Is it wise to give your abuser another chance?

Answer 1

• No it is not wise to go back to your abuser because they will only abuse you again and perhaps the next time around you go back to them the abuse will get worse. Abusers are generally a product of their own environment they grew up in and have most likely witnessed abuse between their parents and therefore they have carried what they have learned from the parents; plus the frustration and rage they feel within themselves onto their own relationships with the opposite sex. Abusers can be foxy with controlling their victim (and you are a victim of abuse) by sweet talking their victim; tricking the victim into thinking they are the nicest person one would want to meet, but slowly they manipulate their victim by isolating them from their family and friends and then controlling their victim by telling them what they can think; where they can go or, in many cases work their magic on their victim by verbally abusing the victim into thinking that they are less a human being; the victim loses their independence and begins to believe their abuser. If you are one of the lucky ones and managed to leave your abuser then be wise and keep moving forward and don't look back! You deserve a much better partner in your life and you can attain this if you see a counselor to learn tools so you do not choose another abusive partner because often victims of abuse choose these types of people without realizing it such as 'being looked after and feeling secure' to a myriad of other reasons.