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I think it is because the person that has abused them has convinced them that they are alone and hated by everyone else so they feel they have no where to go. I think it is important for people to understand that most abusive relationships don't start that way. Abusers are usually on their best behavoir in the beginning of a relationship. Not many people would put up with them if they started with physical or emotional abuse on day 1. Abuse usually starts very very slowly and with small episodes only to escalate later on. And even when they abuse has escalated to violence, the abuser probably vascillates between violence and being on best behavoir again--promising never to do it again. The victim is stuck in a never ending cycle remembering the good times and hoping for the day the good times will be the status quo. It is hard to break from this cycle for many reasons, I would think one of the first reasons would be that considering the hell that must be to live, a person's confidence, self esteem personality etc are continuosly undermined. They may not trust their own perceptions anymore making it hard for them to have the strength to leave. Also, the abuser may have isolated the victim from the friends and family they will need to get away from the abuser. A good support system is crucial to this process I would think. The victim may be petrified to leave--the abuser may be very physically violent and the courts do not have enough in place to protect the victims--also what if the abuser is a leader in the community--a police officer--a judge etc..that would even make it harder. The victim may be financially entangled with the abuser. Relationships with shared finances are hard enough to leave without the further strss of an abusive situation. Finally, perhaps the victim and the abuser have children, or if not they share friends or work together. The victim may feel the kids were better off not coming from a "broken" home or the victim may not want to jeopardize his/her friendships or job.
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Are there cultural differences in women who stay in abusive relationships?
yes.. look into the domestic violence literature on something like PSYCHINFO through a library
What is the percentage of women that stay in abusive relationships because of their fear of being alone?
Women stay in abusive relationships for a variety of reasons, it is never that simple. They may believe that they can work through issues with their partner and the abuse will diminish. It is never easy to leave someone when the heart is entangled, just because there is abuse doesn't mean there is not love. There may be a fear of being 'alone', but it is not usually just that that keeps them. Victims of abuse often suffer from high levels of insecurity and low self-confidence which makes it easy for them to be convinced by the abuser that they are at fault for their abusive behaviour. So, often the woman may feel that if she changes her behaviour then the abuse will stop. It can become a cycle that becomes more and more abusive over time and leaves the woman feeling so hopeless that she begins to accept her partners abusive behaviour.Yes, and it also depends on the culture of the woman. In some culture women are not "allowed" or afraid to leave, it could be so that they don't bring shame to their family...a lot of times they stay for "the kids" not realizing that they do more harm to their children when they stay in an abusive relationship. Abusers also chose women that have issues, like insecurity thus making it easier for them to control the victim. Also, in this day in age, the victim is no longer just a woman, it can be a man, in the gay/lesbian community, transgender community. Rich or poor, educated or not, violence exists and I think the cycle can be broken if the children can be taken out of the violent situation in time so that their generation has a chance to make better choices and live different lives.
Is staying in abusive relationship a good idea?
You should definitely go. An abusive relationship is unhealthy for you both physically and emotionally. If you continue to stay with that abusive person, you will more than likely end up being attracted to more abusive people in the future. In fact some abusive relationships can lead to suicide and/or being murdered.
What percent of women stay in abusive relationships because of love?
None they interpret fear or Stockholm Syndrome or Traumatic Bonding or guilt as "love." It isn't any of those.
Why did it become important for victims of the Holocaust to survive the camps?
The same reason its important to survive crossing the road, because we would all like to stay alive as long as possible.ANSWER: The victims did not survive only the survivors survived.
Why do you hit people like your ex hit you and take on their behaviors even though you totally believe they are wrong. How is it that their behaviors become your behaviors that you try to get rid of?
First off 'ex' means the relationship is over! You should not even be near this person who is abusive and it's time you moved on in your life. In relationships where one is abusive it is human instinct to protect oneself and some abused victims will either stay and take that abuse silently; fight along with the abuser or leave. If you decide to stay in the relationship and have the strength to stand up to the abuser then you sink to the bottom of the barrel because you are fighting with survival instincts. Get out of this relationship!
Is it heathier not to communicate with a mother who is verbally abusive?
I've always found that it's unhealthy to stay in relationships with those who are verbally abusive. But it's equally important to learn to forgive. Forgiveness gives you freedom from bitterness. And even though you might forgive someone, they may continue to be verbally abusive. When that happens, it's better to keep short and simple contact with that person.
Why would an abusive husband be mad that you bought him an anniversary present when he hasn't even opened it and is now ignoring you?
He's abusive. You said so. He doesn't need a reason to be mad at you or hostile toward you. He's a schmuck. In today's world, there's no reason in the world why a woman should stay with an abusive lout. Leave him. Because of his abusive behavior on a normal basis you just reminded him of what a real rat he is. He isn't nice to you so he doesn't want you being nice to him. Kick this rat to the gutter!
How come women stay in relationships just because they're comfortable?
That is the exact reason women get into a relationship in the first place!
Why do you think some people do not want to help people they know in an abusive relationship?
One reason may be is that they don't know how to help. Another reason may be they are afraid to help. The power that an abuser has over the abused is frightening, both emotionally and physically. It is not unheard of that an abusive relationship can end in murder. Often times the abused person has been brainwashed into thinking they don't deserve anything better. Or they know they need help, but are too afraid to ask for it. There are professional organizations that are trained to help people get out of abusive relationships. They will offer a safe place to stay, counseling and the tools to start their life over. The abused person is the only one who can make positive steps to leave an abusive relationship. The best that family and friends can do is support that decision.
What do you do about an abusive dad I hate my life and just want to die?
don't do that be positive and stay good and just stay out of his way when his aggroLike you I had an abusive father. He got angry all the time, do you have siblings? Or a mum? My mum left him because he was abusive, when he gets angry just stay away cause he will vent. STAY AWAY WHEN HE IS ANGRY, TRY TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE, FOR A BREATHER.I warned and hoping I helped.XoXo
Why people stay in abusive families?
People stay in abusive households for a variety of reasons. They may be afraid of what will happen to them when they do leave. They may still "love" the person and will stay in hopes of them changing. They may be threatened into staying or they may believe that they have no where else to go.
