Tarantula Hawk
The flying insect that is black with orange bands on its body seems to be a honey bee. Honey bees are native to Southeast Asia and are so-called because of their ability to produce and store honey.
a butterfly
dragonfly
a dragonfly
flys
This could be a variety of fire ant. Some Fire ants have furry bodies that are black for the most part with a bright orange section at the rear.
The insect you are describing sounds like a common flower beetle, also known as a blister beetle. They have a red or reddish-orange body with metallic black wings and do not have a stinger. These beetles can often be found around flowers feeding on pollen.
This criteria is a black wisdom
There are many insects that could have a red body with black wings. These insects include dragonflies as well as butterflies.
Maybe something like a butterfly
Hummingbird Moth
The insect you are describing sounds like a tarantula hawk wasp. Tarantula hawks are known for their black bodies, black wings, and vibrant orange or red coloration on their abdomen. They are known for their painful sting, which is used to paralyze tarantulas.