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There are several references - the most famous being in Paul's Letter to the

Colossians 3:18 onwards...." Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favour, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord."

But, if you are a wife, don't despair (!) because, when written in context it means something very different from what you might expect.

Note that straight after the 'submit' statement for the wife, there is also a command that husbands should love their wives. In the Greek original of this letter, Paul implies that husbands should NT just be a 'lover' but should be totally self-sacrificing for their wives and never ask them to do something that they would not do anyway to please him.(Ephesians 5:22-24 )

In the Church of England 1662 wedding service, (which is still occasionally used even today) one of the vows the bride makes is to 'love, honour and obey' her husband. In return the husband has to promise to 'love, cherish - and worship' his wife. ...

Jesus made it clear that a marriage is not just a partnership. He said that the two individuals become one, and that, in Christian marriage, not even divorce (despite its legal position) should separate a man and wife married in the sight of God. So, the idea that one should be 'the boss' is not relevant. One should trust the other implicitly and the other should be selfsacrificing for the other. Do that, and that is the basis for a loving - and lasting - marriage.

In fact, the words submit and obey are completely different words (in both English and Greek). The Bible does not say that wives are to obey their husbands. That word is left for children.

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# "Love your wife as Christ loved the Church."(Ephesians 5:25) Risk your life to help or save your wife. Christ's love for the church is without limits, nothing is held back. He gave His life for the church - before you loved Him. His love does not depend on your love for Him. Under God's authority - love your wife as service--as giving your life to God. # "Love your wife in the same way you love your body and your life."(Ephesians 5:28-33) You care for your body daily to be as well fed and healthy as possible. You quickly take care of any needs or desires. Any sexual desire as a husband should be cared for with your wife. In the same way, care for your wife's needs and well being. Feel your wife's pain and illness and rejoice in her health as if it were your own life. A husband must see his wife's sexual desires and make supreme efforts to meet those needs too. Basically, her need or desire whether financial, physical, emotional or spiritual in your relationship must receive your full effort. Only in this way can you love her and provide for her just as well as you do for yourself. # "Be considerate as you live with your wife, with respect ..."(I Peter 3:7) The Bible says that if we neglect this command, our prayers will be hindered! To be considerate, quit any irritating habits! When she needs to be helped carrying heavy items, do it! If she needs time you can take care of the family! Help your wife with all of your energy, show your love to her with all consideration. Pray to see where you may be inconsiderate. # "Do not be harsh with your wife."(Colossians 3:19) When a wife is sensitive realize that harsh answers, angry looks, irritated tones of voice and impatience will deeply affect your wife. Rejoice that she is a lady and isn't like you - remember that she is a precious gift God has given you. # "The husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife."(I Corinthians 7:3-5) Please your wife physically. Don't deprive her of what she needs. Your wife may not tell you that she would like to climax during times of intimacy. Assume that she would like to orgasm and work to please her. A wife might become more active in sex if her desires were being met! Sexual pleasure is something that is given, not forced or taken. # "Rejoice in your wife all your life. Let her breasts satisfy you. Be captivated with her."(Proverbs 5:18-19) No man should look at other women or pictures of other women when he has a wife on whom he can gaze daily. The wife should of course provide for the visual needs of her husband in erotic ways. And women should strive to keep their bodies as attractive as possible. A husband should become fully satisfied with his wife's body. No matter what the size or shape, if a man will let it happen, and ask God to help him, he can grow to truly find his wife's breasts to be the most attractive in the world. This is the true spirit of being captivated with your wife. Such a wife will feel sexy, attractive, and most of all, ladylike. # "And that women may be dressed in simple clothing, with a quiet and serious air; not with vanity about her hair and gold or jewels or expensive clothing;"(1 Timothy 2:9) Encourage your wife to be modest in public and erotic in private with you. A modest woman is a lady. There is much sin and temptation that results from women showing too much skin in public. Just think of the pleasure of knowing that no one sees too much of your wife's legs but you! You will be shocked at how this one maneuver will increase your feelings of masculinity and her feelings of femininity. # "Do not be captivated by other women."(Proverbs 5:20) Finding other women attractive and looking at them will erode your own view of your wife. You will be less satisfied with her and she will feel less special to you. No man can build a habit of glances without subconsciously doing it in his wife's company. And she will notice. Remember to be captivated with your wife and no one else. She will feel like the Queen of the world and you will fall further in love with her. # "Call your wife 'blessed' and praise her."(Proverbs 31:28-29) Tell her that she is special and is greater than any other woman on earth. Don't just mention her physical beauty, but her care for you, her hard work, and her ladylike attributes. Watch the flower of your wife blossom as you repeatedly fill her ears with your praises. She longs for those words and she wants to hear them from you! Of course you don't need pride, but that does not change the wife's need and longing to be treasured. # "Tell your wife how captivated you are with her body."(Song of Solomon 4:7; 7:1-8) A true lover will make sure that his wife knows that he finds no flaw in her. God made your wife. God makes no mistakes. If you find a part of her body flawed, then it is your mind that needs to be changed. This does not let the wives off the hook to let their bodies go, but we all get old, and there is not much we can do about that! But it puts the responsibility upon the man to grow to love and express love for every part of his wife and also to respectfully and sensually tell her so. It will not help to criticize her or to be sarcastic. Think of how good she will feel when both you and she truly believe that you are enamored with every part of her! # "Honor your marriage; keep it pure by remaining true to your wife in every way."(Hebrews 13:4) Jesus says that "lustful looks are adultery."(Matthew 5:28) This is similar to "because where your treasure is there will your heart be also..."(Luke 12:34) and vice versa. Do not treasure such lustfulness in any area of life, but deny it access to you heart. Keep your marriage pure by training your heart and eyes to be true to your wife. Your marriage will reap huge benefits if you do! #* Thank the Lord for beauty and appreciate it but keep your eye, joy, mind and heart for the wife. #* Don't try to hate temptation; just be a little irritated at it, smile and turn away. # "Be thankful for your wife and realize the favor you have received from God."(Proverbs 18:22) Just think of how lonely you would be without a wife. Adam was alone and it wasn't good for him to be alone, so God gave him a wife. You have a lifetime companion, a friend, and a lover to enjoy every day. What a blessing! Thank God and pray for her daily. She is a tremendous "prize" from God. # "Be one flesh with your wife in every way."(Matthew 19:5) Enjoy life with her as if you were inseparable, but live your life thoughtfully. Long to be with her like you did when you first met. Rush home from work to her. Think about her during the day. Call her every day. Learn as a couple to agree: be like minded. Enjoy intimacy and sex often. You should have sex as often as is necessary to meet the desires of whichever spouse has the stronger sex drive, and as schedules and health permit. Spend time just talking and sharing the day's events. Show a genuine interest - listening intently - giving your full attention and eye contact. Your wife is more important than anything or anyone but Jesus Christ. Be as one with your wife. (http://www.wikihow.com/Love-Your-Wife-According-to-the-Bible)

