How do you tell your friends that you are gay?

Answer 1

== == You may be surprised to find that people around you already have some idea about the situation. I would start with the people closest to you like family and dear friends. You don't have to advertise your sexual preference as this is only one facet of yourself. Being gay is not the big surprise any more than it used to be so after you're done telling your family and friends just live your life and do your thing. If you don't make a big deal of it others won't think they have to and if they don't associate with you afterwards, then it's their loss. You haven't changed anything except the fact that you made them aware personally.... Read a similar question "How do you tell your parents you are gay"in the Related Links below. How I personally "Came out" wasn't actually telling anyone. I took an oath to myself not to lie about it, and the first time it was hard. You'd be surprised how fast these things spread. It was annoying though when everyone came to me asking "Are You Gay?" A: As far as who to come out to first, if you still live with your parents, tell a couple friends first. It can sometimes be harder to come out to your family and it would make it even harder if you had to live with them while they came accustomed to the news. Have a few friends who know so that if by chance your family does not react at their best, you have a support system to fall onto.

Answer 2

OpinionFirst, you might want to determine if there is a need to tell this person. You also need to think about whether or not it is true (obviously I have no idea what your particular circumstances are). There is no easy way to tell someone about this, unless you are publicly out and comfortable. But the moment you do, it's no sweat. You might break the ice by saying something like: "I'm attracted to men [women]." You're not waffling; it just might be easier than coming out with the 'g' word. After that, the conversation will take on a life of its own.

You may be surprised to find that people around you already have some idea about the situation. I would start with the people closest to you like family and dear friends. You don't have to advertise your sexual preference as this is only one facet of yourself. Being gay is not the big surprise any more than it used to be so after you're done telling your family and friends just live your life and do your thing. If you don't make a big deal of it others won't think they have to and if they don't associate with you afterwards, then it's their loss. You haven't changed anything except the fact that you made them aware personally.

As far as who to come out to first, if you still live with your parents, tell a couple friends first. It can sometimes be harder to come out to your family and it would make it even harder if you had to live with them while they came accustomed to the news. Have a few friends who know so that if by chance your family does not react at their best, you have a support system to fall onto.

Opinion

You just sit them down, and tell them that you have a very serious issue you need to discuss. If this person is of the same sex as you do not be offended if they freak out, and think you are coming on to them. It's a natural reaction. My friend Greg came out to me about three years ago . He just didn't want me to think he was keeping something from him, or become nervous if he was hanging around a guy a lot. I had no problem with it, and although our mutual friend Ryan never spoke to Greg again the rest of my group, and I have no difference in opinion of Greg just that he likes guys instead of girls, and the chances of handsome Greg stealing my girlfriend is slightly reduced.

Opinion

How you tell can sort of depend on who you're telling. You are going to tell the extreme Christian fundamentalist cousin a little differently than the slight aquaintance who keeps asking about your dream husband/wife thinking you're straight. For the people who don't think it's a big deal in the slightest, feel free to shrug off a 'well, actually, I'm gay.' For the best friends, go with a sitdown talk. Many best friends guess before even you do; many more have no clue. So take the time to sit them down, be serious, and tell them. For that extreme Christian fundamentalist cousin you absolutely adore that just happens to be the slightest bit homophobic (While it might be hard to understand, sometimes you just HAVE to tell the person who it might seem smartest just to leave alone.) you need to do a serious sit down. And whatever you do, don't say 'I'm gay.' Trust me, that'll only work one time in a hundred. Tell them you fall in love with guys/girls (depending on who you are), stressing the love bit. Then sit back, wait for denial to hit, push them past it gently, let them get used to it (it might take a while) and if they say never bring it up again for as long as they live, ignore it. Either they love you for you, or for your straightness. That's where they need to straighten out.

Answer 3

They are so many ways of 'Coming Out of the Closet'. Different people have different situations and different needs. May I suggest you YouTube search "coming out stories", the movies on their will give you some ideas on 'Coming Out'

Answer 4

That's up to you. Tell your closest one and they will tell the rest or tell a group at the same time. If you are ready to come out, it really doesn't matter how you do it. Just make sure you are ready. You will probably be surprised by their reactions in both directions. Who supports you and who doesn't. Those that don't or can't support you are not worth worrying about. It's your life and you have to do what is right for you, not what others expect of you.

Answer 5

It definitely varies on if you are telling a parent, or a family member, or a best friend. Some find it easiest to tell someone they barley even know. Coming out can be a terrifying experience, but as soon as you have told those who are closest to you it becomes a lot easier. Sometimes in the end you'll wonder why you were so worried in the first place.

If you have other friends who have come out try talking to them about it and see what advice they can give you.

Our society has advanced so much farther it is a lot more accepting to be bi/gay/lesbian/trans/etc.

Answer 6

Question is unclear. How do you tell someone that you are Gay or Bi ? If you feel they need to know and you feel the need to tell them than you just tell them. How they will react is anyone's guess, but telling them is easy. You can explain that you are the exact same person you were before you told them, that sometimes gives them a chance to process the information or not.