The role of Islamic women in marriage?

Answer 1

Answer 1

The role of Muslim women is to follow Islam teachings per Quran and Sunnah and to do all good things

"Surely, men who submit themselves to God and women who submit themselves to God, and believing men and believing women, and obedient men and obedient women, and truthful men and truthful women, and men steadfast in their faith and women steadfast, and men who are humble and women are humble, and men who give alms and women who give alms, and men who fast and women who fast, and men who guard their chastity and men who remember Allah much and women who remember..."

The passage that has just been recited was from the Holy Qur'an, the book which Muslims believe to be the word of God in its entirety, revealed to the Holy Prophet (saw). In this verse, God Almighty tells us that by following a certain way of life, both men and women can attain to the same spiritual heights. There are no doubts standards in Islam, the requirements of piety are the same: submission to God, true belief in God, obedience to God, truthfulness, steadfastness in the faith, giving alms or charity, fasting, and remaining chaste. If these conditions are met in constant remembrance of God, then both men and women can achieve nearness to God and the same spiritual status. In the Holy Qur'an, God tells us:

Whoso does good whether male or female, and is a believer, shall enter Paradise and they shall not be wronged.

Answer 2

Women are the counter part of men are equally treated. They share same duties as men and share same rights as them. Some Islamic communities deny, mistakenly, some women rights that is against Islamic teachings.

They are complementing man in duties and roles in life. They have same rights and obligations as men. They are more blessed and honored by God and prophet Muhammad (PBUH) teachings. They the right to have their own business job, money savings, properties, inherit others before and/or after marriage, and to keep her own family name. All these rights and other rights were given to women in Islam although not given by other religions until the UN issued the relevant woman human rights decrees.

Answer 3

It is rare in the west that someone should ask the Muslim woman about her opinion, experiences and feelings as she fulfills her role in life. We as human beings unfortunately tend to misjudge, that which does not meet our standards or that which we do nor understand, yet do we ever stop to think how superficial that may be? Do we ever think to look deeper and learn, and then judge? To the common lay person an uncut diamond may look like a stone, but to a jeweler it is a treasure beyond comparison. Such is Islam to a Muslim and all who care to learn. To set the stage for the subject of Islam and Women, we have to understand two basic Islamic concepts.

The status of woman in Islam is something unique, something novel, something that has no similarity in any other system.

The fact that Islam gives the woman equal rights, but recognizes her as an individual, shows that it takes her into consideration, acknowledges her, and recognizes her independent personality

What Islam has established for woman is that which suits her nature, gives her full security and protects her against disgraceful circumstances and uncertain channels of life.

God says in His Holy Book Qur'an: "Every soul will be (held) in pledge for its deeds" (Qur'an 74:38). The Qur'an also states that: "... So their Lord accepted their prayers, (saying): I will not suffer to be lost the work of any of you whether male or female. You proceed one from another..." (Qur'an 3:195).

Like everything, Islam seeks to accomplish in our lives, it harmonizes between the physical, the mental and the spiritual. In other words, it treats the individual as a total being and does not ignore part. That is why rather than push man or woman to the denial of their nature, it instructs them to take advantage, to nurture and develop what God has given to them.

God says in His Holy Book, the Qur'an: "Your Lord has decreed that you worship none save Him, and that you be kind to your parents..." (Qur'an 17:23). Moreover, the Qur'an has a special recommendation for the good treatment of mothers: "And we have enjoined upon man (to be good) to his parents: His mother bears him in weakness upon weakness..." (Qur'an 31:14).

The Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) said: "Everyone of you is shepherd and everyone of you shall be asked about those under his (or her) guard. The king is a shepherd and shall be asked about his subjects, the man is shepherd and shall be asked about his family, and the woman is a shepherdess in the house of her husband and shall be asked about those under care."

In fact, the role of mother is given a higher position in importance, in responsibility and in respect, as illustrated in the following story bout the Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him). A man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and asked him to advise him on whom should he takes into consideration. The Prophet (peace be upon him) answered "your mother", the man said "then", the Prophet (peace be upon him) said "your mother", the man said "then", the Prophet (peace be upon him) said "your mother", the man said "then", the Prophet (peace be upon him) said "your father". and yet again the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Paradise lies at the feet of mothers" which means that the woman's role as a mother is a sacred one. Islam has emphasized this fact in great fashion by instructing us to respect and care for our mothers for more than what we do for our fathers.

In the light of the important function that mother serves, Islam has gone so far as to advice parents to pay extra attention and devote time and efforts in the up bringing and raising of their daughters. The Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) said: "Whoever takes care of three daughters will enter Paradise." So a man asked how about two daughters, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said "he, too, will enter Paradise," so the man asked how about one daughter and the Prophet (peace be upon him) answered "he, too, will enter paradise."

The role of mother in Islam is so majestic and noble that women in general and mother in particular have been called the "School of the Nation". From our mothers new generations have sprung forth and from today's mothers, new generations will spring forth again. A blessing and trust given to us to nurture, protect, guide and educate. The first seeds of knowledge and the first knowledge of God is planted and developed at home under the guidance and loving care of the mother. It is a role God has gifted her with the capabilities to accomplish, the sense of giving and ability to inspire a sense of belonging.

