Aspergers Syndrome

Asperger's Syndrome (AS) is classified as an autistic spectrum disorder. People with AS typically have difficulty with social interactions, exibit repetitive behavior, have significant impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning, have average or above average intelligence, exhibit difficulty with motor coordination, and other differences from the general population.

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Could I have a mild case of Asperger's Syndrome?

No, you cannot have a mild case of Asperger Syndrome.

Either you are Autistic or you are not - it's not possible for you to be 'mildly autistic', Autism is a neurological difference. Asperger Syndrome is also no longer a diagnosis, it's merged with Autism.

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Do women with Asperger's Syndrome go through menopause earlier than other women?

There is no evidence that shows that women with Asperger's Syndrome start menopause eariler or later than other women. This, however, has not been a highly researched area of Autism Science.

2nd Answer, this one from a perimenopausal woman with Asperger's syndrome:

There is not a connection between Asperger's syndrome and onset of menopause. However, women (and men!) with Asperger's often seem cranky and sensitive enough to be on menopause!

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What are signs or symptoms of Aspergers Syndrome?

Asperger's Syndrome (AS) has many characteristics in common with autism and is thus viewed as a variant of it. It is a neurological condition. If a person has an IQ under 70, it is typically labeled as autism. If a person has average or above average IQ, it is typically labeled as AS. Asperger's Syndrome is also known as high-functioning autism, although there is some disagreement about whether they truly are the same. Some people describe AS as a mild version of autism, but actually it is just as severe. (The conditions are similar but have differences, and both autism and AS can range from mild to severe.) One difference is that the people with Asperger's Syndrome have better language abilities and typically have higher intelligence; thus, they might be more able to compensate to function in society.

Here is a list of some of the possible signs or symptoms in those who have AS (many of which are also common to autism), compiled from several sources. No person with AS has all these traits, and they do not have them at the same levels. Some traits are opposites, but stem from the same underlying issue. Although neuro-typical people (ones without an autism spectrum disorder) might experience some of these characteristics, the problems are usually tenfold to a hundredfold worse for the person with AS or autism. These characteristics are based on observation of males with AS; it is thought that females could exhibit AS in different ways because they might react to the same difficulty in a different manner. In adults, some of these traits only occur in specific situations or when under stress. Compensating for some traits and learning ways to do some things can be accomplished with explicit instructions. Some of these characteristics usually occur only in children because adults have learned to compensate through trial and error or observation of other people. Some of these characteristics are comparisons to the development of neuro-typical children.

Social interactions

- seems content when left alone

- does not understand social cues and thus might act inappropriately, appearing rude, uncaring, and tactless

- might be able to function in one-to-one interactions but not with multiple people

- has strong sense of loyalty; very loyal to friends

- has strong sense of social justice; tends to defend others and causes

- achieves social success by intellectual analysis rather than intuition

- often has a sense of humor as an adult that is not frequently understood by others, often a very dry sense of humor

- might or might not desire friendships; most seem to desire friendships but the stress involved makes them decide it is not worth it

Child development:

- does not play turn-taking games

- is more likely to play by him- or herself, or next to other children, than with them

- uses adult's hand as a tool

- does not interact socially with same age group; indifference to peer contacts; difficulties interacting with peers

Verbal communication

- rarely initiates communication; might speak only when discussing favorite subjects (special interests)

- when trying to participate in conversations, it might seem odd or awkward; does not know how to keep a conversation going

- understands and uses words literally, resulting in misinterpretations; might not understand idiomatic expressions and metaphors; might not pick up double meanings; might not understand subtle satire and irony; might not understand when exaggeration is being used; is often the last person to understand the point of a joke

- discusses objects and facts, not feelings

- might sound overly formal or excessively technical; pedantic; includes too much detail

- is more comfortable writing than speaking; more comfortable in situations where body language is not an issue, such as in the dark or back-to-back

Child development:

- fails to imitate actions or sounds

- might have echolalia - repeats or echoes words and phrases just heard

- might have delayed language acquisition; might have precocious language acquisition

Nonverbal communication

- eye contact is limited/fleeting, staring, or otherwise seems atypical; might make appropriate eye contact when talking but look away when listening or processing an answer; more likely to look at mouth than eyes

- has atypical body language; does not accurately express intents, thoughts, and feelings via nonverbal language

- might not use gestures; gestures might seem stilted or clumsy; gestures might be exaggerated

Child development:

- has a deficit in joint attention; does not point at object to share interest and does not realize that gaze should be directed where other person is pointing

Relating to surroundings (including change)

- is upset by or resists changes; inflexible; desires predictability; should be warned about changes to environment and routines

- develops rigid routines; prefers to know rules for all situations; seemingly simple activities that are not part of the routine, such as going out to eat, can be extraordinarily stressful

- might be reluctant to enter unknown places or visit friends' homes because of not knowing the "rules" for that place

- has a tendency to collect objects or information / facts

- tends to notice patterns; tends to notice license plates numbers; often notices details that other people do not

- might refuse to eat foods that are touching other foods on the plate

Child development:

- play is repetitive

Responses to sensory stimuli

- usually has sensory integration disorder - unusual perception of sensory input, sensory processing abnormalities

- might be oversensitive to sound, hearing sounds most people do not or panicking at certain sounds, or undersensitive to sound, appearing deaf at times

- might be oversensitive to sight, preferring dimly lit rooms or certain colors, or undersensitive to sight, desiring lots of colors and interested in flashing lights

- might be oversensitive or undersensitive to taste, preferring either extra spicy or very bland foods, or preferring sourness such as lemon slices

- might be oversensitive or undersensitive to touch; might become very stressed by light touches, but less stressed by firm ones; might feel calmer in Temple Grandin's "hugging machine"

- might be oversensitive or undersensitive to smell

- might be under or oversensitive to balance (vestibular stimulation); might frequently twirl or might easily become dizzy

- might have proprioceptive dysfunction - insufficient processing of information from muscles and joints so is unaware of where body is in space; might hit, kick, or bang head against objects intentionally to gain awareness of where one's body parts are in space; might watch one's feet or hands to be aware of where they are

- might prefer to wear the same clothing day after day (because of how it feels, as well as preferring the same routines)

- might prefer to sleep under many blankets for the pressure of the weight or similarly to wear heavy clothes for the comforting pressure

- might be oversensitive or undersensitive to pain

- is often very inactive or very active

Child development:

- plays with light and reflections

- flicks fingers before eyes

Motor clumsiness

- has a lack of coordination in physical activities; cannot synchronize leg and arm movement; might be described as clumsy or accident-prone

- might have problems with both fine and gross motor control; might have fine motor control but not gross motor control or vice versa

Child development:

- is behind age group performance on neurodevelopmental examination

Special interests

- are all-absorbing, narrow interests done to the exclusion of other activities, done with repetitive adherence, or done with more rote than meaning (as a child)

- often include a fascination with facts or numbers, science, or something related to transportation

- often involve a couple lifelong primary special interests; might include short-term, but very intense, secondary special interests; might acquire more primary interests over time so adults might have 4 or more

- are calming and reduce stress (as opposed to an obsession), but might give appearance of obsessive-compulsive disorder

Thinking and memory

- has excellent long-term memory for facts and routines; often have an excellent memory for dialogue

- might have difficulty with short-term memory

- is logical and detail-oriented; easily able to identify errors

- can focus on tasks intensely; persistent; difficulty leaving tasks unfinished

- often has poor imagination as a young child; might have extraordinary imaginative abilities as a teenager and adult

