusive speech.
It is important to exit an abusive relationship carefully. Slavery is abusive.