Tarantula Hawk
The flying insect that is black with orange bands on its body seems to be a honey bee. Honey bees are native to Southeast Asia and are so-called because of their ability to produce and store honey.
a butterfly
a dragonfly
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flys
This could be a variety of fire ant. Some Fire ants have furry bodies that are black for the most part with a bright orange section at the rear.
This criteria is a black wisdom
The insect you are describing sounds like a common flower beetle, also known as a blister beetle. They have a red or reddish-orange body with metallic black wings and do not have a stinger. These beetles can often be found around flowers feeding on pollen.
There are many insects that could have a red body with black wings. These insects include dragonflies as well as butterflies.
Maybe something like a butterfly
Hummingbird Moth
An insect that has a white body and two pairs of black square wings could be a nymph. The nymph is commonly found near vegetables.