What is the other way of controlling children if not by caning?

Answer 1

• The word 'caning' is what gives 'spanking' a bad name. To hit a child with anything, but your hand is abuse. Many people are against spanking, yet parents are beginning to realize that controlled spankings (across the knee and a good flat hand on their backside) can often shorten the discipline time and get the entire household back into reasonable order. Children who continuously are into trouble; having tantrums; hitting; slapping or kicking may well have something wrong with them and a parent should take them to their doctor and discuss the matter. A child could have ADD/AHD to many other problems and the parent may well be unaware of it. If the child passes the physical then it is time to seek help from a child psychologist. Other reasons could be that parents have divorced and this is devastating to a child and they often blame themselves. Another reason is when the child starts school and doesn't feel they fit in or may be bullied. Also if there is a parent that is an alcoholic in the family it can cause a child to act out or, physical or sexual abuse by someone in the family (generally a man) can also be a reason. Before a parent decides to spank any child they should first be calm and sit the child down and if they are old enough ask them what is making them behave this way. Suggest some of the above information to them from starting school; divorce; etc. Let the child get their feelings out and if parents are always yelling; not giving their children time to explain (children do not often know why they are acting out) then they are doing their child an injustice. Children should feel they can come to a parent or parents with confidence and that the parent or parents are there to help them through some difficult times. Fear generated from a parent is not the answer as it isolates parent and child.