How do you distinguish lust from love?

Answer 1

It can be difficult to tell at first. The surest way to find out is simply to avoid sex. If it is only lust your interest will fade. If you want to know, set yourself a time limit. Wait three months, if you are still interested then you have a good chance to develop a love relationship.

Answer 2

if he lust for another woman when you are with him...

if he campares you with other women

than he is full of lust.

The man really love you when he love you for no intentions to get something from you in return because just like the love of parent for their children, they do not get something in return when they grow their children; if so then man really love you .

Answer 3

It may be bothLove doesn't exclude lust, just the opposite: if you don't lust for her, chances are you don't love her. And lust may lead to love.

• If you still feel attracted when your lust is satisfied, then it's love. Most people confuse lust with love; the difference is that while lust is self-serving love is unlimited and unselfish..

So how can you tell the difference between lust and love? Here are a few tips to help you sort things out.

It's lust if:

• You're totally focused on her looks and body
• Even before you know her name, you're already fantasizing about what she looks like naked and what it would be like to have sex with her.
• You don't care about anything she has to say
• It wouldn't make a difference to you if you never had a conversation with her. Furthermore, you don't bother to return her calls promptly and you can easily go for days without talking to her -- until you get horny again.
• You only want to be with her to have sex
• You make excuses not to spend time with her, except for sex. And if she asks you for a favor, you tell her you're too busy. But if you have to be with her and not have sex, she gets on your nerves and you find yourself fantasizing about other women.
• After you go out trolling for tail with your buddies on Friday night, you then call her at 1 a.m. for some drunken action. Ah, the booty call.
• You leave after sex
• After having sex with her, you look for the easiest way to leave. No cuddling, no breakfast the next morning, just "I gotta go."

It's love if:

• You have great chemistry
• You get lost in your conversations, and the hours pass like minutes. You're more than willing to listen to her when she talks about her day. The chemistry between you is remarkable.
• You find her beautiful
• Even if you catch her with no makeup on and her hair pulled back while she's unclogging a toilet, she still looks beautiful to you.
• You want to spend time with her
• All you want to do is to be with her, whether you're having sex or not. Even if she tells you that sex will have to wait, you don't care.
• You see a future together
• You experience the strange feeling that your life would be totally empty without her. You tell your friends and family that she may be The One, and you're even thinking about marrying her.
• You introduce her to your family
• It becomes very important to you that your parents like her, and that she gets along with everyone close to you.
• You include her in all your plans
• Whether you're going out with your male friends or taking your dog for a walk, you want her there with you. And if she's not there, you can't get her off your mind and sneak off to give her a quick "I miss you" phone call. Of course, you don't tell your buddies.
• You are more romantic
• All of a sudden you find yourself listening to cheesy romantic songs and thinking of her. You send her flowers and love notes to work and set up romantic evenings candlelit dinners at home.
• You always take her side
• If someone says anything even slightly disparaging about her, you immediately rise to her defense. Furthermore, in social gatherings, you always agree with her even if you disagree behind closed doors.
• She makes you want to be a better man
• She challenges and motivates you. She makes you happy, and you'd do anything to make her happy.
• When it is love, you catch yourself thinking about how much fun you have with that person and when it is lust you catch yourself thinking about their body.

Love is when you care about someone more than you care about yourself.

Lust is when you want to sleep with them.

• Love is when you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, despite their weaknesses.Lust is a strong sexual attraction usually based on physical appearance. Once that physical desire ends, your interest in them may also end."Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind" --William Shakespeare Midsummer Night's Dream.

• If you love being in their presence even when nothing sexual is involved. I think that if you are with a person that you truly are in love with, lust is a natural thing that comes with it.

• Ask yourself, "If I could never have sex with this person for my whole life, would i still love this person?" Think about it.

• It's love when you rejoice for your partner's happiness, even if that means being away from you. It's lust when you rejoice for being together, even at the cost of your partner's happiness. Usually, we are somewhere in between.

• The KEY to true Love and Romance are not like recipes that you can use for that perfect relationship. That Key is unique to every couple and relates to their social cultures and values. Almost every human relationship has its ups and downs. When people can focus on the important and valuable stuff that makes it all worthwhile, rather than curse the stuff that causes pain then they are on the way to finding true Love.
• When the two of you have no problems in committing yourselves to freely demonstrate such qualities as compassion, respect, compromise and dependability, then you may have found true LOVE.
• If you love someone, you look forward every morning to waking up to seeing their face, and you genuinely care about what they have to think and say. Lust is seeing the person only for their physical attributions, and although you feel a strong attraction to them, you really don't care what they have to say or think.
• lust is when u look at her and say damn she sexy i just wanna have sex with her

Answer 4

Lust often gets mingled with infatuation. If you have just started seeing this person, chances are you're probably feeling "floaty" and really excited about them, especially if you have just started having sex with them. It's often accompanied by a feeling like that person could do no wrong because you haven't gotten to know the person's flaws yet. This is the so-called "honeymoon phase." Well, we all know that nobody is perfect and eventually you'll see that in the person in question. All it takes is some undesirable behavior exhibited by them to get you to come back to Earth in a big hurry. This is when you'll know when it's lust or love. Only you will know the answer to that when it happens. Search your feelings. If you feel a deep spiritual bond with that person then it's probably love.