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13y ago

God designed marriage to be in keeping with our relationship to our Creator, Jesus Christ.

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the Saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it..." (Eph.5:22-25).

"...This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church." (verse 32)

The requirement by God for women is to be "obedient" to their husbands as toward Christ.

There is no mention that the wife is supposed to "love" her husband, as it is stipulated for the husband toward his wife.

So, as far as "love, honor and obey" goes in the old marriage vows of men... God only mentions "obedience" for the wife toward her husband.

And yet... of "love, honor and obedience" - obedience is the one requirement that men have dropped from many a modern marriage promise for the wife.

Contrary to modern popular belief... God designed and created marriage... not man. The "family concept" is our first real test in the struggle of "personal relationships" that life has to teach us... so that God's gift of Eternal Life might run a lot smoother, later, for us in the Kingdom of God.

In the end... "love, honor and obedience" is every person's requirement to learn in our relationship with God... and we all need to learn to "love and honor" one another.

The Bible commands the wife to obey her husband... and the husband is to love his wife... both in relationship to Christ. In so doing, they both honor God and one another.
I think you're over thinking things a little too much

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11y ago

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The Bible doesn't really talk about 'defending anyone's honor', per se, but it DOES encourage LOVE and RESPECT. In the case of a wife, the scriptures say: "... Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her...In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.....they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church...For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh....each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself..."(Ephesians 5:25-33)

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Ephesians 5:22 says, "Wives submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord". And in verse 24, we are told, "Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything."

This does not mean the husband should lord it over his wife, as we are given direction on how to treat our wives (see verse 25 & 28). And wives should not obey their husbands in evil situations.

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it says that the husband must take care of his family for if his wife takes care of him he has dishonored his family. that's what they call mooching off your wife.

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The Holy Bible says absolutely nothing about a woman having to love her husband.

The Bible does say that a woman must submit to her husband's wishes and desires, though.

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It would never say she HAS to love her husband. You know sometimes they just don't fit together so they break up.

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genesis 10:17

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cause a men loves SEXX

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