I know this answer without a doubt. Immediately contact your local prosecutor for the child support division, and they will not only make the employer follow the order, they will possiby make the employer pay the back amounts that they didn't take out of his check. The child support prosecutor is the first and best place to start. I know because I have been in your shoes.
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A childs mother must file a petition for child support in the local family court.
You can, but eventually the court will question what you are doing.
Most likely, his employer will not give you that information. However, your State's child support agency can subpoena it.
The parents of the deceased father (the childs grandparents) can do a paternity test.
If he's on payroll deduction, they will contact him when the former employer notifies them.
The mother needs to seek a child support order herself by filing a complaint in the local family court. The child support unit enforces child support orders issued by a family court.The child support unit can help the custodial parent in establishing and/or enforcing an order for support.
Your husband can only adopt if the girls father willingly gives up his parental rights or the court terminates them. As her dad he will pay child support until the adoption is through. Then your husband have that responsibility and parental rights just like you. So see what your ex wants. The court stops child support etc when the adoption is through.
It probably goes away--he may want to file with the court. Remember, if you have not resolved the issues that broke you up the first time, or if there is lingering resentment on this issue, your new marriage is doomed.
Provided that she actually never received it, than there's no statute of limitation on enforcing a violation of court ordered child support like there is on court ordered visitation rights. see link below
After the baby is born the father can go to court and request a paternity test. If the test confirms the father's paternity he can request custody and a visitation order and the court will establish a child support order. The mother cannot refuse to obey the court orders that establish the father's rights. If she does, she could eventually lose custody.
The childs' father, married or not. Your relationship to the father is irrelevent. The father is the first on a long list of family members. Create a living will if that is not acceptable.