Brain differences

- the amygdala (the brain's social and emotional control center) is enlarged during early childhood and then shrinks; resulting in an amygdala that appears the same as the amygdala in children who were subjected to physical abuse, sexual abuse, or neglect; a person with a "damaged" amygdala might sense danger when there is none

- researchers believe that children with autism related disorders suffer chronic stress from fear of people that results in the atypical development of the amygdala

Child development:

- larger than normal head circumference is common

Other characteristics

- often only minimally affected by peer pressure, so does what is comfortable for him or her; or, tries to fit in by doing anything peers suggest without realizing peers' true intentions

- has an aversion to being interrupted; compulsion for completion

- is often very spiritual, but not necessarily religious

- is a perfectionist

- has an impaired fight or flight response - possibly because fight or flight is already activate in almost all situations; often does not recognize dangerous situations

- has difficulty making friends; often might misinterpret kindness as friendship; might never form long-term intimate relationships due to lack of social skills and ability; might invent imaginary friends, worlds, or scenarios due to social difficulties

- unusual attachment to objects; is attached to one particular object; might be preoccupied with parts of objects

- might be especially sensitive to mind-affecting medicines, such as anti-anxiety and anti-depressant ones; might have atypical side effects from medicines, such as codeine causing insomnia

- might have nicknames such as "little professor" and "encyclopedia" (more often male) or "little philosopher" (more often female)

- the combination of misunderstandings due to taking words literally, possessiveness and intense loyalty to perceived friends, and socially odd or inappropriate behavior can make others feel as if they might be being stalked

- often has family members with a smaller number of these traits or learning disabilities; has a genetic factor to autism related disorders which is probably then triggered by environmental factors

Other conditions that might occur with Asperger's Syndrome

- might suffer anxiety disorder and panic attacks due to effects of Asperger's

- might suffer depression and have suicidal tendencies due to effects of Asperger's

- might suffer post-traumatic stress disorder due to victimization which is due to effects of Asperger's

- might have prosopagnosia (face blindness) - difficulty with facial recognition

- might have learning disabilities

- might have dyspraxia, also known as sensory integration disorder (difficulty planning and performing complex movements such as drawing, writing, buttoning, or other fine motor skill tasks)

- might have sleep problems

- might have dietary intolerances, such as gluten, casein, or lactose intolerance; greater risk of immune system disorders related to digestion, such as Crohn's disease or celiac disease; food allergies

- might not process B6 vitamins efficiently; a study on children with autism showed that they seem to benefit from what are normally toxic doses of B6, but this is not something to try at home

- might have chronic diarrhea or chronic constipation for years

- other co-existing conditions include attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), oppositional defiance disorder (ODD), antisocial personality disorder (APD or ASPD), and Tourette's Syndrome (TS) and other tic disorders

- has a slightly greater incidence of epilepsy

- has a greater incidence of tuberous sclerosis (benign tumors in the brain and other vital organs)

- has 10 times greater incidence of savantism, often in the form of mental calculation or fast computer programming skills

Sources include, among others:

  • The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome by Tony Attwood
  • The Oasis Guide to Asperger Syndrome: Advice, Support, Insights, and Inspiration by Patricia Romanowski Bashe and Barbara L. Kirby
  • Handbook of Autism and Pervasive Developmental Disorders, Volumes I and II, 3rd Edition edited by Fred R. Volkmar
  • Understanding the Nature of Autism: A Guide to the Autism Spectrum, Second Edition by Janice E. Janzen
  • Asperger's and Girls by Tony Attwood et. al.
  • Asperger's Syndrome and Sensory Issues: Practical Solutions for Making Sense of the World by Brenda Smith Myles et. al.
  • Asperger Syndrome & Your Child: A Parent's Guide by Michael D. Powers and Janet Poland
  • Mindblindness: An Essay on Autism and Theory of Mind by Simon Baron-Cohen
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Can children with asperger s syndrome fall in love with adults?

Any child can "fall in love" with an adult, though their perception of love is generally false, and really they're feelings are infatuation.

It is difficult to generalise children with Asperger's Syndrome, because they are all very different. However, assuming this child is able to feel deep emotion and a strong connection to a particular adult, then yes, it is possible.

Instead of "fall in love" I would say "be obsessed with". I hope the object of the obsession kindly accepts this as a compliment

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What is it like to have Asperger's Syndrome?

Well, it depends on the person. I have asperger's syndrome myself and things I learned from my own experience is that people with asperger's can be very easily aggravated and aggressive. But also what I have learned is that people with asperger's can sometimes understand things more easily and sometimes more faster than people without asperger's.

Personally...I am a very mildly affected adult woman. I was born with impaired social skills, but I am a social person by nature of my personality separate from Asperger's syndrome. I can be overly sensitive, both physically and emotionally speaking. Sleeping on my stomach is impossible due to physical sensitivities in my breasts. I'm prone to headaches due to sensitivity to noise. However, I am often unaware of how loud or quiet my own voice is, and my own voice as well as voices that are similar to my own do not bother me. Voices that I am used to also do not bother me, usually, not unless they are suddenly angered. I have a higher stress level than most people do. Sometimes this can cause me to act aggressive, sometimes this can cause me to panic, and other times, it can cause me to just "space out" in my mind. The worst thing that can happen is stress-induced non-epileptic seizures that can resemble grand mal seizures. Seizures occur in less than a third of people with Asperger's syndrome, and I'm one of those people.

I have a large number of allergies. All of my allergies are related to food, except for bee stings and an allergy to bee stings has nothing to do with Asperger's syndrome. I have a poor immune system, even though I am an adult who has lived through many illnesses.

As mentioned earlier, my social skills are below average. In fact, part of my diagnosis includes Mild Social Retardation. This is extremely different from mental retardation -- I was also retested for mental intelligence as my childhood score was inaccurate, and my mental intelligence is above average -- and this does not automatically dictate whether one is an extrovert or an introvert. Just as there are mentally challenged people who love to read, there are socially challenged people who love to socialize. Such people are exceptional, but we are out there. I socialize best with children. My personality, separate from Asperger's, is a maternal personality and children's social developments are closer to my own. I am emotionally and socially about eight-years-old, though I am physically, mentally, sexually, etc. within my physical age group. This is actually helpful in my friendships with children. I am smart enough and motherly enough to be seen as their elder, but childish enough to also be a true friend who does not look down on anyone for age. I would not trade that for anything.

I have inborn "book smarts", as do most people with Asperger's syndrome. I also have a good memory for dates and a very long, detailed memory in general. Asperger's syndrome is called "the nerd syndrome" for reasons. Also like with most people that have AS, I have less common sense than you probably do. This is probably part of why more women with AS marry than men. A woman who has damsel-in-distress moments is more socially acceptable than a man-in-distress.

One stereotype is that people with Asperger's are good at math. I completely buck this stereotype. Math turns me into a ditz. Like most women, I am more partial to grammar and literature. That said, I am more interested in history. The special interests of females with Asperger's tend to be common interests of most "normal" females, such as books or dolls or general fantasy adventures, so girls are rarely diagnosed whereas boys with Asperger's tend to have more obscure interests like vacuum cleaner bags. More research needs to be done on females with the condition, especially metafemales (females with an extra female chromosome) who are more prone to have this additional syndrome. We're all the proof needed to debunk the theories that the autism spectrum is connected to testosterone levels, but there are 1 in 110 people on the autism spectrum (which includes Asperger's), and 1 in 70 boys of the general populace on the spectrum. There are only 1 in 1,000 metafemales. Still, with five to ten metafemales born daily, research ought to be furthered.

