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How would you know if your narcissist partner has been unfaithfull to you?
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∙ 14y ago
No chance, he will lie and lie and even if you can prove it will turn it round that you are going nuts and seeing things, but confess, no chance.
If he or she is and you can prove it, gahter ALL your evidence, then leave, for one thing is sure if you can pove it and do prove it you will have to pay the price so dont stick around afterwards.
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∙ 14y ago
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∙ 14y agoNarcissists use projection. It's a safe bet that if they are accusing you of cheating, lying, hiding, etc., they are the guilty ones.
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How do you know when your gilfriend has been unfaithfull?
If a new number is on her cell, if she makes silly excuses not to go out with you, and other signs that were not there before.
Why people are attracted to a person with narcissism?
Because you believe the best in people and take them at face value. You believe in giving praise and encouragement instead of criticism. I have been married to a narcissist. It was my second marriage and lasted 9 years and he has just cheated on me and lied to me in ways I find unbelievable. he is now busy in his new fantasy land relationship, denigrating me. Fortunately I have lots of friends who have realised what he was like and are keeping me sane. He has been through strings of relationships. I know I am fortunate I can walk away but he filled my life.On the face of it, there is no (emotional) partner or mate, who typically "binds" with a narcissist. They come in all shapes and sizes. The initial phases of attraction, infatuation and falling in love are pretty normal. The narcissist puts on his best face ? the other party is blinded by budding love. A natural selection process occurs only much later, as the relationship develops and is put to the test.Living with a narcissist can be exhilarating, is always onerous, often harrowing. Surviving a relationship with a narcissist indicates, therefore, the parameters of the personality of the survivor. She (or, more rarely, he) is moulded by the relationship into The Typical Narcissistic Mate/Partner/Spouse.First and foremost, the narcissist's partner must have a deficient or a distorted grasp of her self and of reality. Otherwise, she (or he) is bound to abandon the narcissist's ship early on. The cognitive distortion is likely to consist of belittling and demeaning herself ? while aggrandising and adoring the narcissist. The partner is, thus, placing himself in the position of the eternal victim: undeserving, punishable, a scapegoat. Sometimes, it is very important to the partner to appear moral, sacrificial and victimised. At other times, she is not even aware of this predicament. The narcissist is perceived by the partner to be a person in the position to demand these sacrifices from her partner, being superior in many ways (intellectually, emotionally, morally, financially).The status of professional victim sits well with the partner's tendency to punish herself, namely: with her masochistic streak. The tormented life with the narcissist is, as far as the partner is aware, a just punitive measure.In this respect, the partner is the mirror image of the narcissist. By maintaining a symbiotic relationship with him, by being totally dependent upon the source of masochistic supply (which the narcissist most reliably constitutes and most amply provides) ? the partner enhances certain traits and encourages certain behaviours, which are at the very core of narcissism.The narcissist is never whole without an adoring, submissive, available, self-denigrating partner. His very sense of superiority, indeed his False Self, depends on it. His sadistic Superego switches its attentions from the narcissist (in whom it often provokes suicidal ideation) to the partner, thus finally obtaining an alternative source of sadistic satisfaction.It is through self-denial that the partner survives. She denies her wishes, hopes, dreams, aspirations, sexual, psychological and material needs, and much else besides. She perceives her needs as threatening because they might engender the wrath of the narcissist's God-like supreme figure. The narcissist is rendered in her eyes even more superior through and because of this self-denial. Self-denial undertaken to facilitate and ease the life of a "great man" is more palatable. The "greater" the man (=the narcissist), the easier it is for the partner to ignore her own self, to dwindle, to degenerate, to turn into an appendix of the narcissist and, finally, to become nothing but an extension, to merge with the narcissist to the point of oblivion and of dim memories of one's self.The two collaborate in this macabre dance. The narcissist is formed by his partner inasmuch as he forms her. Submission breeds superiority and masochism breeds sadism. The relationships are characterised by rampant emergentism: roles are allocated almost from the start and any deviation meets with an aggressive, even violent reaction.The predominant state of the partner's mind is utter confusion. Even the most basic relationships ? with husband, children, or parents ? remain bafflingly obscured by the giant shadow cast by the intensive interaction with the narcissist. A suspension of judgment is part and parcel of a suspension of individuality, which is both a prerequisite to and the result of living with a narcissist. The partner no longer knows what is true and right and what is wrong and forbidden.The narcissist recreates for the partner the sort of emotional ambience that led to his own formation in the first place: capriciousness, fickleness, arbitrariness, emotional (and physical or sexual) abandonment. The world becomes uncertain and frightening and the partner has only one thing to cling to: the narcissist.And cling she does. If there is anything which can safely be said about those who emotionally team up with narcissists, it is that they are overtly and overly dependent.The partner doesn't know what to do ? and this is only too natural in the mayhem that is the relationship with the narcissist. But the typical partner also does not know what she wants and, to a large extent, who she is and what she wants to become.These unanswered questions hamper the partner's ability to gauge reality, evaluate and appraise it for what it is. Her primordial sin is that she fell in love with an image, not with a real person. It is the voiding of the image that is mourned when the relationship ends.ANSWERYou may have been raised by a narcissistic parent which makes you a magnet for them.Ive been raised by a narsistic father and mother and brother and sister!And i always seem to attract men into my life that are narcisists, and i don't get itWhy do you think if you have been raised my a narcissistic parent you become a magnet for them?? pls explaine, Ta :)
Your Narcissist ex has been in her new relationship five months and it appears to be going well and I do not understand why when our relationship failed after six months due to her lies and cheating?
