My narcissist boyfriend had an unloving mom an alcoholic father and a terrible marriage to a woman who always cheated on him I gave him everything he never had so how could he so cruelly discard me?

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cruel boyfriendI'm sorry but, you kinda answered your own question with the question he was never shown no love nor taught how to love properly have you ever heard you can't teach an old dog new tricks answerHe may have had an unloving mother and alcoholic father but this is not what makes them N's because lots of non-narcissistic folks have this background. Also a narcissist or alot of "normal" men - you cant believe everything he tells you about his "unfaithfull" wife. N's are not capable of relating to people on a human level. This is kind of a classic with N's compaining about how unfit their ex wives were and make themselves out to be a victim. You can bet he isn't going to let on the cruel mind bending games he plays with them, how he lied to them and how cold and unfeeling he was to them. He might relate an episode about her doing such and such but what he is not telling you is the part he played, the things he did. Lastly this isn't just a narcissist thing but guys will often tell you sob stories about their past and complain about their ungratefull exes just to get you to worry about him and try harder to please him so they can better exploit - and discard you.