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Is it better to cause narcissistic injury by ignoring a narcissist and treating him with indifference or by sending him a poem where I criticize his skills?
Melvaughn29
In my research I have learned that the recommended approach is to ignore intead of confront. Confrontation will only invoke more rage through projection against you. The best you can hope for is that he will replace you quickly with another and leave you alone. After that you can start anew.
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What is narcissism injury?
"What is a narcissistic injury?" Whatever you internalize from his/her conduct as your fault. As guilt tripping and projecting is apart of abuse and manipulation used by abusers to weaken your sense of self and resolve. If you understand he/she owns their own conduct and self destructive behavior and remove them from the realm of your feelings the injury belongs to them and not you. Best wishes Narcissistic injury is not what the narcissist does to you, but what they think you've done to them. Criticizing the narcissists causes HUGE narcissistic injury. Ignoring a narcissist causes them injury. Failing to see them as Gods...ect. Eventually everyone will cause a narcissistic injury to a narcissist and they will devalue you.
What do you do if you have reached an impassse with your narcissistic spouse and they are prolonging the silent treatment toward you?
Go to counseling. Rejoice! And again I say, rejoice! There is no silence more golden than a narcissist's. To not have to hear that annoying voice! It is truly heaven. Let me tell you how things work with a narcissist. They come from opposite land in Bizarro universe. The only way to get a narcissist to be nice to you is to (paradoxically) treat them terribly by ignoring them entirely. If the narcissist is ignoring you, you must have done something awfully decent and nice to deserve this. Do you see the impossibility of ever successfully dealing with and having a relationship with such a person? I would say, take immediate advantage of the impasse and the resulting silence by leaving the narcissist. No matter what you do, never pay any attention to the narcissist again, and don't talk or call or write unless forced by law to do so. The narcissist will always think of you, in the Bizarro universe way, as a wonderful person and will crave your attention, which you will never give. Thus exacting justice on the narcissist while taking back your life. Too bad you have to be mean to show a narcissist how wonderful you are, but you didn't start this thing. You should be the one to end it, though.
Why is your ex narcissistic partner ignoring you after trying to contact you over and over again?
He/She gave up after several attempts to do so. And they are exes for a reason, move on.
What is the authors purpose in including the following paragraph in his argument about the dangers of human indifference to suffering?
The author includes the paragraph to evoke empathy and illustrate the devastating effects of indifference on individuals. By sharing a specific example, the author aims to emotionally connect with the audience and highlight the real-life consequences of ignoring suffering. This helps strengthen the argument by making it more relatable and impactful.
What should you do if the narcissistic ex tries to get in contact after a year of ignoring you and why would he do this?
You can, ignore, tell off, or indulge him the choice is yours. No one can answer why your ex would come back except, your ex.
What does it mean when your ex-girlfriend who you dumped and broke her heart is now ignoring you with complete indifference and is wearing new jewelry?
It means she has gotten her life together, built up her self-esteem and moved on, hooray for her!
Why does the narcissist keep re-appearing just as you start to feel better?
Narcissists often come back when they think you may have forgotten about them. Narcissists hate to get ignored and they hate to be forgotten so they could be returning just to see if you'll respond to them. It feeds their ego and gives them narcissistic supply to know you'll answer them. From my experience they just want proof that you'll still talk to them. You can't really believe anything they say so don't trust that they want to get back together or talk again. They're just lying. All they want is attention. Keep ignoring them and pretend they don't exist and you'll cause them great pain/narcissistic injury. Once you ignore them, they'll give up and find someone else.
When will a man with narcissistic personality disorder finally give up and let me go after I've been ignoring him?
We cannot actually answer this question. That depends on the individual, and how thoroughly you are ignoring him. If you give him any attention at all, he will keep coming back. Block his phone number, do not answer his attempts at communication, and do not speak to him if he approaches you. Make sure all your friends know that it's over, and that they are not to communicate with him about you either.
Should you ignore your narcissist when he is abusive?
