When the wine was gone, Jesus' mother said to him, "They have no more wine."
4 "Woman,[a] why do you involve me?" Jesus replied. "My hour has not yet come."
~ John 2:3-4
Mary did not tell any one to write about Jesus.
Jesus said "Mary" to Mary when He rose from the dead:-John 209 for as yet they did not understand the Scripture, that he must rise from the dead....11 But Mary stood weeping outside the tomb, and as she wept she stooped to look into the tomb.12 And she saw two angels in white, sitting where the body of Jesus had lain, one at the head and one at the feet.13 They said to her, "Woman, why are you weeping?" She said to them, "They have taken away my Lord, and I do not know where they have laid him."14 Having said this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing, but she did not know that it was Jesus.15 Jesus said to her, "Woman, why are you weeping? Whom are you seeking?" Supposing him to be the gardener, she said to him, "Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have laid him, and I will take him away."16 Jesus said to her, "Mary." She turned and said to him in Aramaic, "Rabboni!" (which means Teacher).17 Jesus said to her, "Do not cling to me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father; but go to my brothers and say to them, 'I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.'"18 Mary Magdalene went and announced to the disciples, "I have seen the Lord"---and that he had said these things to her.
Mary was Jesus' mother... there are two Mary's though... the other one was Martha's sister... Mary was much more patient than Martha when they were preparing their house for his arrival... When Jesus was there Mary washed his feet with her best perfume while Martha stared with disbelief.
he said i love you
The disciple John was given the care of Jesus' mother.
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Listen and do what he tells you.
John 20:14, 15 - Now when she had said this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing there, and did not know that it was Jesus. Jesus said to her, "Woman, why are you weeping? Whom are you seeking?" She, supposing Him to be the gardener, said to Him, "Sir, if You have carried Him away, tell me where You have laid Him, and I will take Him away." [NKJV]The woman in this passage was Mary Magdalene (John 20:1). She mistook Jesus to be the gardener; He wasn't "pretending" to be one.
non-virgin Mary
Because God is a real living being!
The bible does not tell us, but probably she was looked after by John.
Joseph was told not to divorce Mary, as that was what he was thinking of doing.