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The question I have for you is why would you want to do this? I understand that you think that this narcissist is bad news, but your question specifies the other person involved is "willing". Perhaps you do not understand the dynamics of the relationship properly. Maybe you are meddling where you shouldn't. Take a look at your reasons for doing this before proceeding. I understand what you are asking since I used to be one of those "willing" victims who was dazzled by the narcissist's charm. Lots of people did try to warn me that I was being used, but I was too much in the thrall of the narcissist. It took 8 years and 2 divorces before I came to my senses. Sadly I don't think you yourself can save the victim of a narcissist. The victim has to save themselves. You can tell them what you know during a time when they seem willing to listen, and hope they will eventually save themselves. Most do eventually get out. It is easy to get away from a narcissist once the charm wears thin and you finally see through them. The more frequently the victims hear the truth from others, the more likely they will get out sooner. When they finally do get out, they will be a lot wiser. Personal boundaries might be a good neutral topic to discuss with the victim of a narcissist, since that is one area where a narcissist runs rampant over his victim. If the victim realized how much his/her personal boundaries are being ignored, the victim could begin to put two and two together.

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Can anyone be a victim of a narcissist if NO why if YES then who?

Yes anyone can be a supply for them,anyone that is Not a narcissist ,and to be a victim you just need to be a human being with feelings.

Does narcissist regret losing their source of supply?

A narcissist does not have a conscience. They will find a new source of narcissist supply or already have another source as a back up if they no longer can obtain the fix from the current victim.

What does it say about you if you are willing to stay with a narcissist?

u love playing second fiddle

Is there a cure for narcissistic personality disorder?

There is no cure. Intensive talk therapy may help but the narcissist must recognize their problem and be willing to make changes. The problem is that by their very nature a narcissist cannot admit there is anything wrong with them or their behavior.There is no cure. Intensive talk therapy may help but the narcissist must recognize their problem and be willing to make changes. The problem is that by their very nature a narcissist cannot admit there is anything wrong with them or their behavior.There is no cure. Intensive talk therapy may help but the narcissist must recognize their problem and be willing to make changes. The problem is that by their very nature a narcissist cannot admit there is anything wrong with them or their behavior.There is no cure. Intensive talk therapy may help but the narcissist must recognize their problem and be willing to make changes. The problem is that by their very nature a narcissist cannot admit there is anything wrong with them or their behavior.

Can a Narcissist be rehabilitated?

As long as the narcissist is seeking councelling and they are WILLING to be there. They can change and make great improvements, however, they will never be normal. That is the price one pays for thinking that they are a god.

What is the draw that a Narcissist has on people?

It's not a draw -- its a lure. A predatory lure.-------------------------The narcissist uses five main tools. These are gifts, affection, withdrawal, threats and violence and in exactly this order. 1. Gifts: Gifts can be used in two ways. They can either be a symbol of submission or a symbol of demand. Free people generally do not give gifts because they have what they want and do not want to submit nor demand. The communication between the victim and the narcissist is based upon gifts. The narcissist gives gifts in order to make the victim depended. The victim in return accepts these gifts and returns far greater gifts in order to accept this submission. The altruist on the other hand simply helps but does not give gifts either. Sometimes these "gifts" can be flattery, good words, support and yes … "love." (faked of course) 2. Affection: The narcissist very early on claims soulmate-ship, special connection, ultimate love. Or he makes the victim believe these things without outright declaration. Everything seems incredible and unbelievable - a dream come true.Free people might show each other affection but generally feel comfortable with themselves. They might enjoy the company of someone but will stay focused on their own interests. The victim is needy (co-dependent) due to some childhood, current or past abuse(s). The narcissist is not needy in terms of affection but need for admiration within the group of chosen victims (his partner/spouse, family members, "friends", co-workers, VICTIMS) where the narcissist keeps his or her spider-web. However, the narcissist gives this affection in order to draw the victim into this spider web. This is a difficult time for the narcissist because the narcissist cannot be truly intimate with anyone. Ever. Hence, intimacy is replaced by sex. 3. Withdrawal: Once the victim's dependency is re-directed onto the narcissist, the narcissist begins to withdraw. Step by step the supposed closeness is disappearing. The victim experiences this as a great loss and the narcissist finds him or herself on a high. The narcissist thinks something like: "I on't have to give gifts, I don't have to show affection, and yet I am being admired." 4. Threats: The victim who remains needy is in shock that no affection is shown to him or her by the narcissist and starts to withdraw him- or herself. Now the narcissist starts to panic because the admiration seems to be diminishing and (s)he starts to threaten the victim. These threats are of the kind: "You are a liar. You said you loved me but now you obviously don't" or "if you loved me you'd believe me" or "you don't understand how bad I feel that you have withdrawn" or "if you loved me you would (something far outside the victim's comfort zone; usually sexually) Now, the narcissist resorts back to the first tools including gifts and sex and threatens that they will be withheld. Strangely enough, this has already happened but the narcissist will try to convince the victim that all is as it always used to be. In this sense these threats are imaginary only. 5. Violence: At one point the narcissist will fail to convince the victim any longer by means of persuasion, brainwashing and changed perception. Now the narcissist will resort to violence. This is the stage when abuse in the common sense takes place. This includes blocking out the victim, seducing the victim's friends, lying about the victim, rude or sarcastic comments to the victim, demanding abusive (things the victim would not normally do) sexual favors from the victim, bad mouthing, threatening them or their families or friends, hacking their email, hacking any websites, stalking them online, posting slander about them online and using the police with selective information provided by the narcissist. by Dr. Ludger Hofmann-Engl