I am considered a research orphan because I am metafemale, because I am female, and because I was over 22 (twice over, actually) by the time I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. Girls and women are usually "cleaned out of the data so as not to muddy it up" when Asperger's is researched. This is extremely unfair. However, there is a much greater chance for a female with Asperger's to "blend in" more successfully than for a male to do the same. We often get married and have children, just usually later in life than most women do. The main reason for the delay is that finding ourselves and our place in the world is a struggle, and we are easily manipulated into thinking poorly of ourselves.

My main struggle with Asperger's syndrome is that I cannot automatically understand the intentions of other people. I long ago taught myself to cope with this by assuming the worst about others, and that made me more miserable. This is a habit that I am trying to rid myself of without getting hurt.

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Is Asperger's Syndrome caused by a pathogen?

There is no known pathological connection to autism.

I am not a physician, neurologist, what-have-you, but my understanding is that it a neuro-biological condition brought about by certain anomaly's of at least 3 genes (don't ask me which ones or even if that the total number.) The short answer is that it's genetic in origin causing the person with the disorder to fall somewhere on a spectrum from full autism (where one is unable to communicate in any fashion) to high functioning (where one is unable to understand nonverbal communication.) I would suggest that you do further research on-line in order to more fully understand this condition.

For more detail on possible pathogens, the stages of development impacted, and specific genes involved, see:

Emfield, Steve. (2011). Geek Syndromes: Causes, Cures and Maps of Autism and other related neurological variances; The 26 Myths and 26 Facts of Autism. Lehi, UT.

Grandin, Temple. (2006, January 10). Thinking in Pictures: My life with autism. Vintage.

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Can atomoxetine help people with Asperger's Syndrome?

Strattera, also known as atomoxetine, is a selective norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor used for treating attention-deficit hyperactive disorder (ADHD).

It is one medication that can be given to people with ADHD (who might also have Asperger's Syndrome). It can help them stay focused and decrease impulsiveness, which means it might also help with anger management issues. However, possible side effects include suicidal thoughts, loss of appetite, aggression, and others.

It is thought that it might be useful in treating some symptoms found in people with autism spectrum disorders. Thus, it might help some people with Asperger's Syndrome who have uncontrolled emotional outbursts or other impulsive behaviors.

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Do people with Asperger's Syndrome only like to eat plain tasting food?

It really depends upon the person. People with AS have different preferences just like anyone else. The one thing you are most likely to see with someone who has AS is that there may be a limited number of foods that they will eat or that foods may need to be prepared and served the same way every time they eat them. People with AS often have sensory issues, being oversensitive or undersensitive to sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, and/or balance. If taste is one of the senses that is affected, the person might be undersensitive and thus prefer strong flavors including spiciness or tartness, or the person might be oversensitive and thus prefer bland flavors. Sensitivity to smell could make the person prefer foods that have very little odor. Sensitivity to touch could make the person prefer foods that have a certain texture. So, sensory issues can affect food choice. I have Asperger syndrome and as a child would only eat plain and very bland food. My tastes changed over the years and now I can't eat plain and bland food as I find it boring and tasteless. I prefer spicy and garlicky food.

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Did Jane Austen have Asperger's Syndrome?

We cannot know for certain. But Jane Austen was a pretty good observer of human character. She seemed to understand psychology very well. She understood other people's motives. These are things people with Asperger's Syndrome seem to have more trouble with than other people.

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Do most people think people with autism are dumb?

Sadly, it is commonly perceived that people with Autism are not intelligent. This is in fact, not the case and I believe it is our job as Autism advocates to raise awareness about the fact that individuals with Autism can be productive members of society.

At a recent conference I attended on work opportunities for adults on the Autism Spectrum, world renowned Autism expert, Susan Bryson, noted that only approximately 25% of people with Autism have an intellectual handicap. She then continued to point out that many people on the Autism Spectrum possess valuable cognitive strengths including

  • excellent attention to detail
  • excellent pattern-detection skills
  • superior visual search skills
  • persistance
  • highly reliable
  • highly accurate and often perfectionistic, possessing a desire for precision and being unwilling to sacrifice accuracy for speed.

All of these attributes can make people with Autism extremely valuable employees so we all as a society have to start rethinking what it means to have Autism!

For more information on Autism, check out autism, your one-stop-source for everything related to Autism.

Brenda Deskin

------------------------------- It depends on whether the individual person has been educated on what autism is. Sadly, much of society, and even some individuals who may work with autistics, still can't tell the difference between "Asperger's/HFA" vs. "Kanner's". Along with all of the other disabilities where autism can also be effected. It also depends on where people get their information on autism from, and based on how accurate it is, along with updated. I truly think that the media in all forms are causing many complications for all of us to be accepted into society.

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What is life like for an adult with autism or Asperger's Syndrome?

Answer:I have Aspergers and I wrote this article not long ago. It may give you an idea of what it's like to have Aspergers, which is on the spectrum. I have a blog about living with Aspergers, if you are interested in learning more about living as an independent adult with Aspergers/autism. (see related links)

Desolate. You are walking through streets of a desolate city that you have always lived in, and yet you don't know your way around. It's bright and dusty, and despite the sheer volume of things going on, it's quiet and surprisingly bland. It's what you might imagine a city would look like after a nuclear war.

As you walk around, you see people who are shuffling about, although you can't tell where they are going or what they are trying to accomplish. And unfortunately, everyone's faces look almost the same. There are people you have known your whole life, and yet when you look at them, their faces are so similar that sometimes it takes several seconds to tell one from the other.

One thing you do know about this place is that there are rituals, rules, and restrictions which seem (to you, at least), to be highly illogical. The unfortunate thing is that violations of this conglomeration of protocol can have highly detrimental consequences. But because the rules seem illogical, it's difficult to predict what is and is not okay. The laws are easy to follow because regardless of the logic, they are clearly defined. It's the unwritten rules which are almost scary, because violating them means losing a job, ruining a relationship, and ridicule.

They speak your language in this place, but that doesn't mean communication comes easily. Many of the words still mean the same thing, but there are just enough differences that while you know misunderstandings are very possible, it's difficult to know when the misunderstanding is actually occurring. Unfortunately, the people around you don't know that these misunderstandings are possible, so although you are on alert, the other people around you are sure that you mean what they think you mean. And when you try to clarify, it only becomes more confusing to them. Add to this that the others are physically accustomed to the debris of the nuclear mess, but it makes you very sick. The others can't understand why sometimes you have to wear a mask, so you are ridiculed for that, too. You may even lose your job for wearing it. (But you'll also lose your job for being out sick from not wearing your mask.)

There are many beautiful dimensions to the strange world, but they need to be found. They are secret places that are hard to find. Like the colorful butterfly garden hidden in a warehouse, and the sunrise which you can only see with your blinder goggles on. There is grass between your toes, but only when your eyes are closed. There are things which you see in this place which you love, so you cling to them. When you see a blooming tree with pink blossoms, you spend many hours sitting under it because it shelters you from the blistering sun, distracts you from the others passing by, and calms you in a way that the others just don't understand. But you cling to it nonetheless.

As you walk around the streets of this frightening place, you are pretty sure there are others like you. Although they, like you, are hiding. Some are hidden in nooks and crannies. Others like you congregate in pockets, but no one knows there whereabouts because once they go into their preferred pocket, they never come out again. In their pockets of people there is color and music and laughing. And it's completely up to you to find them.

