It would be the polite thing to do.
The small card that comes with the wedding invitation you should write in it that you are sorry, but you can not attend. Then put the card in the self address envelope that already has a stamp on it and mail it off as soon as possible. If you know the person well then you could phone and let them know what you cannot attend even after sending the reply. Etiquette states if you are invited to a wedding and cannot attend you should still send a wedding gift as it is an honor to be invited to that person's wedding.
President Reagan and Nancy Reagan were invited to the royal wedding but President Reagan was unable to attend because he was still recovering from an assassination attempt. Nancy Reagan attended the royal wedding.
Personally, I would contact the bride and the groom and see whether you are still invited to the wedding. :)
I don't think you should if you weren't invited to the wedding. In polite society, gifts are NOT to be expected. If you want to send a gift it is up to you whether you get an invitation or not.
It is still considered formal to send an invitation to someone who should be invited but cannot attend.
That's totally up to you. Are you on good terms with her? I suspect you are; otherwise she would not have invited you. If you guys have remained friends after the breakup, attending her wedding seems natural. Do you still have feelings for her? Well, that's another kettle of fish. If going will make you miserable, why put yourself through that? Weddings are supposed to joyous events -- for everyone.
You can, of course, but a great deal of tact will be required since it's only human nature for those not invited to the wedding to wonder how you reached the decision to invite others and not them.On the other hand, there could be resentment if you invite friends to neither the shower nor the wedding!One idea might be to make it a special shower, maybe with champagne and good finger food, and explain privately to each person not invited to the wedding how bad you feel at not being able to fit everybody in, but there simply isn't room.Perhaps you could give them, privately again, a small gift - a keepsake - of the wedding and suggest that once you're settled following the honeymoon, you'll give a simple, intimate party just for them. Do this before the wedding, otherwise it might appear to some that you feel they're upset and are simply trying to pacify them.
You may seek special permission for him to attend the wedding while under guard, this may be a rigorous and involved process and as such, may not be doable. Alternatively, you may seek to include him in a video conference for the event, as this will still let him 'attend' and see the wedding as it occurs.
yes! It's something to be celebrated and even though they didnt invite you, you can still be polite about it.
She doesn't have to unless she's been invited by the stepdaughter herself. But if she needs to go for the sake of her husband, who is the father's daughter, then she should but limit interaction with the bride. She probably would do the bride more favor by not being there, except that people might be looking for her, than she's there and still people would talk. I think it's best that they deal with their issues first so that both of them can be comfortable at the wedding. In the end, it's the bride's call.
Ronald Regan was more popular with the Royals than the Obamas. England is still angry that the USA took it to war with Iraq (under George W. Bush in 2003). But George H.W. Bush was invited to the wedding. The above is not true. Charles and Diana's wedding was a state occasion and so other heads of state were invited. William is not yet Prince of Wales and his wedding was not a state event, it was private.
Yes, you should still send a wedding invitation to anyone who will be out of town on the day of your wedding so they have the opportunity of keeping it as a memento.