What are the release dates for Justice - 1954 The Willing Victim 3-22?

Justice - 1954 The Willing Victim 3-22 was released on: USA: 11 March 1956

Would a narcissist empathize with his victim?

No, they could care less what they do to you. They don't have empathy! They could care less what they do to you or how they hurt you.

Does the narcissist deliberately set out to emotionally destroy his victim or is it just a by-product of their behavior?

Depends if he is also a sadist or not.

How do you cure a narcissist?

The narcissist doesnt feel like there is anything to cure! Only if they are willing to seek help is there any hope at all. Otherwise they are doomed to be miserable.

Why do some Narcissists stalk and harass while others want nothing to do with you?

Narcissists are just not a group with the same rules, but are individuals. One narcissist may stalk because he's ticked off his victim got away and this has burst his/her bubble, while another Narcissist will be on the lazy side or know he/she can land another victim quickly. They either want to get even or they have tired of their victim.

What type of personality can establish a long term relationship with a narcissist-another narcissist?

No. Two narcissists would not get along in a long term relationship since a narcissist needs to be the smartest and greatest thing going and superior to everyone else. In order to have a "long term relationship" with a narcissist you need to have the personality traits that compliment the narcissist. Your purpose in the narcissist's life would be to supply what they need. That means you need to have the following personality traits:easy to be taken advantage ofinsecure with a poor self imagea poor understanding of realitywilling to constantly feed the narcissist's ego even though your praise would be dishonestwilling to place your own needs aside and concentrate on fulfilling the needs of your narcissistwilling to be treated with disrespect and verbally abused if you have an opinion, give advice when not asked to, or disagreenever, ever criticizewilling to pick up the pieces when they fail and never mention itwilling to join in the delusional, self grandiose world inhabited by your narcissistwilling to ignore public flirting with strangers in your presence, attention getting behavior in public and rudeness in their treatment of you and othersyou need to have a thick skin

Why do narcissists lie?

If you know anything about narcissism, you will know that they all must project a morally perfect, charming, superior intellectual image to the outside world. It is behind closed doors or out of earshot of others that the truth exists. That is were the narcissist feels safe to commit his dastardly deeds. The narcissist employs multiple methods of lying to achieve his/her goal of obtaining the illusion of either perfection, authority or narcissist supply. No one must know that an insecure, angry individual, with the emotional mentality of a spoiled 6 year old, lurks beneath their thin veneer. One of the most popular methods of lying is projection. That is when they take their faults and actions and project them on another, usually unknowing, source. Either they punish the victim themselves and/or they sit back and watch, with delight, the victim be ostracized or unfairly punished by others for their own deeds. Since they have convinced others that they have no faults, but have "exposed" the victim, they will not ever be held responsible or face their own demons. The paper-thin aura of perfection is safe. Usually, once this victim has been established by the narcissist, the victim can be completely misaligned and misrepresented to the outside causing loss of self-esteem, which is the fault the narcissist wanted to project on another in the first place. Another is called "gaslighting". This is when the narcissist employs his most cunning skill. In order to weaken the victim of choice, the narcissist skillfully convinces the victim that everything that happens is really their own fault. This is used to gain complete and absolute control over the victim, again, so the truth won't come out. Hence, they won't have to accept responsibility for their actions. The victim is told that he/she is too sensitive, is incapable of understanding anything ( due to the superior intellect of the narcissist) and deny any wrong doing on the part of the narcissist by either insinuating or out and out declaring that the victim must be crazy...that there is something wrong with them. Of course, there is nothing wrong with the victim. The narcissists life is nothing but a house of cards built on lies and deception. Their worst fear, and the thing that provokes the most rage and wrath, is the truth about themselves coming out. Exposure of the narcissist, which is not for the fainthearted can be a long, constant, ongoing battle. But, if properly and carefully done, through documentation and outside collaboration ( professional and/or legal help is best), it's like putting a stake through the heart of a vampire. If you are the victim of a narcissist, the best advice is: Run!