If your parents are like you they could have helped you learn about this odd place. But they aren't, as they are like the rest of the others. They didn't know how to help you, or even what you needed help with in the first place. So your life is like this, and your parents try to cope with helping you down the right street if you get lost. "BUT I NEED MORE HELP THAN THAT!!" you keep shouting. But as much as they love you, all they know how to do is point you down a different street, which may or may not get you where you are going at that moment. Or maybe they were like you. If they were, they taught you about this place, showed you where the pockets of people are, and how to hide your mask. They knew what you would need to know as you grow, so they knew how to help you. Maybe your parents were like the others but knew about people like you. So they did the best they could for you, with what they had. And for you, it was good enough. What happens when your parents die? You are alone in this place.

Imagine this was your world. Now ask me what it's like to live a life as an adult with Aspergers. Although, you may not understand the answer.

Copyright © 2008 Lorin Neikirk

Answer:Now my problem is how to get out of it - either I think I am 2 minutes too fast or 2 minutes too slow when i react to other people. When I think I understand I don't say anything and when I am slow it's already too late. I just live on hope. Burning bridges all the time cause I am good at making first impression when I want to. Just can't hold on long enough. Drift in, drift out, daydream a lot. Always trapped under ice. I have tried everything from drugs, alcohol, behavior modification .. nothing works. Yeah i can hear voices telling me to live with who I am...tried that too...doesn't work either. I keep on forgetting who I am.. It's real pain when you have to keep figuring out who you are, if that makes sense. Not only autistic, but sometimes I fear maybe I am insane too.

For anyone who is really interested in learning more about the diversity of experiences in the worldwide autistic community, I suggest visiting Neurodiversity listed in the related links below. It has a truly incredible collection of links.

Answer:Only but the most highly functional persons, those with mere autistic traits--rather than full blown autistic disorder--or those with significantly high IQs and language skills can simply will themselves to success or a typical life--one which usually entails many social dimensions--as we (the crowd without autism see it). This is not to say you can't have autism and be happy or have a life worth living, but to equate this dreaded condition (in its most severe forms) with Albert Einstein and to say "just be productive" is unfair; it doesn't adequately convey the life of those who truly struggle or those who need 24/7 care. The short answer is the life of an adult with autism will depend on many things. Most will not marry, will not go to college, will not be able to live without some supportive arrangement, will not have a job commensurate with their skills or intelligence. Answer:A VERY IMPORTANT THING to remember is that "autism" is a "SPECTRUM DISORDER", meaning someone with autism can be someone who is severely handicapped and needs total care 24/7 at one end of the spectrum, or at the other end of the spectrum they can be brilliant, contributing members of society. One person that comes to mind is Temple Grandin. She has authored books about autism and her experiences. She also invented a hugging device. Many adults and children find being hugged a "painful" or unpleasant experience. Her hugging device allowed her to get a "mechanical" hug that she was in control of. When it became too intense or uncomfortable, she could hit a button and be released from the hug! She also designed special ramps that cows walk on when they are on their way to slaughter. It proved to be beneficial in that the cows didn't slide and fall and experience severe trauma and become unmanageable. Many companies now use her design! Autism is "person specific"; there may be many similar behaviors but each child and adult with autism is different and complex, which makes managing behaviors, helping them help themselves, using medication etc... very difficult for parents, guardians and caregivers. I have found that working with very young children over a long period seems to help them deal with life better. There is no "magic pill" for autism. Over the last 25 years, I have never found one or even seen one come close! Life is not all doom and gloom, and experienced people can help them live a higher quality life. Also in the "spectrum", some people never speak, some speak by only repeating what they hear (echolalia) yet others have excellent verbal skills. Answer:How about this metaphor.

-Being autistic is very much like being a Chinese farmer who is suddenly dropped into the heart of New York city on a Friday at 5:15 pm. You speak no English, have never been off the farm, have never seen TV, and are scared to death. First, you don't say a word. Your eyes are wide with apprehension. You have no idea what to do, where to go, what the Hell has happened? People begin to stare at you because your are strange. You don't seem to know what to do. You are obviously quite different and out-of-place. You seem very unusual and therefore dangerous OR you are mentally deficient somehow and amusing as you struggle to cope with this reality. Either these beings around you are afraid of you OR they think you are retarded, foolish and to be laughed at. You desperately try to communicate but no one seems to have the slightest understanding of what you want. Besides, all these folks are busy and have no time for a dangerous stranger OR a babbling person. You try to find an empty doorway or corner where you can get out of the traffic, just be alone and try to figure out whats going on. You are extremely uncomfortable even though you are in no real danger. You see a dirty alley and run there to find refuge. You crawl into some empty boxes where you can hide and think this out. But someone has noticed this strange, dangerous person, hiding in the alley, and, being "socially responsible" and helpful, calls the police to either put this dangerous person safely behind bars OR put this poor, hurting soul in an institution where he can be "helped" to rejoin the "rest of the world", "for his own good".

--If you try very hard to imagine what this situation would really feel like,

you just might be able to catch a glimmer of what it is like being an autistic adult.

Answer:Is life pure hell as an autistic adult? ANSWER YES IT SURE IS PURE HELL TO LIVE IN THIS WORLD AS AN AUTISTIC ADULT FOR ALL THE REASONS GIVEN HERE AND SO MANY MORE IT WOULD TAKE BILLIONS OF COMPUTERS TO LIST THEM ALL! The real question is do you want to dwell on how hard your life is as an autistic adult in a life long pity party or do you want to try to make something successful in your life despite all the challenges autism gives us.

The question what is it like to be an adult autistic can't really be definitively answered anyway. The autism life experience is a spectrum of outcomes some more livable than others. I finally got the great job, the house and am living the American dream but it took me 41 years of living in pure hell before I managed to make it. Even with my relatively hard-won success that was 41 years in the making; not everything is all rosy and nice.

I spent most of my life living on section 8 in flea bag hell hole apartments living among people who were the absolute worst of the scum this Earth offers. I failed at most jobs I tried not because I could not do the job but because, I was often clueless about the typical human socialization / political nonsense most jobs involve. I spent most of my life getting disability payments and being yelled at by family to get a job. Most of my life growing up family and their friends spent their time reminding me how retarded, stupid and crazy I was and this was when they were treating me good. Most of the time family and their sadistic friends were physically abusing me using my autism inspired gullibility against me. My grandparents response was often you gotta learn how to live with normal people so get back in there and figure it out.

I tell you all the stuff of my autistic childhood so you can know why I grew up to be the often misanthropic antisocial old bastard of an adult I have grown up to be. My nickname is autisticwerewolf for a reason. Autism is the closest thing to being a werewolf for real. Imagine having a monstrous reserve of purely antisocial venoms stirring in your heart 24 hours a day 7 days a week. When autistics are young they have often horrible violent tantrums where revert to a primal werewolf like form where they hurt themselves and others. If they are lucky, most autistics seem to grow out of their tantrums - WRONG. Let me tell you a dirty little autistic secret. Most autistics struggle every day to keep there autistic werewolf autism inspired tantrums and antisocial behaviors in check at least for that time we adult autistics must share with others in our day.

It is often a constant pain to keep such strong autism inspired passions held in temporary check inside. If as an adult you still have autism tantrum issues its like living with a very smart monster inside you always straining to get out. The problem with still having tantrum issues as an adult is you so called normal people do so many insanely stupid things each day to provoke your inner autistic beast to unspeakable violence and its your job to keep it safely contained. Being an adult autistic is the closet thing to being a mutant in the XMen series. Like them we are not loved, understood or accepted by so called normal human society. Adult autistics are often feared and or loathed by typical human society. It is hard for autistics to find a good job and harder still to keep it once we have it. Lots of people on the autism spectrum get and hold great jobs but that does not mean their autism inspired suffering is any less and often means their autism inspired suffering is far greater.

