Why do men con women out of their money?

Answer 1

I don't believe this is just a "man" thing. Unfortunately people do this to other people all the time and there really is not great answer for this except for simple selfishness.

Perspective from Yoodle 1/23/09

Desperate people with arrested development, whose filters which were learned early on went dark, daft, or inwardly limiting, are looking--always--for a way OUT of their self-imposed hell. I think. I know that forgiveness is the answer for unleashing your inner passions. I know that sex, money, sentimentality, people pleasing are all ersatz passions.

How do some of us find and nurture a passion that catapults us into a dimension that feeds and sustains us in a mental-spiritual-emotional dimension, as well as with practical sustenance (house, food, friends/colleagues) while others never get going, or (worse?) are disgruntled with the "now" and enamoured of the dreams and schemes that never seem to work out?

Failures can be turning points of learning and discovery. Some folks can walk thru life SEEKING FAILURES and calling it learning and discovery (living and donating a chunk of income--like 30%-- to self-help and psychoanalysis) whereas others fall back on a different kind of motivation (materialism, control, or (finally a positive thought) cheering on and encouraging self and others with 'just the right' amount of risk and caution.

I think the con men (and women) have a preconcieved notion that others OR SOMEONE OUTSIDE THEMSELVES--has the power, wherewithall, moolah, stuff, motivation, for success, and by gosh they're out in full optimistic regalia to hitch onto someone else's success BEFORE they put forth any effort. Somewhere along the road, their efforts became worthless. And they never put forth any effort.

I guess that's what makes me mad. They never try, but always depend on external finance.

What I can't quite differentiate, though, is that some of us KNOW we need to be among desirable peers--to lean on others to exercise, learn something complex like a foreign language or philosophy or earnings plan.

Is it discipline? What is weird is that the con job has BECOME their discipline. I bring to mind Ted Bundy, who was quite intelligent, but his con job was horrific. Not money, per se, but definitely WORTH (like LIFE).

What makes man want to con another out of...life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness...money seems to be a medium of exchange for those things.