Guys need to be careful when it comes to lust because it easily clouds the brain. This usually leads to kissing the chick's ass when she may not deserve it and a lack of self respect on the guy's part. Just relax and don't lose your head.

Are you able to think of this person excluding all erotic feeling and is it still so interesting that you could continuing doing this the whole day, because this person is for you the source of a deep feeling of happiness? Are you able to make a long list of his/her mistakes, read it with deep interest, because you feel in yourself the power to stimulate and even out these mistakes? Could you imagine never just being friends with this person, because each contact with him/her is better than nothing and you love without the condition of ertotic satisfaction? If all this is true, then you probably love him/her.

When you cannot do all the above, but you can say yes to the points in the following list, than you are probably in love:

• You have an extreme erotic attraction to him/her.
• The idea of marrying him/her makes you enthousiastic (even though maybe you once loved somebody more than him/her) .
• He/she is able to heart you much.
• You like his character very much. There is not many bad surprises for you in his/her behavor. This means all the time you think things like: Oh, I'm happy that he/she reacted like this in this situation; I like his/her reaction.
• You have confidence in him/her.
• You respect him/her.
• He/she makes you smile and puts you in a very positive, happy state of mind.
• You understand him/her.
• You like the idea of presenting him/her to your parents.
• He/she makes you mad.

Answer 5

Love is physical attraction and nature does take her course. Making love is the closest you can come to another person and be complete. It's about sharing and if your partner doesn't share during the sexual act then kick him/her to the curb. It's about pleasing and showing the best way you can how much you love that person. However, that doesn't mean that a woman or a man is going to want to make love all the time, and also, when we go through different stages of our lives and different ages things change a little in the sex department, but love goes on forever. Lust is when you can sleep with anyone at any time and never really care to get to know about the person you are with and don't really care to know their inner personality. A person that lusts is like a machine that performs and in their own minds think they are the greatest lover that God every graced the human race with. Then it's just raw sex. It's normal when you meet someone you care about and work up to that day/night when you will make love. The young "bee-bop" every chance they can get because of their energy and youth, while the older generation loves the person with all their heart and takes their time about such things.

Answer 6

That's a hard question to answer because we are attracted to each other physically and that doesn't mean either partner has to be a #10. In the beginning of the relationship I feel 90% is lust because that's how we can express our feelings (through sex) if we really care about that person. If you have been going together for several months or more and all this person wants to do is hit the bed everytime he/she sees you and then is off into the sunset after and never takes you out on dates, nor do they introduce you to friends or discuss what their future plans are such as career, their dreams, etc., then I'd say this person is getting a free ride and kick 'em to the curb. Good luck Merry Christmas Marcy This answer is for predicting if a guy is in lust or in love: It is lust when he just wants to have sex all the time, as simple as that. But it is love when he does the simple things like brush your hair away from your face, kisses your hand, when crossing the street goes to the side where the cars are coming from, calling you up regularly to check up on you and not call you only during the evening for a booty call, etc.

Answer 7

If you love someone you will know them, speak with them and be intimate enough with the other person to feel love between you. Infatuation is more of a yearning or a lust.

ANSWER

A Loving relationship is based on dependability, compassion, respect and compromise. If you don't share those important qualities with each other then it's just infatuation and not LOVE.

ANSWER

Basically, I see it as a 3 stages of LOVE - Lust (no love) or Infatuation (little love) and Love (some love). Loving one person requires that you know them in and out; also, that you two communicate really well. Lust is basically selfish which means you want to have sex, kiss or for any reason to satisfy yourself. Infatuation simply means you like this person without knowing them well. Love means you're willing to go a distance to help him/her. Even so, that does not mean it's love...it can still be for selfish reasons. Most relationships end because of infatuation, because the relationships do not mature. Infatuation relationships do not even turn to friends. I have better friendships with some of my female friends than my ex whom I have not spoken to for years. The second one just doesn't talk when we're on the phone so that was pure infatuation when she liked me. The bottom line is, love HAS to start right and grows through time. Imagine planting a seed with the right soil, material and sunlight. Without any one of those, the plant will only grow slowly but definitely won't flourish as you wish. I don't care how much you love your spouse but a year after marriage is no comparison with couples who has been married for 30+ years. Fact: A marriage will not last whatsoever without genuine love.

Answer 8

If you don't want a commitment it's lust, if you do care so it's love...

Answer 9

Lust leans more to the sexual aspects of a relationship Love is everything including sex

Answer 10

I don’t know if he loves me or lust for me.