The first thing is to understand him. Us with aspergers have a different way of communicating. Most of the problems between us and neurotypicals have to do with us not sensing the other's emotions. This works both ways. We might struggle to understand neurotypicals, but they also often misunderstand us. As a result, sometimes an emotional connection is not made. But if you care enough, it is possible.
This is an answer I wrote about characteristics of Aspergers for another question on this site.
First characteristic: An obsession. Every Aspie has an obsession. That means that when we care about something, it will grip and fill our whole minds.
An aspie might have a life-long obsession. An aspie can also have short term obsessions. If I have to learn something, it becomes my obsession until I know it thoroughly. I also have two ongoing permanent obsessions. This obsession can be with anything, it depends on the individual. We might talk about it for hours and bore you terribly.
We often learn social cues in adulthood, while other people knew them in their teenage years.
Sometimes we appear weird. Others of us study social skills and learn to blend in very effectively. However, most of us still feel like we never really fit in.
We are extremely sensitive. We may care deeply about our loved ones. Yet we may have difficulty expressing our emotions in ways that people without Aspergers understand.
We also tend to hate loud noises and sometimes bright lights. They hurt. We may have other sensory issues and sensitivities, such as to taste or touch.
Some fictional characters with aspergers are Mr Monk, from Monk, Lars, from Lars and the Real Girl (who is also emotionally damaged), Abed in Community, Lucius in the Village and possibly Fluttershy in My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic.
Women with Aspergers are more likely to be undiagnosed and are not often portrayed in movies or TV.
We each have our own personality and Aspergers manifests itself in different ways in different people. Different people may have different combinations of symptoms.
It was hard for me, until I developed a close friendship with one person who accepts me and understands me. I used to be isolated and sad. With my friendship to him to keep me going, I am very happy. Turns out, he probably has Aspergers too.
You need to ask questions about your partner's situation and get help with them.
Honestly, I think the best way to deal with people who are ignorant of Aspergers is to fully outsmart them somehow, because that way the more ignorant they are, the more of a win it is for you.
i deal with not having a boyfriend by going to sleep early, and keeping my mind and self very busy.....
It is a more severe version of aspergers
Get a new boyfriend.
Close, asburgeres sounds similar to aspergers. Asburgeres specifically does not exist but aspergers does. Other names for aspergers is asperger(s) syndrome and autistic psychopathy which is the original name for aspergers.
Your boyfriend should be the guide to show you how to "deal" with it. You should be polite and courteous. If there are jealous feelings or you feel you cannot deal with it , you know it is time to move on.
Leave Him!
Deal with it?
Aspergers is not a mentall illness it is not a diesease you can,t catch aspergers by being around someone with aspergers. People with aspergers are born with it. Although aspergers affects the way people think and veiw the world it is not a diesese. Recent aspergers studies have shown that in brains of people with aspergers there is a difference in the way the brain is wired and set up. and there have also been studies of aspergers brain waves and it showed the brain waves of people with aspergers differed from nerotypical brain waves. Just because people with aspergers think differently does not make them mentally ill there is a huge difference between the two.
make conversation.
Deal with it and move on.
Aspergers Society of Ontario was created in 2000.