I know that the reasons why I find it difficult to get over my narcisist is that I am attempting see myself again as a beautiful attractive sexy woman whose natural instinct is to connect 'sexually' and 'intimately' with a man - I can only verbalise this now because it just went without saying before I met this narcisist. The narcisist sees a beautiful woman and leeches her beauty from her because he thinks he is seeing 'himself' - he wants to possess it and is insanely jealous of it too. He does not see that this beauty and sexuality needs to be nurtured and admired and appreciated for it to survive. He just kills it with his constant whining and self riteousness and domination until the woman's feminity dies - she becomes 'nothing' . This is the real projection from a narcisist - he is 'nothing' and he projects this onto a beautiful woman until she becomes the same - this is when they have no problem 'dumping' and moving on. Their 'food' is gone.
I cannot get over the fact that he did not nurture my beauty and sexuality and because of this he lost out on true and tremendous love and life. So did I. Why the hell would anybody want to do this? why would anyone want to kill someone elses soul and life force? When somebody does this - they kill themselves as well. Why would anybody want to exhaust somebody sense of youthfulness and fun and sexiness- it does not make sense. I know that my sexiness and attractiveness is miminised and damaged now - I still 'look' attractive but I am afraid to 'feel' attractive again. When I start to try to look after myself and give myself my fun back I get tremendous flash backs from the relatinship with him and I am afraid if I become whole again I will allow him to take it all away from me again. It is like a vicious circle
Probably not, they would fight over mirror time. ;)
You should ignore them back and be thankful you are not in their circle of victims. Get on with your life and don't fret over not getting attention from a narcissist.
Because we are men we (sometimes) want what we cant have. It's just like on TV shows where you see the Narcissistic female cheerleader have all the boys drool over her. The boys are drawn 1: By her beuty 2: Her Confidence 3: and we know she's out of our league. The reason we don't leave a narcissist is because we know that we have feeling for her, but she's just living in the moment. Narcissist have no commintment and feed off of other peoples love for them.
A borderline. Essentially a more emotionally reactive narcissist.
They sure will TRY! Two words: NO CONTACT!
Most people go through the heartache of losing someone they love whether they are a narcissist or not. Considering your ex is a narcissist you will begin to realize how lucky you were getting away from your ex. There is someone very special out there for you and fate has a way of forcing us down different roads of life to get something better in our lives. Hang on!
He is a narcissistic jerk.
Mine did. I dumped him and he blocked me from everything because I was so angry and called him names and wouldn't get over my anger. He said I hurt him because I called him a "coward", "a narcissist", "a jerk", "stupid", etc. so he blocked me completely.
call or go over and speak to him in person
Hell no unless you want to go through the pain all over again!
Because it threatens their hold over you - they have to have the "upper hand" Because it threatens their hold over you - they have to have the "upper hand"
Be careful if you do, the narcissist can be a monster to anyone who hurts their pride.