Your Narcissistic ex hasn't reached the six months yet and depending on their partners personality it may take longer for that partner to have had enough of your ex and walk away or, the other partner could be a Narcissist themselves. Consider yourself lucky that you are no longer with your ex and do not mentally allow the fact your relationship only lasted five months would be a failure on your part. Consider the fact you have learned one thing from your ex .... you know what you do not want in a partner!
What traits would disprove that someone has narcissistic personality disorder?
It's difficult to prove a negative. If a narcissist finds out some of those characteristics, all he has to do is be a good actor. Not being a narcissist is the only quality one could have to prove one is not a narcissist. There is no act a person can perform or one thing a person can do that would prove once and for all that the person is not and never has been and never will be a narcissist. Yet all the same, if you are not a narcissist, other people will recognize this fact, just as if you are, that too will come to light. Empathy. Narcissist's do not posess it nor do they understand it.
If a narcissist discovers you've been talking about them and exposing them and they email wanting to know why you have been attacking them is it better to express yourself honestly or ignore them?
i would express myself honestly and state or better yet explain why i said the things i have been accused of saying or if the accusation is false i would make sure i make the narcissist understand that he or she is making a false accusation. i will furthermore ask if what was said was true and knowing that my story is backed with facts, i will ask the narcissist to prove what he or she is saying is true or false.
How can you convince a co-Narcissist to leave their Narcissist partner of 18 years?
Why in the world would one even try to give advice or suggestions to a narcissist??? If two narcissistic persons have been together 18 years, that's a record most of us can't match and I say, "Hats off to them." It's amazing they've been able to survive the extreme competition for space and attention. Makes me wonder about the agenda or motive of the one who'd try to drive a wedge in this 18 year relationship!!!! Me... I'm their daughter. My mom just found out 2 years ago that my dad was a narcissist and ever since its been hell. I want to split them up but my mom just keeps giving 2nd chances. hes ruining everyones lives. im 17 and cant even have friends over because he looks at them. its ridiculace
Would it do any good to tell the Ns girlfriend about him if she has been with him for 5 years and does have a clue about narcissism?
To get even with a narcissist, you could somehow anonymously clue her in.
My name is on a car loan and my ex partner has been treating me to damage the vehicle what should I do?
I would contact a lawyer and tell them what is going on and let them handle your ex partner
Would a narcissist that has been exposed by his good old supply maybe re contact?
I doubt it because they would probably no longer be a supply...They are only interested in those that can be manipulated and exploited again and again.
How could a person be in a relationship with a Narcissist for 20 years or more and not realize they have been dealing with and struggling with Toxic Narcissism syndrome most of that time?
Maybe the person that is a narcissist was trying to hide it.
Will a narcissist leave a virgin he has been persuing for years if she sleeps with him?
It depends if she still has any ongoing use as an aid to boosting his self(ish) image. The likelihood is that he will drop her now he has 'conquered ' her. Personally, I would question why anyone would want to let someone they consider a narcissist to get anywhere near them. I also wouldn't give in to get rid of him either - that is degrading and soul-destroying.
How does the narcissist feel when you try to make amends?
I think it feeds their narcissism. That seems to have been my experience. I have been astounded at my N's arrogance.
