Make your payments on time. Pay by check and write the case number and the date the payment covers on the check. Keep a hard copy of every payment in a file.
If the payments do not go through the court, they are not counted as being made as ordered.
Alimony payments are deductible as an above-the-line deduction on your Federal income taxes. They are reported on Line 31a of Form 1040 for 2010. Note that Line 31a also requires you to report the Social Security Number of the person you paid alimony to, because it will be considered taxable income for them. It's important to point out that child support payments are NOT deductible. So, if you are making monthly court-ordered payments that include both alimony and child support, you can only deduct the portion of those payments that are considered alimony. Usually the court order will specify these amounts.
In the US, no, a person cannot legally withhold alimony they've been ordered to pay. Of course they can petition the court to have the alimony terminated based on the fact that the recipient is living with someone else. Rather or not the court will do that, depends on the state laws.
Yes.
If you are court ordered to pay alimony, losing your job does not automatically negate that order. However, it may give you grounds to go back to the court and request a modification of the order, terminating the alimony obligation. If you are in the process of a divorce and become unemployed, it is unlikely that you will be ordered to pay alimony, but not impossible.
Your spouse has no authority to over-ride a court ordered child support.
No, you would not be responsible for your husband's alimony payments to his ex-wife if he can't pay. Your income is not considered a factor in payments. Depending on the agreement, your husband may modify the alimony payments in court if he can show proof he is unable to pay.
File a motion for contempt of court against him with the court that ordered the alimony and signed the settlement.
Spousal support payments are not a "sure thing," which is a key element in a cash settlement. While the support/alimony is court-ordered it is not guaranteed, and there is no lender or settlement company that wish to engage in chasing down a spouse to secure payments that were assigned to you. You cannot assign the payments to a lender/settlement company.
No. Alimony by definition is payment made by a spouse as ordered by the court. The "lover" has no responsibility for you. Don't even go there.
Interesting question... I would guess that the person paying the alimony could perhaps petition the court to suspend the alimony payments during the period their ex-spouse was incarcerated.
While it's not legally required to hire an attorney to enforce court-ordered alimony, having one can significantly simplify the process. An attorney can help you understand your rights, navigate the legal system, and effectively file the necessary motions. They can also represent you in court if the situation escalates. Ultimately, having legal representation can increase your chances of successfully enforcing the alimony order.