Ignoring problems, changing his appearance, and acting distance are signs that there could be a problem in the relationship. The only way to know for sure if he wants a divorce is to talk to him about how he's feeling.
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It is quite simple. You need to tell your husband you want a divorce, and then talk to a lawyer.
Divorce is a serious thing, and there are few "tips" for it. However, make sure you have a good lawyer, talk to your husband, and try to keep the process out of the courts.
it turns him on... and if the wife wants him to talk nasty then tell him
Then I think that your marriage might be over with. I am not for sure what you are asking for in your question. Maybe you and your husband need to sit down and talk things out. See if he wants a divorce or if he is using you. I wish you the best of luck and may God Bless you:)
It is grounds for divorce. Talk to a lawyer or counsellor at a women's shelter. Cheating only demeans you, even if your husband is a jerk.
ANSWER: The only way you can do this is talk to your husband privately and calmly. Some husband might get angry or shock but his the one who betrayed you, and ruined the normal life you have with him. Tell him everything that hurt you and know how you can stand with your own feet. If not go and find a divorce lawyer so he can do what you wanted, other than that, the best way is talk.
It would probably be a good idea to ask your husband why he is going to these sites. If the answer is that he is looking to divorce you then couples counseling would be a wise next step. If your husband is unwilling to work through the problems then I would oblige him with the divorce and take myself to counseling to help deal with the pain. But keep in mind, if everything seems to be going well, he may be looking at these sites for an entirely explainable reason. Take it upon yourself to go to websites with great divorce lawyers. Ask him if he wants a divorce and then try to talk it over to see if it's possible to salvage the relationship, if that's what you want.
Talk to your attorney. There are many different methods acceptable to the court for service of papers to a missing person.
If you live in the US and your husband married you before his divorce was final, then your marriage is not legal. Go talk to an attorney and see what steps you can attempt to take to get it straightened out.
If he wants to start again maybe you should too. What age are you? Do you need him? How do you really feel? Maybe you'd be happier. No answer is going to be good for you right now. It's something you have to decide for yourself. Make sure to talk every aspect of it out with him before you make a decision.