So much can be said about the rights of women in Islam. But to be fair, we would not be talking about that if it were not for the other societies which denied women of their fair share of rights and equality. Islam gives women this fair share. It is all logical and obvious, and can be summarized on one simple statement. In the words of Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) "Women are men's mothers, sisters, and daughters"

Answer 4

As much as the men of Islam speak poetically about the numerous rights and privileges offered women, they fail to explain one crucial thing, which is where much confusion occurs between Westerners and Muslims: different but equal. The Muslim Man and the Muslim Woman have different purposes and different acts they are supposed to perform in life. A woman is expected to be more nurturing and more devoted than a man whereas a man is expected to be more learnèd and the defender of the homestead. These purposes give to men and women unique rights which the opposite gender does not have.

In the West, especially America, different but equal has the ring of segregation. In many cases when Islamic practices are determined by pre-Islamic customs such as honor killings, prohibitions from women receiving education, bans of women living freely as individuals (i.e. be with your father or your husband), and other barbaric acts (considered equally barbaric by educated Muslims), Muslims appear to have created two castes based on gender. However, in a properly-run Muslim household, the man is subservient to woman in all places where her rights prevail and the woman is subservient to the man in all places where his rights prevail, creating balance and equality, and, of course, all are subservient to will of the Most Merciful and Compassionate.

Answer 2

Islam has a vital for Muslim women in marriage.She is responsible for taking care of her husband, his possesions as well as her marriage's also has the wonderful duty of making his family life blissful in sharing responsibilities of parenting their children,being the comfort of his soul and body.Encouraging him and the children to do righteousness and forbidding that which is harmful for them in the hereafter.She is his personal advisor and shares a fair say in economic and social matters.Most misunderstand that a Muslim woman's place is just home and she is only safe and most effective in carrying out her duties at home.Islam allows a woman to work and build a career, provided her work is modest within the Islamic Law and does not upset her home duties.She may, though the situation is subjective be more successful as muslima when working than when at home.The other duties are similar to that of man like acts of worship and adherence to five pillars.She does not carry the financial responsibility of any family member or herself and that is entirely on her male relatives or the state to look after her needs.

Answer 3

The Muslim woman share with her husbands marriage responsibilities, family buildup, and children raising up. Although, per religion, basically the husband hold responsible of financial expenses but the wife can help her husband financially to her capacity. In sexual relations, they should mutually satisfy each other. The intercourse and oral sex relations should be mutually enjoyable and acceptable.

Although most of marriage roles could be common to both wife and husband, the following roles are listed as the Muslim wife roles in marriage even if some of them could fall also under husband roles in marriage.

1. Beautiful Reception. After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting

• Meet him with a cheerful face.
• Beautify and perfume yourself
• Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested
• Receive him with loving and yearning sentences
• Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.

2. Beautify and Soften the Voice

• For your husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried)

3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification

• Taking good care of your body and fitness
• Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes
• Bath regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells
• Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape
• Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoo
• Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes
• Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time
• However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course, only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.

4. Intercourse

• Hasten for intercourse when your husband feels compulsion for it.
• Keep your body clean and smelling good as possible including cleaning yourself of released fluids during intercourse.
• Exchange loving phrases with your husband.
• Leave your husband to fully satisfy his desire.
• Choose suitable times and good occasions for exciting your husband, and encouraging him to do intercourse, e.g. after returning from a travel, weekends, etc.

5. Satisfaction With What Allah (SWT) Has Allotted

• You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job.
• You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (SWT) for all that was given to you
• You should remember that real wealth lays in Iman and piety.

6. Indifference to Worldly Things

• You should not consider this world as your hope and interest
• You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things
• Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Jannah).
• Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.

7. Appreciation

• By the saying of the prophet, the majority of people in hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.
• The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways
• The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be dissappointed and will start asking himself: Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?

8. Devotion and Loyalty

• In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business, e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
• Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.

9. Compliance to Him

• In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram).
• In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant

10. Pleasing Him If He Is Angry

• First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger.
• But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:

1- If you mistaken, then apologize

2- If he mistaken then:

# Keep still instead of arguing or

# Yield you were right or

# Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.

3- If he was angry because of external reasons then:

# Keeping silent until his anger goes

# Find execuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, some one insulted him

# Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened, e.g.

1) You should tell me what happened?

2) I must know what made you so angry.

3) You are hidding something, and I have the right to know

11. Guardianship While He is Absent

• Protecting yourself from any prohibited relations
• Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don't like other people to know
• Take care of the house and children
• Take care of his money and properties
• Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijab
• Refuse people whom he does not like to come over
• Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place
• Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence

12. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends

• You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents
• You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives
• You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife
• Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
• Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.
• Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc.

13. Admirable Jealousy

• Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulating or backbiting others, disrespecting them, etc.
• You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.

14. Patience and Emotional Support

• Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
• When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.
• When facing hardships in Da'wah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested, etc.), be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of paradise.
• When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment

15. Support in Obedience to Allah, Da'wah and Jihad

• Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.* Encourage him to pray at night.
• Listen and reciting the Qur'an individually and with your husband.
• Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.
• Remember Allah SWT much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.
• Share in arranging Da'wah activities for women and children.
• Learn Islamic rules (ahkam) and good manners ('adab) for women.
• Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
• Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da'wah.
• Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah SWT.

15. Good Housekeeping

• Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged.
• Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom.
• Perfect of food and prepare healthy foods.
• Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing.
• Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.

17. Preservation of Finances and the Family

• Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
• Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.
• Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.

Answer 4

They were ordered to not tempt men.