No, absolutely not.
Abusive or not, "his" belongings are his property and so in the eyes of the law they must go back to him. Anyway, if you tried to keep them, wouldn't that just make him MORE abusive?
You should definitely go. An abusive relationship is unhealthy for you both physically and emotionally. If you continue to stay with that abusive person, you will more than likely end up being attracted to more abusive people in the future. In fact some abusive relationships can lead to suicide and/or being murdered.
Well, only you know what you did and how unforgivable it was. If there was any chance of its being abusive, then you'll need to let her go for good. Work on changing your values and get behavioral therapy before taking on a new relationship.
Well, for one, they shouldn't go back at all, and if they do, they are asking for more abuse. Women go back because they are afraid of what might happen in the longrun.
Why do you want to? That's abusive to throw someone out. It's better for you and him!
After receiving that first blow it's time to GO!
---- Call the police, if the abuse continues, then leave him and never go back. ----
Yes....GO ITALY
If you have tried to talk your friend out of going back to her abusive boyfriend then you have done all you can as a trusted and loyal friend and this means your friend is a slow learner. Just let her learn the hard way and be there when she needs a shoulder to cry on the second time around and hopefully she will get the message by then. Young woman (woman of any age) will often want to go back to their abusive boyfriend or husband because they have low self esteem.
Try to go back home with your parents....maybe
Abusers are fighters and controllers and they want that control back. They are miserable and spineless people and there is one thing they can't handle "peace in a relationship." If we need to put a label to this, abusers need psychological help, but since they refuse to admit there is anything wrong with themselves and it's everyone else's problem, then they rarely go for any treatment. He doesn't want you as his wife or best friend or even forgiveness, he wants to get back to the abusive behavior. Please leave and don't look back. IT WILL NOT GET BETTER! Because of the "Cycle of Abuse" please see the Abused Women's Center as there are excellent programs there for you to get back on your feet and tools to learn so you don't go back to your abuser or pick another abusive partner. Abusers brain-wash their victims. Good luck hon Merry Christmas Marcy Abusive husbands can be jealous of the current situation. Because he is now divorced and you are moving on, he needs someone to control and since you have taken that away, he is mad. He may feel you are still a part of him even though divorced and perhaps he does not want to move on and put the past behind him.
As you are a co owner of the house you have every right to go back and collect all your belongings, and she can not stop you.