It is important to set boundaries and prioritize your own well-being. Ignoring a narcissist's abuse can help protect your mental and emotional health. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor for guidance on how to handle the situation.
What if your boyfriend loves you still but he is ignoring you?
depends why he is ignoring you
Can a narcissist be a good parent?
Your son is likely to encounter narcissists in his future. In a way, he will be better prepared to cope with them, more alert to their existence and chicanery and more desensitized to their abuse.For this you should be grateful.There is nothing much you can do, otherwise. Stop wasting your money, time, energy and emotional resources on this intractable "problem" of how to insulate your son from his father's influence. It is a lost war, though a just cause. Instead, make yourself available to your son.The only thing you can do to prevent your son from emulating his father - is to present to him another role model of a NON-narcissist - YOU. Hopefully, when he grows up, he will prefer your model to his father's. But there is only that much you can do. You cannot control the developmental path of your son. Exerting unlimited control over your son is what narcissism is all about - and is exactly what you should avoid at all costs, however worried you might be.Narcissism does tend to breed Narcissism - but not inevitably. Not all the off-spring of a narcissist inexorably become narcissists.The Narcissistic parent regards his or her child as a multi-faceted source of Narcissistic supply. The child is considered and treated as an extension of the Narcissist's personality. It is through the child that the Narcissist seeks to settle "open accounts" with the world. The child is supposed to materialize the unfulfilled Narcissistic dreams and fantasies of the Narcissistic parent. This "Life by Proxy" can develop in two possible ways: the Narcissist can either merge with his child or be ambivalent towards him. The ambivalence is the result of a conflict between the attainment of Narcissistic goals and pathological (destructive) envy.To ameliorate the unease bred by emotional ambivalence, the Narcissist resorts to a myriad of control mechanisms. The latter can be grouped into: guilt-driven ("I sacrificed my life for you ..."), dependence-driven ("I need you, I cannot cope without you ..."), goal-driven ("We have a common goal which we must achieve") and explicit ("If you do not adhere to my principles, beliefs, ideology, religion or any other set of values � sanctions will be imposed").The exercise of control helps to sustain the illusion that the child is a part of the Narcissist. Such sustenance calls for extraordinary levels of control (on the part of the parent) and obedience (on the part of the child). The relationship is typically symbiotic and emotionally vicissitudinal and turbulent.The child fulfils another important Narcissistic function � that of Narcissistic supply. There is no denying the implied (though imaginary) immortality in having a child. The early (natural) dependence of the child serves to assuage the fear of abandonment, which is THE driving force in the Narcissist's life. The Narcissist tries to perpetuate this dependence, using the aforementioned control mechanisms. The child is the penultimate Secondary Narcissistic Source of Supply. He is present, he admires, he accumulates and remembers, owing to his wish to be loved he can be extorted into forever giving. For the Narcissist, a child is a dream come true, but only in the most egotistical sense. When the child is perceived as "reneging" on his chief duty (to provide his Narcissistic parent with constant supply of adoration) � the emotional reaction is harsh and revealing.It is when the Narcissistic parent is disenchanted with his child that we see the true nature of this pathological relationship. The child is totally objectified. The Narcissist reacts to a breach in the unwritten contract with wells of aggression and aggressive transformations: contempt, rage, emotional and psychological abuse, and even physical violence. He tries to annihilate the real child (brought to the Narcissist's awareness through the child's refusal to act as before) and substitute it with the subservient, edifying, former version.The Narcissistic parent tends to produce another Narcissist in his child. But this outcome can be effectively countered by loving, empathic, predictable, just, and positive upbringing which encourages a sense of autonomy and responsibility. Provide your child with an alternative to his father's venomous and exploitative existence. Trust your son to choose life over death, love over narcissism, human relations over narcissistic supply.I don't think so. Narcissists objectify people in general, and children the more so because they are so much more a "product" of the Narcissist and, as such, a reflection upon him. My husband believed that he loved our children, when it was creepily obvious to everyone else -- including them -- that he was "proud" of them for their charm and attractiveness as a house-proud owner is proud