Yes, you are screwed ... you should have bought a Toyota 4-Runner!
My car is doing exactly the same thing and I have yet to solve the problem. I went to the Honda Dealer Service Dept. this morning and they couldn't successfully down-load the error data from the computer (they were having problems with their equipment and have asked me to stop by later in the day. Other postings on the web are suggesting to me that my ABS Modulator may be going out and I'd have to replace at approximately $1,500! My Pilot is a 2004 EX-L and I have had over a dozen of these types of problems ... thankfully, most of them occurred while the car was still on bumper to bumper warrenty.
To use the VTM-4 (Variable Torque Management) system on an Acura MDX, first ensure the vehicle is in "Drive" or "Reverse." The system automatically engages when needed, distributing power to the rear wheels when it detects slippage in the front wheels, providing enhanced traction. You can also manually engage the VTM-4 lock feature in certain driving conditions by pressing the VTM-4 button, which allows for a fixed torque distribution between the front and rear wheels for better control. Always refer to your owner's manual for specific instructions and recommendations based on your model year.
The VTM-4 (Variable Torque Management 4-Wheel Drive) function on an Acura MDX is typically engaged automatically when the vehicle detects wheel slip, providing power to all four wheels for improved traction. However, it can also be manually activated in specific driving conditions, such as deep snow or off-road situations, by using the VTM-4 button located near the gear shift. It's essential to refer to the owner's manual for detailed instructions and recommendations on when to use it, as well as to ensure it is not engaged on dry pavement to avoid potential driveline damage.