Autism alone has made any hope of a so called normal relationship with my family impossible. I do not like children and I do not like unpredictable activity and noise. I am very sensitive to most unexpected sensory input. I hate all social occasions even with family because, I do so terribly at such things. I am today and always have been a total embarrassment to my family. I can not tell you how many times I was told I wish you were not my brother or I wish you did not exist. I never knew true love from my siblings as a child and now as an autistic adult I neither seek or expect love from my family now. I choose not to attend family functions because, I still have not mastered behavioral patterns required for purely social occasions. Also the wounds of my autistic childhood inflicted by family are still fresh in my heart and mind. Why would I visit family submit myself to memories of a most painful unforgiving hellish autistic childhood past, I so totally want to forget as an autistic adult today.

Finally autism as an adult is hell because even today I totally lack the skills to involve myself in any purely social activities at all. I barely have enough skill to manage the social interpersonal requirements of the typical workplace. I am barely able to stay employed! I live alone. I am unmarried and likely to stay without a significant other in life. I am alone but not lonely but this autistic adult life has few perks. I spent my life speaking on autism related topics and trying to help my fellow autistics. Despite it all I am a happy autistic adult only because, I'd rather be happy, humorous and fun than the old sour bitter forever angry stick in the mud caught in a life long pity party that is the only alternative. If I did not find a way to be positive and happy as an autistic adult my inner pains and angers would fester, mutate and become a powerful force for evil that in time I could not contain or manage. I am not a good happy seemingly well adjusted autistic adult because, I want to be some Pollyanna perfect guy. I am an autistic adult struggling with horrible inner demons because, failing to do so would leave me the kind of antisocial monster prisons are filled with an serial killer books are written about. I have sought professional psychiatric help and they are ill prepared to treat me. The one anti-psychotic medicine INVEGA that did help me manage my primal tantrum rages had side effects so bad it was not worth taking. So it falls to me the autistic werewolf to survive in humanity without losing containment of my forever angry autism tantrum driven beast within. Despite all I have done to succeed in life being an adult with autism is still pure 100% hell and nothing anyone else can do can ever change that! Oddest thing is that despite everything autism has done to shape me, I would not choose to be a normal person if the chance was offered to me. All I know is my autistic life and I have grown to like myself as an autistic adult and after 48 autistic years I am at peace with my autism now and do not want or need to be cured.

Answer:I grew up with Aspergers. I knew that I was different, but never knew why. When my daughter was diagnosed with it, I finally understood why. The way I dealt with Aspergers, all my life, was to be funny. Comedians are expected to be eccentric, and people give you a lot of latitude because they think you're trying to "put one over on them." I never understood protocol, non-verbal rules or cues, so I resorted to a lot of introspection. I used to emulate people who were popular (What would Thomas do or say in this situation?) and got by that way. It gets easier as you get older, as long as you make the association between the rule and the error. Answer:Adult with Autistic Spectrum Disorder. March 2010. Often want to explain to people what it is like. Never do because it is pointless trying to explain verbally to the so called "normal" non compos. The experience is that of being in a society of people whose actions are illogical at best, and usually uninterpretable. The values of the society we find ourselves in are trivially focused on consumption and pro-creation. I and many with ASD relish being able to interact with other humans, however any attempt is thwarted because of the complete lack of common ground. In my case, I am able to interact verbally with others *if* the conversation is about science, math, logic or philosophy. However, no one ever discusses these math-oriented topics. Instead it is infatuation with sex and gold and sex and getting a new car and sex and sports and being cool and playing "match wits".

Here is a way to picture it. Imagine you are in a society where everyone has an I.Q. that is 30 or 40 points less than yours. In that society, all institutions are run by these people as the norm. Now you are frustrated, because all of the decisions and processes of that society seems bizarre, consistently backwards, redundant, trivial, boring, unenlightened, predictable, and just plain wrong. You feel detached from this society. It's not really a big deal though, because you are happy to live inside your head, thinking and learning. You just wish there were companions like you. Some of us find our way into science, and when we do we find a lot of brothers and sisters who have ASD, and we get to interact over science and math like things, and explore philosophical aspects of existence over lunch. But out in the real world, we look like idiots to the rest of you.

In my case, I prefer to communicate to non compos via text. Verbal communication is virtually impossible, because my mind is working on several subjects at once, and regarding the discussion at hand, I am 3 or 4 steps ahead of the other person, and, like a chess game, I have explored and weight-analyzed a multitude of discussion paths and reactions, and so my responses are out-of-sync with the others. Meanwhile, simultaneously I am mentally responding to all of the discussions around me and on any TV or radio in hearing range. But, all of my responses are purely logical and fact-oriented, while the others are playing games with allusions, metaphors, gotcha's and the like. I am definitely not cool. I have been told I am handsome, but to no avail - forming a relationship is impossible. I have had a couple of girlfriends, but it is awkward and quickly falls apart. 92% of my life has been alone.

If any of the above sounds smug, as I am led to understand is common when ASD persons communicate, it is not meant to be.

That is some of it. There is also the physical symptoms, such as when your left and right hands change places, when everything gets really thick and feels like it is made of sponge, when physical objects become integrated with your personality, and when objects in your field of vision pop into existence. They are very pleasant sensations when they happen. I can still drive and write and do anything, including thinking coherently.

I love my autism. I wish everyone had it. We'd have settled the Moon and Mars by now, and would be spreading out to the galaxy. I hate it when the normals fret over people having autism. I am afraid they'll find a way to "cure" it.

Answer:I knew I was different, but it wasn't clear till recently. I am now 35 with 2 daughters and the older is diagnosed with Aspergers, this was the first light into my autism.

Growing up wasn't bad as some says our IQ seems to be bit higher than average. In my case around 130. But it didn't help me go through school where I lingered around college for years never really graduating but just taking classes.

I then had a emotional breakdown and left my hometown completely without thinking of any consequences. Till this day I think it was the best cure to help understand who I am, a question I repeated in my journal ever since I can remember.

I'm not an expert, but I connect with every comment and answers made here realizing that I wasn't the only one. Which already makes me feel better and that there is hope... for me and my daughter.

So today, I agree it's not easy for us to be who we are. But maybe that is why we can enjoy this world even more than we think. It may take some time or some struggle before we realize what's really going on, but there is never a bad intention. We just think differently.

Answer:What is it like? You go to a dinner with all your in-laws where almost nobody talks to you (ok, maybe that's not so weird), and while you're there you meet a distant in-law you haven't seen for a while and she doesn't talk to you either. This reminds you of other extended family members from your own family, and also former friends, co-workers, and classmates, who one day inexplicably just didn't like you any more. You never meet any of these people these days. At least you don't think you do, because you couldn't recognize them if you did. And even if you wanted to, you wouldn't be able to find most of the places where you'd meet up with them anyway. Then again, maybe they said 'hi' once but you didn't hear them because you can't hear that well, either.

A decade ago you wondered what was the matter with you, why you couldn't graduate high school or hold a minimum-wage job or keep any kind of relationship going. Especially with such at outstandingly high IQ, which you rarely mention because it only leads to people expecting more. You used to do everything you could possibly do to keep people from getting angry, which was almost exactly like wearing a big 'kick me' sign. That led to your being emotionally and at times almost physically abused by several people, repeatedly, to which you responded by trying harder and harder, frantically, to please them so they wouldn't reject you.

