What do you do when you were in a short term relationship with a friend fell in love with her and now she has asked for some space and told you she is not the one for you?

Answer 1

It isn't hard to look around somewhere and figure out if you do or do not belong. Though that is true, relationships can be different. You'll know if she isn't right for you when you feel it, but how will you ever know if you are right for them? Positively, she might be saying this cuz she is not strong enough as a partner to teach you the ways of the world. Perhaps she's been a outgoing girl and you haven't been around and you don't have much preference and you act as if everything is fine and you go with the motions whether they seem good or bad because you were a recluse (unsocial), homebody or a housecat for most of your life - you are probably giving her the idea that you need to see the world for yourself or experience all of this with someone who will discover these things for the first time also so you both will enjoy it the same. This would be a favor that she's doing for you (if her heart is big enough to think in such complexity). So you should break it off and thank her. Negatively, she might be using this as an excuse for something else she means (i.e., I don't want to be with you anymore) which would make her a liar (if she isn't already). In retrospect of my own life, this very thing happened to me. This girl Amy was a great girl. She said she loved me for a year and a half. Then I went to the army and I was away for six months. During that time she cheated on me and she broke up with me to be with her stoner ex. After I came back, she realized that the time went by so fast and I was back working at the same grocery store she worked at (Like I said it would be like before I left). After a miserable month of being back, she finally asked me for a second chance which I sorely gave her and it was like we started new. She grew to love me again and two months later, she hit me with, "I need some space, I don't think I'm good enough for you, I need time to think". So I gladly gave her her space and instead of telling me that there was someone else, she gone ahead and neglected my feelings to date this kid named Shane. Not knowing what to do, I asked her what was going on - she later told me that she didn't know if she loved me anymore and that we broke up when she said we were on a short break until she got her things together. So, you just have to give her her space and watch what will happen. But don't think about it too long, go out, have fun without her for a little and when you get back with her, don't be so clingy. You've only been together for a short while, it isn't love you are feeling if she doesn't love you back in the same capacity. I hope this helped.