It does not show in the query grid. On the Append To line you can pick the fields in the destination table that you want values to be appended to. The query grid is just for specifying what fields and records you want to be added to the destination table, so it only needs to show the source table.
the lower pane in Query Design View
Yes it is.
It is known as the design grid.
At the top of the field list in the table that you see in the top half of the query design, there is a star. This represents all fields in the table. Double clicking it will add all fields. However, doing this does not actually show all the fields individually in the Design grid. You will see the name of the table followed by a dot and a star in the first column. Running the query will display all the fields. If you want to individually see all the fields, you can add them in a different way. Click on the first field in the list and then pressing the Shift key, click on the last field. Now all of them will be selected. Then just drag them down to the grid and each field will automatically be put into its own column.
Syntax
Start the new query in design view and add in the table that you want when it asks you. It will now appear in the top part of the window, above the design grid. To bring a field into the design grid, you can do a number of things. You can drag a field down and drop it into the column. You can start to type the field into the column. You can pick it from a drop down list in the column. Simplest of all, you can just double click on the field in the field list and it will be put into the design grid.
It will be added to the design grid when you double click a field list in Query Design View.
Grid
I am 99% certain it is true.
True
Usually you will be provided a table or terrain index reference points. For example with a table you will exchange the number in the grid with the letter that is above that number in the table.
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