Why do good girls finish last if you've been faithful to your husband and he has cheated but comes home to work it out and is this your destiny or is there any man that can love for a lifetime?

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Don't you change yourself one bit because of this. Good girls do end up with good things in their lives. I'm 63 and I strived for that all my life, and although I sure hit some bumps in my lifetime I set a goal, stuck with it and I've ended up with a fantastic husband (was married before) and we've been married 33 years. He hasn't cheated on me once, but yes, he does like to look at a pretty woman when he sees one and I can handle that. There is no guarantee he couldn't cheat on me, but he knows me, but if he should he knows I'll knock him so hard that he'll be blinking out of the back of his head. People forget that when they meet someone they love they are walking on cloud 9. The sky is the limit and all is well. All of us forget that humans are not perfect, never will be perfect and sometimes our expectations are too high when it comes to family, friends or our mates. People are fragile and they often make mistakes. There are so many things that can go through our minds during our marriage (depending on the age) 20 - 35 years of age: Those hormones are still racing and for some men, they love "the chase" of going after some woman (some married women are like this too.) Marriage isn't what they thought it was going to be (after all, if you haven't been married before, then how would you know all about it.) They still want you, but their freedom (like spoiled children) and find it difficult to settle into responsibility. They like to go out with their buddies when they feel like it; come home from the bar when they want and gee, guess where that puts the woman? You got it! Unless a couple sits down and communicates no one is happy. 40 up: It's not called "mid-life crisis" but plain old "male menopause" with men. Oh yes, it is a scientific fact these little sweeties go through menopause but in a milder form than women. They can become moody, depressed, lethargic, antsy, etc. The biggest one at this age is ... they don't like the feeling of getting old and thus, for both men and women it's a Catch 22 as to who will cheat to prove to themselves they are still attractive enough to attract younger women or men. If older women are honest they feel the same, but many just don't act out. If people are responsible enough and have it together they know that the grass isn't always greener on the other side, and if you love your mate you know full well you could really hurt them and worse yet ... lose them! Our modern society has lost most of it's morality and that's what many younger people like about it. They can hop into bed with this partner and in a blink of an eye, in total disregard of what they are truly doing to their own dignity and reputation, not to mention the diseases they could pick up like AIDS, Herpes, etc. They feel they can cheat and really, in most cases don't care who they hurt in the process. It's become a "Me Generation." Not all of us are like that and we cling onto the old ways of treating our mates with respect and hopefully get it back. Call people like us old fashioned and "not with it", but hey, I'd rather live alone than share my man!!!! As I say to my friends at times of frustration, "The more I meet human nature, the more I love my pets." LOL If your husband has been good up until now, and just "slipped the rail" he is worth giving another chance. Don't make it easy for him to come back. Realize he's just human, he was probably so taken in with the fact another woman would want him (a boy toy) and at least he realizes he hurt you and was wrong in what he did. Of course it is going to take you quite sometime to ever trust him again. Let him know in no uncertain terms that you believe in marriage for life and you like who you are, and if he can't understand that, then hit the bricks. Tell him if he ever cheats again that you will divorce him on the spot. I think, from what you have said, and providing he hasn't cheated on you before, that he's human and it's worth giving him a chance. A couple of my friends had husbands that cheated on them just once, but realized they had made a mistake. My girlfriends took their husbands back and in time their relationship was even stronger and they are still together to this day. Again, DON'T YOU change, be who you are and proud of it and if your husband can't see how precious that is in a marriage then he deserves to be kicked to the curb. Good luck Marcy That is so true. I just got married but my husband cheated before we got married. (So think) i felt lonely and stupid. i think he will cheat again and have no trust at all. dont even try trusting him anymore. he always told me a lie. and never was truthful. so what is the difference now? i really do not believe a piece of paper will stop him. he is 26 and i am 28, with 3 kids and another on the way.