Is it ok to allow your husband to wear panties?

This is a question about which I or, really, anyone can only give you an opinion. Mine is this: Do you, personally, care whether or not he wears them? Most men who have a bit of transvestism going on are NOT gay, and are NOT interested in sex-change operations. It's just a fetish. The issue, sometimes, with fetishes is that they can become more important than people. But not always. Do you feel this is going on in your relationship? That would be my worry. Other than that, it is up to you and the best thing to do would be the same as with most couple issues: What you don't get, discuss together and, if need be, see if you can work out a compromise.