But since then you've been online and figured it out. You're not really a horrible person. You're not really lazy or retarded. For a few years you tried to find a cure, a therapy, or some insight, so you could fit in.

You do your best now to keep a positive mental attitude, even though your best friend recently disappeared from you life for no apparent reason. You have no job, no volunteer work, no club, and no friends. It's just like high school, when you used to wonder how long it would take people to notice if you suddenly up and died. Fortunately, your spouse manages somehow to tolerate you. Otherwise you'd have no choice but to move back in with your parents.

Over time you adjust to the probability that you will probably always be alone, and you try to make the best of it. You try to make a decent life for your children, and try not to let on how bad it is, although the older ones have probably already figured it out. You figure you can at least set a good example as to how to carry on during adversity. You get up in the morning and do chores and try to be the best person you can be, while nobody in the outside world notices. You click on free click-to-donate sites and consider it your volunteer work, and nobody stops you because they never meet you. And you slowly lose interest in the outside world because they're not telling you anything useful anyway. Who needs to socialize with people who are borderline retarded because they're the only ones that want anything to do with you, when you could be online reading about Babylonian base-60 arithmetic or listening to Schubert, or just walking outside in the woods.

Answer:A life with autism, if you do not have autism and you are reading this you will not understand the way people with autism have to live there daily life, but hopefully someone who is reading this could prehaps see the world though my eyes, and see the world as a autistic person does, my name is Melissa, I am a 18 years old art student. Just recently I discovered I have autism. I wasn't surprised when I found out, it actually answered a lot of questions and made me see why i was different to everyone else. they say its hard for a autistic person to live a normal life, I believe this to be something psychologists have seen to be true, but i on the other hand don't have a normal life. Not only do i have to balance my college deadline and a part time job, but i also struggle with the one thing in the world that means anything to me and it just happens to be the thing i cant have. its kind of ironic really people with autism suffer with being lonely trying to find a way to break out of the illusions we see and find happiness in the world n i have found mine, but the problem is its on the other side of the country.

after years of being secluded and outcast by the world I met one person who taught me the meaning of happiness, the one person who showed me the light while i lived my life in the darkness, the one person i care about more than anyone in this world, my boyfriend. but he lives miles away and i only get to see him once a week. which is hard to balance with college, work and my disorder, i find it unbearable at time to live, when hes there with me he makes all the clouds drift away and puts the sunshine back in my life. sometimes i feel like im living 2 lives once in my hometown surrounded by work and the only thing getting me through it is the passion of my art, and my other life in paradise with him. but in wont let this disorder stop me from living my dream, to be a successful artist n live my life with the person i love. i hope for people reading this it has given you some inspiration to those who have autism, and i believe anything is possible and autism can be cured.

Written by Melissa Gemma Ward

You tolerate dinner with the in-laws, pretend to have fun, and hide your frustration at being excluded and treated as if you have no ambition and not much of an intellect. After all, you're used to that.

Answer:Being an adult with aspergers is like being from a foreign country. However, because I look the same and don't have a foreign accent people assume I'm a native(neurotypical) and expect me to be just like them. They don't allow for misunderstandings or me saying things in not "quite the right" way. If the aspies made up the majority of the population, then the neurotypical people would feel odd, out of place, misunderstood, and experience the world in a way that is different from the way the majority do.

I have been pretending my whole life, trying to fake being neurotypical, but I always knew I was different. When I came home at the end of the day, I was exhausted by all the faking I had to do.

I have wonderful abilities, artistic interests, a huge amount of knowledge, likes, and dislikes. However, because I turn people off in my communication style, no one really knows me. I can't share my interests with the world in a productive way. When I worked, I was always told that my actual work ability was excellent, but then I got laid off or fired for failing at the social aspect.

The world would be so much simpler if people thought of me as a foreigner and accepted my differences as just a cultural thing. I don't feel that my natural way of being is abnormal, but because I don't act like the majority, I am seen as abnormal.

Answer 4/21/12 I gather that Autistic people are very lonely in society and long for other like them. So why don't they just seek out other autistic adults and have relationships with them? It seems like there are so many out there. Why bother relishing in your loneliness about being different and seek out others who are also different.

I am a Mum of a ten year old with classic autism and he is about to go to secondary school. I am thinking a lot of what the future holds for him. I have no idea what kind of life he will have. He many never be independent. I love hims so much and sometimes when people look at him strangely he doesn't really notice. Only when they don't answer him does he notice but he is really just puzzled. I notice and I just want to protect him. It frightens me when I read that autistic adults struggle so much. I have initiative and will help him find his place in the world. It doesn't have to be normal. I think its a case of creating an opportunity where he can be around others like him.


I am almost 40, and I always joke afterwards, with "going on 12". Most people think this is a charming description of a playful outlook on life, but have no idea I am serious.

Family members have been waiting and waiting for me to "grow up", or as they say "get with the program", not realizing I never will, and never wanted to or shouldn't have too.

At this point in my life they have all "given up" on me, and "written me off".... this hurts more than anyone can ever imagine. They never tried to "understand", or accept me. My entire life has revolved around their disapproval, which makes the loneliness that much greater.

I have some very good lifelong friends who are great, but no matter how long they have been there, I feel none of them, no matter how hard they try, or how much they want to, will ever really "know" me.... but at least they accept me and help me feel less like dying.

I now, to top it off, have a son, almost 8, with aspergers as well, so have to mow have my heart break watching people judge him on top of their judging me, and a boyfriend with aspergers as well.

I can feel so much of the world rolling their eyes at us, like "great" now there are two of them going nowhere.

Well, with me now shouldering the judgment, of my boyfriend and my son, and myself, life is harder instead of easier. I know some people think, well, now you aren't alone, but now I have three hearts to protect from breaking, and yes, we are all three still alone in our own way.

We are just alone together now.


Hello Mellisa (two "L's" One "S"... Interesting),

Aspergers- autism spectrum disorder, et al... Is and should be a huge PLUS for anyone affected by it (within their own head anyway). The less fortunate must sit out and use only 10 percent of their brain 'at rest' while those of us with Aspergers use most of our brain all of the time. Considering that science only knows how and why 10 percent of our brains work, the 10 percent use is much of a misnomer and confusing. Simply meaning, that technically, everyone uses ALL of their brain power (whether it is moving fluids, O2 or simply electrical impulses).

Just the same, most people (w/o brain damage or Aspergers) use less than 10 to 30 percent of their brain 'at any one time' for example: Resting and thinking is 10% for most people. 30% for those same people is while they are at work running a jackhammer and thinking about lunch, going after a cup of coffee and maintaining the need for leaving space for cream and sugar or deciding if they want to really waste $5 at Starbucks or while standing by the water cooler checking out the office people with a deviant mind or preparing for a party (had to cover bases people might comprehend).