of his house, and that was about it. He told me that our children were his "favorites" (as opposed to the ones that he had had with previous wives). He talked about them as if they were not in the room (in glowing terms, but no less weird, for all that), and when they were old enough to see the rust beneath his shine, he went swiftly from idolizing to ignoring and demeaning them. They were never close to him during the idolizing stage, but they were hurt and bewildered when the devaluation set in. I'd say the best you can hope for is that the children retain their value to him as supply sources until they are out of the house. With you there to be the sane head in the house, they may grow up the wiser for the experience, but you can expect to add the job of referee to that of mother. I wish you well.The only way in which a narcissist can be a good parent is by setting an example of how NOT to treat one's children. The benefit of this however, is infinitesimal in comparison to the psychological damage that a narcissist does to his children. His children will grow up with a deep-seated distrust of everyone they meet. They will feel like nothing they ever do is good enough. But what they are also apt to grow up with is a dislike, even hatred, for their narcissistic parent, exactly the opposite of what the parent was trying to achieve. Narcissism is a part of the person's persona. Changing it can be more difficult than changing behavioral patterns because narcissism runs on emotions and controlling one's emotions is a difficult task at best. Not smoking a cigarette is something that can be controlled because the urge to do it precedes the actual act of smoking. Controlling emotions is infinitely more difficult because by the time one realizes that an emotion needs to be controlled, the emotion has already occured.They tend to compete with the other parent for the child's favor. While you punish, they are using it to say, "look mommy bad, daddy good. who do you like better?" They don't do what is right by their children, but do what it takes to win children's affection. This means spoiling, no rules, undermining the other parent. You must tell your narcissistic partner that they need to take charge and you need to work with them as a team. Tell them to help you make rules and both parents have to enforce them (no pitting good parent against bad parent or making other parent do all the work). Narcissist to have aggressive tendencies, so they have the strength to channel it correctly. They seem to misapply. Over punish when their own parents or neighbors are watching. But ignoring the children and letting them run amuck when nobody is watching. This really messes up kids. They need permanent boundaries. Narcissist can't supply this. Make rules with spouse in private and both agree to enfource no matter what. Don't let kids see you fighting or discussing their rules in front of them, or they will see crack of weakness to exploit.A NARCISSIST CAN HAVE SOME GOOD TRAITS AS A PARENTMy 81 yr old father is a prime example of a N, he did/does some some positive and "correct" parenting behaviours. He was always nuturing and caring if a family member was ill or injured, as a child or an adult. However, as he has stated himself to me it was his "duty" to undertake this nuturing/caring behaviour, rather than 'love' or empathy for his family members. Apart from that he's always been critical/judgemental/belittling to family members, especially me his son. = I just discovered that my father is a narcissist and have to agree that a narcissist can have some good traits. He taught me how do technical things and work hard. I have to admit I learned how not to behave around people by watching him. My mother did a good job of confirming my abilities and accomplishments when they were not "useful" to his supply. A little bit of hope for the future kept me going until I got out of the house and then life went on fairly well. They do teach you to distrust everyone, they do teach you to lie in that naricissistic way of self promotion but I did unlearn these things with time. He is a loving father but I can't let him use that against me. He does take care of his family but will always try to gain control over people when he does. Learning to say "no" helps a lot. Having other male role models is also very important, whether they are a friend in college or a friends parent. It's hard to teach the child of a naricissist that "people really do care and want to help you if they can".
Is self-centered possessiveness a narcissistic trait?
Possessiveness and self-centeredness are not the same thing. Inanimate objects serve as Sources of Narcissistic Supply. They attract people's attention and admiration. This is why narcissists are enamoured of status symbols, i.e., objects, which make others look, admire, envy, dream, compare, or aspire. Discarder narcissists do not like souvenirs and the memories they bring. They are afraid to get emotionally attached to them and then get hurt if the objects are lost or stolen or expropriated or taken by creditors. Objects, situations, voices, sights, colours
