If you are a teenage boy and thinking about experimenting with the same sex how could you find someone to have sex with and is it ok if you have sex with an adult?

Answer 1

OK, this is gonna sound old fashioned - but as a teenager you have bigger fish to fry than sexual experimentation. Oh, I know, your hormones are telling you otherwise, but who's the boss, your hormones or your mind? Any really GOOD relationship, hetero, homo, whatever, isn't going to happen unless you have two emotionally mature consenting adults who respect and care for each other. Concentrate on the maturity issues. One of the biggest is learning who you are and being comfortable with that. Did you know that sexuality isn't an all or nothing thing? You might be totally straight, or totally gay, or one of a million points in between. As far as the law goes, at 17 it may or may not be OK, it depends on the state. Often it is against the law and an adult engaged in a relationship can get charged with a felony and wreck the rest of his life. If that is the case, think this one through - "Do I really trust an adult who will break the law in order to get involved with me?" It's almost certain that such a person will be a user and any such relationship is going to end up being a real bummer. (oops - I hope that still means what it did in the '60s LOL!) There are a lot of people in this world that are ready to jump your bones for their own gratification. Wait until you know yourself and the other person well enough to be sure that it is a loving and mutually respectful relationship. As for doing what "feels right" -- sorry dude, really shallow. Your feelings come and go. Self respect is where it's at. Look; Do What Feels Right To You. Don't Let People Tell You To Do Because They're Not You. You Have To Follow Your Own Path And Just Do What Feels Normal Or Good To You. On How To Find Someone; I Suggest That If You Are In Highschool Starting Or Going To A Few Gay Straight Alliance Meetings. If You're Looking To Start One, Then Go To A Teacher You Trust Or The Activities Office In Your School. You Will Find Other People With Your Situation. And You Will Probably Be More Comfortable Knowing There Are People That Understand You. ==Comment== I'm very new as a moderator here, but I've already seen a lot of great answers get trashed by fools with too much free time. I locked this question because I believe this is good solid advice. If you have something else to add, contact me and I will unlock the question for you, but I won't see it destroyed by vandals.