Quick note: In someone with Aspergers, we will be thinking (while doing all of the above) about the tick tick in the car, the shoes our children are wearing, the extra "yet outgrown" children's clothes which are in perfectly good condition, from GAP and not Wallyworld (who in fact has destroyed America's economy by forcing the outsourcing of jobs and businesses so they can cut prices and drive the mom and pop stores out of business in order for their own monopoly to thrive whereby they pay very low wages and offer their employees easy access to government assistance to even out their pay rate [bet you didn't know they have that agreement with Social Security and Dept Economic Security did you?]) that we carry around in the trunk of our car or store someplace in our home waiting for the right child/family or place to give it to so we can feel better for not wasting it or giving it to someone who might sell it then but booze and drive drunk and kill someone... And then about that person's (who does not really exist except in our scenarios) mother who would miss them (both the child run down and the drunk who is now in prison during his mother's heart bypass surgery), AND for the little girls and grown women being abused by the Muslim religion, or the baby boys who have the skin on their penis removed when they have no decision on the matter all due to a religious belief that our parents might not have ever realized existed, or simply let the doctor circumcise the baby boy because that's normal Modus Operandi... At the same time watching out for people who might be in trouble or getting ready to cause trouble and the kill or maim spots we might need to apply pressure to if and when they make their move on the public whom we must defend and what we might be having for lunch or dinner and whether we really did grab the cinnamon or not.... then again, did we also grab the carrots and herbs as well... Oh look, a quarter!

BY COMPARISON (some noted above): Those of us with Aspergers use the 10% at rest PLUS another 30% to 80% (with more to spare) thinking of all sorts of issues, solutions, the past the future (rarely the present except when it involves safety and how well we look as we walk past the mirror), solving the problems of someone else...

Compared to the other end of the autistic spectrum, the same 10% is used, while another 20% to 60% is covering the wonders of their own world, fear (which burns up a lot of brain power in electrical impulse and the fight or flight syndrome). Plus the floating spots of activity that never really connects to anything, yet occasionally causes a sudden outburst of anger or depression.

An adult who knows this much can actually put their Asperger enhanced brain to better use because we are able to multi-task and think deeply about many problems and solutions simultaneously while recalling phone numbers and such from our childhood. This varies from person to person, but the potential is always there.

I just so happened to have been born with fluid/water on the brain- [which was drained by a doctor who essentially saved me from a life of diapers and drool...]

(BTW- I look normal/handsome and yes I do have somewhat of a vanity issue... But that's just me and women seem to love it)... -causing "Cerebral Parenchyma and increased bifrontal 'signals' IE. "added brain signal power!?" [because our brains will always make new paths for the electrical signals needed for normal brain function] with dilation of the frontal horns, where prominence of the sulci is very evident. meaning that what was originally thought of as brain scar tissue or dead brain matter aka "Encephalomalacia" is actually a dark spot of active brain which is the latest term the neurologists have given the portions of my brain which had died due to the hard birthing incident and a subsequent automobile accident in 1984 (NOTE: I was not born a mongoloid, but simply went through a very hard birth and oddly, I can recall and have recanted of the decades what happened on Valentines day 1966 when I was actually born on March 17, 1966 and have described it to my parents over the years and they agreed then realized, WAIT, you were born in March of 1966, not February 14th! So, if it's a soft brain issue prior to birth, then I must be a soft brained yet special kinda man who actually had Aspergers prior to birth and since I very well might become US President in 2016 *Watch for me* (we can only hope, because I have everything solved *esp the job and debt issues plus the only viable way to make certain that the corrupt politicians will get together and vote together to make this work-out... And my plans are spelled out in detail with ALL laws needed to prove they can indeed be put into play and within the Law, as such, they are ready to go and I do not play politics for either corrupt side).

See? There's a bit of the Aspergers and higher complex thinking peeking out of my mind where the brain is firing in additional areas that normally do not function as receptors, but only as "grey matter or storage for unused brain activity".. Now don't I feel special (not). So we add this "bifrontal encephalomacia" damage (the neurologists are now totally loopy with what they've discovered, even though I have already discussed it with many neurosurgeons over the past two decades, including my own neurosurgeon from Mesa, Arizona who could not figure out WHY I was not dead or in diapers after the massive head injury and intracranial hemorrhage (we're talking the part of the most critical portion of the brain that keeps us alive, IE. the Hypothalamus, Hippocampus, Pituitary and Pineal glands), along with the frontal and temporal lobes....

Most of us Asperger types like to spill our entire life story scenario and history so that people will know exactly what to expect from us and via our point of view and thus should not be shocked when they learn more about our intentions, limits (which are none) and we never lie (we refuse to lower ourselves to the point of needing to lie) because a lie is wholly improper and unnecessary (from my aspect anyhow and I know that many others share these traits. I was just blessed twice with what should have been fatal injuries to a systematic ability to solve issues with law and reasoning that other people cannot see either because they have preconceived ideas or extremely concentric thinking of which they have been awarded academic degrees for being taught and subjecting themselves to rules and regulations that even Einstein says are a huge hindrance to learning practical and applicable trades and the simple ability to study and "file away" industrious knowledge versus basic theory and hypothesis. Okay... Now I'm running off as usual with my normal over explaining things.

That's what it's like for me yet I have left out about twenty pages of details, names, facts, figures and research of my past actions that will prove that everything I have stated is absolutely true and concise. Edging slightly where a presumption of 'other people's minds and brains' when in fact, many of them are circumstance of projected subject matter (studies) for my explanation and percentage of brain usage... Sure, I probably did not need to explain that, but I do not want someone to claim I stated these facts, that can be taken out of context and disproven (by yet another theory made through a series of someone else's researched facts) when my subject matter was geared towards MY situation and the generalized yet unrecognized 'potential situation' of everyone with Aspergers Syndrome.

But I digress and I am stopping this while I have the option.


Parenting and Children
Aspergers Syndrome

Is it wise to tell secrets before marrying a person?

You really need to elaborate. What secrets are you meaning? I'm assuming it's something important to your life, not that you shoplifted candy from a store when you were 12. Some people think true love means not keeping secrets. But some secrets are not worth knowing. Does this secret pertain to your current relationship, or is a rather important part of your background (drug abuse, a previous marriage, a child?) It's up to you whether or not you should tell them. If there is a good chance they will find out, it's best to be honest right now. Finding out later will wreak havoc on your partner's trust in you. If it is a secret of your past that is not harmful to your current relationship, I would not divulge. If it's an affair you had during your current relationship, it's up to you to decide whether to tell. Stay quiet and they may never know, or it may come back to haunt you. There are no certainties. Yes, it is very wise. It is best to get everything out in the open before tying the knot. Be truthful and honest. Take it from someone who's been around the block a few times. SOME THINGS are meant to be taken to the grave. Unless it is a sexually transmitted desease he or she can get, otherwise, if it doesn't effect you both here and now and and it has nothing to do with you at this point in your life, why would you. If something a million years ago comes up and he or she doesn't like it, then they didn't love you and or they don't understand the concept of love. You can't help their immaturity. It's not your fault. Don't beat yourself up because you made a mistake or made a bad choice years back. Blah Blah Blah. For Gods sake keep your mouth shut unless every time you fight you want your "secrets" thrown in your face. Anything you say will be used against you time and time again and they will try to make you feel less of yourself for any not so lady like actions in your past. Then you need to take in to thought you might get divorced then all your secrets will be public knowledge. Do not ever give anyone anything to hold over you cause most of them will. Is it wise to tell secrets before marrying a person? Absolutely!! Tell him/her everything. It is wrong to withhold information from someone you are marrying, ceratinly you wouldn't tell everyone everything but as far as someone you are marrying is different. What are grounds for withholding vital information? Gee if you suddenly say your gay or something like that then that will ruin everything won't it?? It all depends on whther you want to tell them, don't just tell them for the sake of it. There is also a distinction between facts and opinions - opinions are purely opinions and should not be a basis of an argument or a "secret". For example you might not like your mother in law because of this and this, etc. That is a personal opinion. === === == Yes. Sound relationships are built on trust, and trust presupposes honesty. If you have something that is relevant to your future partner, tell him or her. If you hide things of importance before you marry there will be an element of dishonesty in the relationship from the outset. Don't marry with a 'guilty secret'. It's a recipe for trouble later. There is no pat answer I know of couples that have "lived together" for many years without divulging secrets. Don't you think that divulging secrets depends on the nature of those secrets? If you have been previously married you need to talk about it. If you have children from that marriage your future spouse needs to know about it. If you have a sexual desease or use drugs, better tell your future spouse. But if you're a slob, eat in between meals or are hung up on neatness, these are things that need to be adjusted once you're married. SECRETS: Some things are better left unsaid, ESPECIALLY when you have had more of a "history" than you mate has. Some tend to be judgemental and insecure.

