What if you iniated a breakup first and the other agreed can you still get them back by recounciling and trying to make up with them if they accept?

Answer 1

The real question is, "Why did you initiate the breakup in the first place?" The second question is, "If the other person really loved you, why did they accept?" The best advice I can give is get to the heart of the matter before you try to reconcile. Figure out why you wanted to break up with that person in the first place. Are you afraid of commitment? Did you think the grass was greener somewhere else? Does this person not treat you the way you want to be treated and you got tired of it? Did you sense that this person didn't love you as much as you love them? The list of questions goes on and on but, deep down, in your own heart, you know what it was that led you to take this action. Figure that out first. If you've done that soul searching and you decide that you made a hasty move, that this relationship is the real deal and you want to save it, sit down and talk to your ex and put all the cards on the table (why you did what you did, why you want to make things work) and ask that person point blank if they want to be in a relationship with you. There's no maybe to this answer. Ask for clarity. Ask the person how much time they need to make a decision but set a deadline and let them know that, either way, you need to move forward. This person will let you know (whether they give you a straight answer or not) but, again, the first reql question is what made you initiate the break-up in the first place.