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Answered 2015-12-14 17:34:02

Having a pair of women's underwear in his drawer is not necessarily a sign of cheating.

  • They could be yours. Maybe you or him put them in the wrong drawer when either were doing the laundry. I can't even remember every single pair of individual underwear I have.

  • He could be a secret crossdresser. This is not a sexual fetish (most of the time). It is about feeling comfortable in your own body. Instead of jumping straight to the cheating accusation, ask him calmly about them in a seemingly normal conversation. If he is a crossdresser, seek to understand crossdressing - it is not the same as transsexualism and is rarely about sex at all, it is about comfort.

  • He could have a fetish with underwear, but he doesn't want to use yours to carry out his fetish because he might be embarrassed. He could have bought them himself to enable him to carry out an underwear-related fetish.

Don't jump to conclusions with no evidence. And you won't get any evidence by being too upfront and misunderstanding about the other possible explanations.
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Answered 2017-04-14 03:45:55

Have a one on one conversation with the Counselor, and tell them of the evidence and your suspicions.

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Can you ever trust your unfaithful husband after his affair?

Trust is earned and your husband broke that bond of trust so he is going to have to earn it back. Both of you should seek marriage counseling to get to the root of why your husband thought he should cheat and the counselor can give tools for the couple to work with and strengthen their marriage. A marriage counselor is not there to blame either party, but to get you both to see the weak spots in your marriage and work on them. No, you will probably not trust your husband for cheating for awhile because trust is earned.

Do wives and husbands need to both attend marriage counseling?

For it to be considered marriage counseling, both parties need to attend. You can always get individual counseling, if your husband does not want to go.

How do you know if the man you are cheating on your husband with loves you?

Unfortunately, you will never be sure because you know cheating is wrong. Often either a female or male partner that knows that person is cheating on their spouse (even if that person is cheating on their spouse as well) will think 'if she/he cheats on her husband then she would cheat on me.' There are many men out there that take advantage of women who are lonely; feel unloved or unappreciated by their husbands. You need to mature and try and make your marriage work by seeking marriage counseling and if you do not love your husband enough to do this or at least try in your marriage you should have the courage to tell your husband you no longer love him and start divorce proceedings.

How do you react if husband caught you cheating?

You have no right or reason to react; if anyone should be reacting, it should be home. You should see a couples counselor & talk to one another to figure out if the marriage can be saved.

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Marriage Counseling is a form of psychotherapy that can help improve or save a couple’s relationship. Marital counseling sessions are typically held on a weekly basis in an outpatient setting. Providers of marital counseling include licensed psychologists, licensed clinical social workers (LCSWs), and clinicians who specialize in marriage and family therapy. Couples can get the most out of marriage counseling if they follow some important steps during the therapeutic process. Specifically, they should take time to choose a trained counselor and should make a commitment to actively participate in attend all scheduled sessions. The first and most important step is to conduct some research prior to enlisting the help of a marriage counselor. There is a plethora of marriage counselors from which to choose, and couples should select an experienced, properly trained therapist. Couples should choose a counselor who has completed an accredited program in counseling or psychotherapy, and who has several years of experience in the field of marriage counseling. It is a good idea to select a counselor who is licensed to practice psychotherapy or marriage and family therapy. Examples of licensed professionals include LSCWs, licensed psychologists, or therapists who have been credentialed by the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Once you have selected a marriage counselor and have scheduled your first session, the next important step is to make a commitment to attend scheduled sessions without fail on a regular basis. Marriage counseling is more successful when couples have continuity of care and progress can be regularly monitored. If an emergency arises and a session must be canceled, couples should give their marriage counselor as much notice as possible and reschedule the session for the next available date. A final step to undertake when engaging in marriage counseling is to be open and honest during treatment sessions. The marriage counseling process will not be effective if a husband and wife keep secrets from one another or display an unwillingness to discuss pertinent issues during the counseling session. Open communication is a key component of the counseling process and will provide the marriage counselor with valuable tools and information required to help a couple improve their relationship.

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Should I cheat also if I find my husband is cheating?

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What would you do if you caught your husband cheating?

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Would you divorce your husband if this was his first time cheating on you and told you he did it 3 or 4 times?

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Could you really trust your spouse to change if the affair he had would be his last?

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What would be a really offensive quote to tell a husband that is cheating on his wife?

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Should you get marriage counseling before getting married?

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