Aspergers Syndrome

Is it Ok to tell secrets before marrying a person?

Obviously, from a biblical standpoint there is the advisement against "false witness" often seen as a prohibition against lying. So, if you go from this statement, it is wrong to hide something from someone if they ask you about it or ask you for the truth.

Do Christians--both the good and the bad--lie to their future spouses? I'd say yes on both counts. Is it wrong? It depends on the reason. Is the person lying to save themselves from censure or punishment, or are they refraining in order to spare someone's feelings? To put a classic example, if a girl you like asks if she has gained weight, and you think she has, do you "unburden" yourself and tell her this? Is it worth hurting her feelings? Or do you lie and say she looks as slim as ever?

It's wrong to hide a "secret" that has had a large impact or is current in your present life (child, drug problems, affairs, convictions, etc.) I think that hiding such things as mental illnes, severe family troubles or bad finances could cause problems in the future. And when people have admitted such problems to someone who cares for them, they often feel better because the other person supports them. But not admitting to little secrets--childhood antics, bed wetting, a humiliating nickname-- is not sinful.

Answer"Is it Ok to tell secrets before marrying a person?"

Absolutely! Tell him/her everything. It is wrong to hide you and your past from someone you are marrying and grounds for them to leave you afterwards.

AnswerIt is not only OK, I believe it is necessary if you are to have any sort of an honest relationship. I had an affair during my first marriage. It is not what ended the marriage, but it was certainly a contributing factor. I want my future husband to know everything because surely it would come out one day anyhow. If he is going to leave me, I want him to leave me before we get married, not after. And if he chooses to stay with me, knowing the worst thing I've ever done, I will thank God for this man and do everything I can to ensure we are happy for the rest of our lives.

Well that is the very best thing you can do, tell all your secrets before the marriage that is the sign of honesty and faithfulness to a [partner.

Aspergers Syndrome

Do people with Asperger's Syndrome also suffer from face blindness?

Some, but not all, people with Asperger's Syndrome (AS) suffer from face blindness (prosopagnosia), a condition in which they have difficulty with facial recognition. It is one of the conditions known to occur occasionally with autism and Asperger's Syndrome.

Some people with AS have traits that seem similar to face blindness but is not. A person with Asperger's Syndrome who avoids looking at people will have difficulty identifying them by face. A person with Asperger's Syndrome might only look at a person's mouth and not other parts of the face.

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Susan Boyle

Can people with Asperger's Syndrome sing with perfect pitch and melody like Susan Boyle?

I did not know Susan Boyle has Asperger's Syndrome, but no, we can not all sing with perfect pitch or melody. One of the things we all have in common is that we all are very different from one another.

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Is hypersexuality a part of Aspergers?

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Does it mean you have Asperger's Syndrome if you are female and fell in love with your female day-care teacher at age 6 or 7 and have never fallen in love again?


It simply means that you did not know that much better at that time in your life.


Seriously! You do not have a disorder or a disease if you have a crush on a girl!


Asperger's syndrome has nothing to do with being gay. Don't deny yourself the opportunity to be in love again. It is one of life's better choices.

Description of Asperger's Syndrome and How It Could Relate to the Question:

People with Asperger's Syndrome, an autism spectrum disorder, have difficulty functioning in social situations because they have difficulty understanding nonverbal language and might not follow expected social behavior. They might not speak or only speak on certain topics of extreme interest. They often have one or two areas of very intense interest. They often become stressed when their environment or routines are changed. They are often more sensitive to sensory stimulation (sight, sound, smell, etc.) than the typical person. They might be clumsy or "accident-prone". Asperger's Syndrome does not have anything to do with homosexuality or falling in love at a very young age.

If this person was an area of extreme interest and you tried to learn everything about her, to the point of your interest resembling stalking or an obsession - not love - it might indicate the possibility of Asperger's Syndrome or autism, but might be another condition, as well, such as infatuation. The situation as it is described does not have any association with Asperger's Syndrome or autism.

RESPONSE: In answer to your question, no asperger is a syndrome totally unrelated to what you describe. May I offer another suggestion without you taken offense to it? I think the reason you have never "fallen in love" is that you might not have anyone of your sex really attractive at least not on a deeper level. If you were 6-7 years old, you probably didn't know what love actually was and might have mistaken admiration for your teacher for love. To sum it up, maybe the reason you are not attracted to anyone is because you might not be a true lesbian. I would suggest trying the opposite sex. Its the same as a straight person for so long, suddenly becoming gay. Perhaps the same could be said with you..just the opposite. Just a suggestion...

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Can Asperger's Syndrome be prevented?

No, their is no way to prevent aspergers.

It's genetic. But it is not such a bad thing to have.

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What clinical maneuvers assist diagnosis for piriformis syndrome?

Freiberg's maneuver--an inward rotation of the thigh--stretches the piriformis muscle. In sitting patients, Pace's maneuver will elicit pain with the abduction of the affected leg.

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Is Asperger's Syndrome a mutation?

So little is known about autism and asperger's that we cannot answer this question.

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Is there a high rate of autism and Asperger's Syndrome among the Quakers?

I was just wondering the same thing. It would be wise for someone to research them as a variable for enviromental and medical factors linking to these conditions.

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What does analyze support groups mean?

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Is asperger's syndrome serious?

Well, it does exsist. However, it's not really anything totally devistating. How do I know this? I have aspergers. Basically, a person with aspergers will form completely normally, it's just the social parts of their brain are a bit unusual. All that means is they'll be socially unique :) Although some people may not like them for it, children with aspergers tend to have a higher IQ and a greater enthusiasm for life than people without aspergers. Oh, and one more thing- us aspergers kids are a bit obsessive about some of the things we like :) but NO, aspergers is not something serious. I don't think it needs medication either... they put me on medication for it once. I didn't like it at all. If you're asking this about a child, and one day some crazy psychiatrist tells you to put them on some kind of pills DON'T do that. The pills only messed me up, I can't see how it would be much different for anyone else with the same condition.

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Nikola Tesla

Did inventor Nikola Tesla have Asperger's Syndrome?

A:It is a possibility.

Nikola Tesla was an inventor and engineer who was viewed as eccentric. Some of his characteristics that could be associated with Asperger's Syndrome (AS) are a possible photographic memory, picture thinking his inventions in every detail without drawing them, fastidiousness about hygeine, not finishing college, and being reclusive. Of course, these characteristics do not mean that he had AS. Less similar to people with AS, he also had friends and made a good impression on most people when he chose to interact with them.

Tesla also had characteristics of synesthesia and obsessive-compulsive disorder.

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What sports figures have Asperger's Syndrome?

Marco Gianetti - FA football coach (b.1972)


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