You didn't mention what engine it has but, if you follow the positive battery cable from the battery, it will lead right to the starter.
It is attached to the starter.
YES.
The starter solenoid is attached to the starter.
On the passenger side of the engine in the back.
Should be on top of the starter - follow the + battery cable
Backside, lower, passenger side of engine.
It is on the left bottom side of the engine towards the back.
mine is located on the drivers side of the dash
On the right side valve cover.
It is attached to the starter, just follow the positive battery cable from the battery, it will lead you to the starter solenoid.
The VSS is located in the top left hand side of the transfer case.
the starter relay.