Asked in Abusive Relationships and Domestic ViolenceDrug Addiction
What causes abuse?
September 13, 2011 10:21PM
Most of the people think abuses happen because of stress, jealousy, or not being able to control themselves. However, these are just myths. Abuses occur not because of anger or stress. It is all about wanting to have power and control. If the batterers are out of control, then they wouldn't be able to calm themselves down when the police arrives. They would not be able to make up stuff to deny all the blames. Abusers usually hit the victims in places that can be covered by clothes. If they are so angry and get out of control, they will not have time to think about where they should hit to not get caught. It's all about control. Truthfully, everyone is busy and stressed out over something, but not everyone use physical acts to express their stress or anger. They should never. Batterers abuse because they choose to do so. It's all about their core belief system. These people need professional help. Unless they change their core beliefs, they will keep hurting the ones they say they love.