Alcohol and drug abuse are both serious reasons for terminating a relationship. If you care about him, you need to let him know that his behavior is destructive. You can't force him to clean up, but you can stop being the enabler. Don't let him drag YOU AND YOUR KIDS down. Get out of there.
I would call him my "exhusband".
Absolutely! The only reason why I am still with my alcoholic is because he is not verbally abusive even when I nag him... However, emotional abuse is still an issue in the end and it's about how long you are willing to deal with it. My 2 cents
Discuss it with your husband to decide if brother should be asked to leave; or if you are somewhere other than your home, if you and your husband should leave. No one has the right to interfere with your relationship with your husband (other than an abusive situation).
An abusive husband can, and probably will hide it from his neighbours. But mostly it depends on how the husband is abusing the person, and if the neighbours are snooping around or listening in. So the answer is yes, and no. If you know someone who even MIGHT be getting abused, you should contact the police. Not trying to get in your buisiness or anything. Just a suggestion. :]
People tend to say things in anger. Since your husband is abusive you should consider going to a Woman's Abuse House to find help and learn tools to cope. No one has the right to abuse the other. Your relationship is toxic and you are in control of your life and not your husband. To tell him you are going to kill him is a serious accusation and when you get to this point it's time for you to leave this abusive relationship.
Maybe you should find out first if he enjoys being kicked in the balls.
A man like this is an abusive, control freak and you should get rid of him!
You should try marriage counseling. It helped me a lot.
I'm 16yrs.old and I was never pregnant but my mom had an abusive husband and I went and stayed with my boyfriend so if you feel like you can make it living with him you should try it if not forever but at least for a little bit. If you feel like staying there with your mom and her husband is stressing you out then leave because you could hurt your baby and no pregnant person should stress
you should pick the non-pothead guy anyways if your friends really were true friends they would be happy for you and not want you to be with a pothead
The husband and wife should both go to individual therapy (not couple's counseling- that can be dangerous for someone in an abusive relationship) to help them deal with their separate issues. They can also each go to a different batterer's intervention course if they are willing.
Immediately. Reach out to a close friend or relative for help, and leave as soon as you can.