Who is the most outrageous person in the world?

the first willing victim of Michael Jackson.

How does a narcissist react to an ex's new boyfriend?

Usually they have moved on by then and found another victim who is able to feed them the constant attention they need.

Will the narcissist leave his new girlfriend and return to ex wife?

No, but, he will likely dump the girlfriend in time and move on to another victim. Trust me.

When a narcissist is exposed will he or she still continue attacking their victim or enragingly do something more serious?

he will do something rash that might hurt himself

Is it possible to start acting like your narcissist mate if you have spent many years with him or her?

There are two types of victims .... one type is submissive and will take whatever the narcissist dishes out while the second type of victim fights back in their own way (but, of course never wins the battle with the narcissist, but certainly will win the war if they leave.) The submissive victim has a lack of self esteem, may fear confrontation or come from a family of arguing and therefore refuses to engage in fighting with their narcissistic partner and eventually the narcissist will throw them aside and go onto another victim leaving the passive victim feeling betrayed, alone, fearful and a feeling they actually deserved what they got. They are very scarred emotionally from the narcissist and will need counseling. The victim that fights back is waging a battle with no end, and only when they stand on their own two feet and end the relationship will they have won the war. These type of victims become so embroiled in the battle that they lose who they are in the process and if they end the relationship they too are scarred emotionally and become angry, can be aggressive and have picked up many traits of the narcissist. The victim has built a wall up to protect themselves and it's an impenetrable wall and thus the victim becomes hardened and they too should seek counseling to find themselves once again.

Why do some narcissist stalk certain people?

Besides the fact their emotionally unstable and immature, they see it as nothing really. Narcissist believe they deserve to do whatever immoral act their doing, they feel no shame nor pity for others. Certain people are targeted by the Narcissist because they are not like others, Narcissist want what they can't have, so they go after those who are not interested in them because they need that attention and validation from that specific person for some reason. That person that they target are not like anyone else "this is what the Narcissist believes", their victim is one of a kind and so they must pursue them nonstop and have their way. Most of the time they become infatuated with the victim and or share a strong love, hate personality towards their victim and they generally don't stop until someone gets hurt, but of course this is apart of their illness. They know what they do is wrong but they don't really care to acknowledge their behavior as bad, instead it's pointed at the victim.

What is the relationship between narcissism and co-sex dependency in regards to the victim?

None. Codependency doesn't exist in a relationship with a narcissist.They use sex to brainwash you. Read WOMEN WHO LOVE PSYCHOPATHS (the book) it will explain it all.And get away from that Narcissist ASAP and into

When a narcissist man tells you your on his back burner?

When he finds the next victim that he considers to be more attentive and attractiveas his narcissistic supply. Usually when he feels you are requiring something of him!

What is different between magic and hypnosis?

For hypnosis the "victim" must be willing to be hypnotised and magic just works.

Can a narcissist become pathologically jealous of his mate and constantly believe he is being cheated on?

A narcissist doesn't feel jealousy, but rather doesn't like losing his prey. He likes control and wants his prey back to continue to abuse and demean his victim. Narcissists have no respect for women whatsoever!

How can someone live with and modify narcissism?

Modifications are tricky and must be approached only by a mental health care professional.Be a strong and willing person, very strong. The narcissist doesnt torment everyone, if you don't want to be a victim then don't look like one or act like one.When you walk into a room, walk slowly, extend your limbs, shoulders held high and try to look relaxed. The narcissist isn't looking for a fight, or at least one he knows he cant win.

Can a victim triumph over a narcissist?

One can only be a victim of another person's narcissism if he or she allows it. The best way to deflate a narcissist is to make him appear boring or uninteresting to others. New Answer-Well i think that above answer is offensive for the victims!To begin with you dont know in the very beginning sometimes for months that you are not dealing with a person that cannot feel or relating to others as human! and no you cannot triumph over a narcissist only thing you can do is get out of the relationship if possible and please know you are not weak for believing them.YOU ONLY WIN IF YOU ARE A SURVIVOR AND FIGHT FOR WIN YOURSELF BACK !